What Prefer Not To Say Really Means  

MissAnnThrope 57F
11679 posts
4/29/2006 12:26 am

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What Prefer Not To Say Really Means

We've all seen the profiles where the answers to the questions are prefer not to say. Yes, in some cases people are too lazy to fill out the information. However, in other cases, they've got everything but one or two filled out. After careful research, I have found out why they do this.

Gender: Prefer not to say = I'm gender confused.

Sexual Orientation: Prefer not to say = If it moves and has a hole, I'll fuck it.

Marital Status: Prefer not to say = Married.

Height: Prefer not to say = I'm so short, I get mistaken for a kindergartner.

Body Type: Prefer not to say = Morbidly obese.

Smoking: Prefer not to say = Chain smoker who is always going to quit tomorrow.

Drinking: Prefer not to say = I put vodka on my Wheaties in the morning.

Education: Prefer not to say = I was lucky to get out of third grade.

Race: Prefer not to say = I can't get a date with the race of my choice, so I'm going to chase them until one agrees to meet me.

Religion: Prefer not to say = I sacrifice chickens in my basement every full moon.

Have Children: Prefer not to say = Yes, they live with me and the spouse and there are at least five of them.

Want Children: Prefer not to say = I want at least a dozen, but I don't want to scare away potential mates.

Hair Color: Prefer not to say = It changes every week.

Hair Length: Prefer not to say = I shaved my head last week when I thought I wanted to join the Hare Krishnas, but then I changed my mind and I'm waiting for it to grow back.

Eye Color: Prefer not to say = I have an array of colored contact lenses.

Now for the rest, such as eyeglasses and contacts, that's a tricky one. I didn't bother answering that one because I wear glasses sometimes. Not all the time, I don't need them all the time. But to read subtitles in movies or see things far away, yes I need them. To read, I need to take them off. So for something like that, there are lots of slightly nearsighted people out there, or people who are discovering they need bifocals to read. As this isn't an option, prefer not to say is all that fits.

For things like penis size or bra size, no, I'm not going to say that it means they're flat chested or smalled dicked. In my case, unless you're going to buy me new lingerie, Aubaude bras especially, it's none of your damned business. You can look at my chest and see I have tits. I don't see what my cup size or the measurement under the breast has to do with anything. Many others on this site feel the same way, both men and women.

However, for the rest of the questions, I do hope my guide to prefer not to say helps you on your journeys.

rm_LilBlondeNZ 41F
1028 posts
4/29/2006 1:16 am


Especially "Marital Status- Prefer Not To Say" = Married.

Why don't they just put "Married?" Like you're foolin anyone, puhleeeeze... more than half this site is probably married people.

Good list!


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:11 am:
Yeah, there are quite a few married and cheating on the site, who don't get cheating is not swinging. But the ones I love are the ones who outright lie about it. Seperated when the wife isn't home. Single when she's not home. Etc.

cuteNEway 42F

4/29/2006 1:28 am

Uuummmmm doesn't everyone put vodka in their Wheaties???

tee hee

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:11 am:
Ummmmm.... No.

EroticaXTC 51F

4/29/2006 4:54 am

LOL...you're absolutely right with these...I always read between the line "prefer not to say"....but here's the ironic twist........when I reinvented myself and created this profile, I left everything "prefer not to say" my profile stays turned off mostly, since I had to create one in order to rejoin and to blog; and I'm not looking for anyone at the moment, nor do I want to be the "hunted" either
Thanks for saying what I've been thinking!

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:13 am:
Also, when people do joke profiles or lurk profiles, they use prefer not to say all the way down the line too. It's when only one or two are left out that I suspect they're hiding something.

nightstalker172 38M
1258 posts
4/29/2006 5:09 am

Yes its true...I do sacrifice chickens.....to the all mighty George Forman....I even have a George Forman Sacrificial Alter.....Its designed so that the blood just drains off into a tray

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:14 am:
You do remember proper protocol and bathe in the blood of those chickenss, right?

rm_CauseISaidSo 49F
182 posts
4/29/2006 5:17 am

Very, very funny and accurate as usual. Although I always assumed that "prefer not to say" under eye color meant I was dealing with Daddy Warbucks. (Please say that people reading that won't need an explanation!)

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:15 am:
I remember Daddy Warbucks. Then again, I'm old.

rm_VoodooGuru1 50M
2053 posts
4/29/2006 6:09 am

Agreed. Women commit the same profile sins men do, e.g., one line narratives, misspelling, Bangladeshi grammar, and lots of "Prefer not to say".

Drives me crazy when I see it under "Marital Status" or "Education", and those profiles invariably get a pass.

However, I can understand it as an answer for "Religion". Some may feel that religion has nothing to do with a prospective GF/BF or bedmate, and they're probably right. Just like if they had a box for "Political Affiliation"; unless you're someone like me, or you, or frogger, it doesn't have to matter, and it doesn't have to come up.

"Race" could also have this intentional response, but I'm thinking it would be on the profile of some tree-climbin' hairy-legged 22-yr old hippie-chick with an acquired immunity to pepper spray.

[blog CauseISaidSo] - I get it, that's quite clever.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:21 am:
See, I have found religion does have to do with things. I've met more than one Catholic or self-described Christian from this site who in spite of the nature of the site, feel condoms are a sin and not to be used. So I tend to steer clear of men whose profiles list either of those religions. I wish they did have a question for political affiliation. It's one of my favorite subjects and well, if someone is supporting the current administration, I have no use for him, as most do tend to get surly.

But you seem to be hung up on something that happened with a hairy legged granola chick. Is it story time?

NickRules999 40M
9464 posts
4/29/2006 7:36 am

I'm not sure how many guys are quick to go right to the endowment question. I left it blank coz I'm not about that. Though I wonder how many guys typed in "hung like a donkey"?

When marital status is shown as "prefer no to say", I agree, it means they're married. When someone asks someone that in the room, it seems the guy has to scramble for a response to that.

Lady A will say: Man A, why does it say "prefer not to say" under marital status?

Man A: I didn't think it was important.

Lady A: I have to assume it means you're married.

It's usually then that the guy will go in a change his profile to say that, or challenge the assumtion.

Man A: I'll change it one day. I'm not married.

Or, he'll say:

Man A: I'm married, but we're getting divorced.

Another one could be:

Man A: I'm seperated. (Another thing I've noticed women don't like. As we all know, seperated means "still married, but living in seperate places".)

I didn't bullshit when it comes to my profile. Everything I thought was vital, I put in. Except for penis size. I like to keep that a mystery. I have a rule about that: if you wanna see me, you gotta meet me. There has only been one lady who was disappointed by that rule. All others were like, "That is a good rule."

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:29 am:
I agree with your rule. I've seen more than one profile where men have dick pics that are small or average. But then when you look at their stats, they have long/thick checked off for endowment. That does tend to make me laugh. Especially since only size queens are interested in men who do have that endowment. I don't get why they think lying is going to get them anywhere.

I have to tell you, I have had that conversation with men who prefer not to say on marital status more times than I care to mention. A few reasons women steer clear of seperated men are, there's a chance they will get back with their wives and they don't always move out of the house, just into a seperate bedroom until the divorce is final. Then there's the "I'm seperated when she's not home" syndrome.

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
4/29/2006 7:41 am

I love this! This is going into my Watched Posts. You are funny and right. I agree about the bra size thing. I do, however, find it funny to look at how men describe their endowment. I mean, who are they comparing themselves to? You got the short/average, long/thick, average/average, etc. Just how many options are there????

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:31 am:
In a lot of cases, they're comparing themselves to their deluded mind. I've seen dick pics where the penis is so large, there's no way in hell I'd want that near me, yet the profile stats will say average. Then, as I mentioned before, the ones who are rather on the small side, who will over-exaggerate.

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
4/29/2006 10:03 am

And the combination of a whole list of Prefer not to says = Our ADD attention span culture has rendered me unable to focus on the written world for longer than thirty seconds.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:33 am:
Yep. But when the entire list says prefer not to say, we all naturally assume he or she is a 3' tall morbidly obese married person with a peg leg and a satanic altar in the basement.

free2chose2 67F

4/29/2006 2:47 pm

Again MissAnn-on the mark and humorous

Don't worry, be Happy

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:34 am:
Thanks free2!

AtomicArtist0 46M
6015 posts
4/29/2006 9:33 pm

This is quite accurate. My former fwb has prefer not to say for married and kids. She told me she was divorced. It was only a couple weeks after we were having sex that I found out otherwise. needless to say we're not seeing eachother anymore but not for that reason. She has a lot of other secrets.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/30/2006 9:36 am:
ACK! See, when they lie about the spouse and kids, I just figure they're lying about a bunch of other things too. Another reason to steer clear.

Koffla 61M
55163 posts
4/30/2006 3:34 pm

I agree but I have to also mention sometimes the site does mess up people profiles. I check mine sometimes since I had been a couple and also some of those prefer not to say on mine changed by the site. It is easy to update so it is no excuse for people to have those listed.


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MissAnnThrope replies on 5/1/2006 1:12 pm:
Yes, I know all too well how this site tends to mess up profiles. From losing information to accidental database deletes. However, when it's just one or two things a person leaves out, I tend to find those things suspect.

RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
4/30/2006 6:49 pm

As usual Ann, you nailed these idiots to the wall. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

MissAnnThrope replies on 5/1/2006 1:13 pm:
Thanks Joe!

lifeisablast333 55M

4/30/2006 8:22 pm

No comment...!!!...LOL the redneck

MissAnnThrope replies on 5/1/2006 1:14 pm:
So you were at the goat sacrifice this weekend too, eh?

rm_teddybare426 59M
487 posts
5/1/2006 12:05 pm

Ever wonder

If a man has all "perfer not to say", will his matches all be "perfer not to say" ?

How could you possibly know if you wanted to meet?

I suppose that would work if"willing orifice" is all one is looking for, I'd like a little more to go on.

MissAnnThrope replies on 5/1/2006 1:16 pm:
See, that's just the thing. Way too many are looking for nothing but a willing orifice. They care about nothing else, not even the person involved. They want a hooker, but they don't want to pay for one.

8337 posts
5/2/2006 8:20 pm

SoyK is correct.

AdultFriendFinder changed a few of my selections changed as well.

Changed them back, but it is more common than you think.

Alot of glitches on this site.

I do understand your point though.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

MissAnnThrope replies on 5/3/2006 1:28 am:
I'm aware of the site glitches, I'm talking about the ones who, when you ask them, they say they didn't think it was important. Or who just wanted to avoid the question. If they didn't fill in any of them, we always assume the worst.

HBowt2 60F

5/3/2006 3:24 am

You want a comment....sorry...prefer not to say....

MissAnnThrope replies on 5/3/2006 4:37 pm:
You know, we're going to have to drop the cowls and masks at the goat sacrifices. So many of you were there and I had no idea!

24 posts
6/12/2006 2:42 am

That's good information.

shylena256 43F
1967 posts
7/31/2006 1:34 am

Race: prefer not to say
It disgusts me when guys want me because of my race.
It weirds me out as much as or more so than "daddies" and so I prefer not to say.
I have had too many negative experiences with racial profiling including getting a temp nanny job once for a black family who only wanted a black nanny but were than disappointed/aghast that I couldn't do cornrows.
Now I know a lot of white chicks that can do a mean cornrow, but they didn't even ask!

MissAnnThrope replies on 8/3/2006 4:54 pm:
I was actually thinking about the men who do that. But I know what you mean. I'm a few miles from Newark and I get all sorts of guys who want to bang white women as a fetish and show us who is really in command. Um... Thanks anyway, guys.

I can't believe that about the nanny job. Not everyone can do hair. One of the reasons mine is so long is, I'm a total retard with a blow dryer. Add in a round brush and well, I have to go and get it cut out of my hair. I can do a braid, I can do a bun. That's about it. In spite of the fact I'm a white chick from NJ, where 80s big hair was invented.

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