It's 3 AM. Do You Know Where Your Video Card Is?  

MissAnnThrope 57F
11679 posts
2/21/2006 12:35 pm

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It's 3 AM. Do You Know Where Your Video Card Is?

I don't know how true this is for the men, but if you're a woman on this site, chances are you've had at least one date. If you've been on here as long as I, chances are you've had more than a few. Especially first dates. We have all had first dates, whether we meet them here or elsewhere.

There are all sorts of first dates. Good dates, bad dates, weird dates, funny dates, mercy dates, curiosity dates, depressing dates, tragic dates, dates that are total disasters, dates that end up lasting a few days, dates where we wish we believed in cell phones so we could phone a friend to get us out of them, etc. Salon used to do a column called "Heaven and Hell" where readers would send in their best and worst dates, mostly people they met online. At least once a month, various friends would ask me if I wrote a letter to them. No, I never had. And yes, I am stealing the idea from them.

A few dates from this site, good, bad, ugly, whatever, have stuck in my head. Recent and old. I'll probably do a few posts on this. But the one I'd like to start with is from three or four years ago and falls into the funny and well, something categories.

The story starts a few days in advance. I needed a 3-D video card for the computer I had, as I wanted to play "Alice." (Well, I found one that was ~supposed~ to work with my computer. I couldn't get the screws out of the slot where the card was to go, so a friend came over to help me.

Now, this friend is a computer tech. A+ certified and all of that, so he knew what he was doing. However, the computer didn't want to cooperate. After screwing around with the drivers for two hours, he finally got the card to work properly.

All was fine and dandy for two days. Then, when I booted up, I was in 16 glorious colors mode. It couldn't be fixed. OK, he was going to come back the next weekend and fix it. We emailed back and forth, with "16 Glorious Colors" as the subject line.

Well, in the middle of the week, I had a date with someone from the chat room. This was concerning some of my friends in there, as they thought he was the dangerous type. He was a raver, but he was also in the SCA. So, I didn't think he was a problem. Besides, I lived alone at the time. I ALWAYS left a note on the refrigerator saying where I was going, who I was with, their name, phone number and home address if possible. I'd also make sure someone from the room I trusted knew exactly where I was.

Well, the only ones around when the date was a definite, (we all know not to count on people from this site until the last minute, no matter how far in advance the date is made,) and the only two around I trust enough to leave the information with are in Australia and New Zealand.

They both tell me the same thing. IM them or if they're not online, call one of them. OK, no problem, their phone numbers are on the computer, in my address book. If I don't call or contact either of them when I get home and they gave me a curfew, they were calling my local cops.

So, I head off for the date. We meet in the city and have dinner. Well, this person might be a raver and all of that, but dangerous wasn't the word I'd use. Harmless fanboy is more like it. He's nervous throughout. I'm feeling more like his analyst than a date. He gives me a ride back to my car, a long ride as I was parked in NJ. That is when we finally started talking and finding common ground. We hang out in the parking lot for about an hour and talk, then he heads back to the city and I head home.

I go and turn on the computer, so I can tell these women I'm alive and well. I hit the on button, it starts to boot, then the beep code isn't right and it turns itself off. I try again. And again. And again. The same thing each time. I'm already past curfew and completely worried that they're going to call the cops. So I keep trying. After a dozen tries, I realize I can't get the video card out, to reinstall the old card. So, as it occurs to me I should call them, I realize... their phone numbers are on the computer. I can't get to them.

So, I call information for their countries. One is unlisted and the other, well, 5 other people have her first initial and last name in her town. Great...

It's now 3 AM. So, I do what anyone else would do. I know my next door neighbors, (next door being across a wide field,) would be up in a few hours. So, I wait until 7 AM, run over there, tell her the story and can I please send email from their computer? She laughs at me, says she'll keep an eye out for the cops next door while I'm downstairs emailing. I send them both emails, complete with the computer story. Later that day, I go to school to use the computers there and of course, I've got all these pithy comments about my computer and the date.

Well, long story short. It was a first and last date with that guy, although we still say hi and chat when we see each other in chat and the next day my brother in-law stopped off after work to exchange the video cards. I never got to play "Alice" or any other hot 3-D game, the cops never showed up and I learned to not keep the information of everyone I know on the computer.

NickRules999 40M
9464 posts
2/21/2006 1:47 pm

When it comes to phone numbers, I store them on my cell. I usually have my cell with me for easy access.

I had a couple dates with a girl I met on here. Led to nothing. Oh well. Fuck it.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

nightstalker172 38M
1258 posts
2/21/2006 2:52 pm

I never keep anything important on my computer Im always reformatting for something...But thats because I tinker even as I speak the case is open ...Video cards are the most common to conflict with existing hardware...Especailly if you get one of those store bought peice of crap packages where everything intergrated into the motherboard...I had a Compaq Persario ok and the Video Card was made my ATI. Well I wanted to play Neverwinter Nights and I need a better vid I installed it but see...I couldnt remove the old one because of its I disabled it...the crazy part is...when I put the new one I spent the better part of the day messing with the bios to try to get it to work....come to find it was confliting with hardware that was disabled to begin with...And the NEW video card was also made from ATI...I got it for that I wouldnt have any conflicts....Since then I build my own...I will go buy the parts and put it together myself...It can be more exspendsive in ways but I have found that its easier to upgrade this long as you buy the right parts...Anyway...see you talk computers and I get off track...Alice I hear is a good game...havent played it though...

So worst date hmmmm I would have to say it was the last girl my cousin set me up with. We did a double date with my cousin and his g/f and SHE didnt want to bowl...She just sat there while the 3 of us bowled a game...course I had to play for her too...All she did was sip her drink and eat my cheesy sticks...I ordered 2 baskets and each one comes with about a dozen cheesy sticks and I got 3 out of 24 of them...granted my cousin had some too but she had almost a basket to herself because my cousins g/f didnt eat any...So then My cousin was the only one with a car to he drove her home first. Normally I would be a gentlemen and walk her to her door...but honestly I had to restrain myself from kicking her out of the car she was a total bitch...And after the 3 of us leave to drop me off...and mind you I was alittle tipsy..not full on drunk but alittle tipsy...and my cousin says "That went well...SO do you like her" He said this sarcastically. I went on a LONG rant about how much I hated her...I dont remember everything that was said but it ended with "dont ever set me up again OK!"...yea he doesnt listen though....sigh...

pinkplaytoyz 51F

2/21/2006 3:11 pm

This was great!!LMAO...oh man, the times I've wrestled my (old) computer, just to get what I needed...

CantonOhCouple 61M/61F
553 posts
2/21/2006 5:35 pm

But ...

We wondered how reliable your friends were. Hadn't the deadline for checking "in" come and gone? For all they knew, you were being held hostage by some freak, instead of being held hostage by your video card.

8337 posts
2/21/2006 6:05 pm


How the hell did you figure a raver IT nerd would ever be your type?

That's the part that puzzles me.

You should have known better.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

MissAnnThrope 57F
11488 posts
2/22/2006 5:45 pm

shyvixen, I'm not sure I've been stood up. It's more like, "what do you mean, you don't do phone sex or cyber?" only to never hear from them again, even though a first date has been set up. When that happens, I drop a little note the night before, asking if we're still on. It never gets answered. Heh.

Nick, I don't have a cell. I have no need or reason for a cell. So, storing numbers on the computer was what worked. Now, I have a phone where I can store numbers. As long as I remember to leave it on the charger.

Dysgyzed, if I ever get a new laptop, I will have to find a copy of that. I think I just ended up giving my copy to my sister and brother in-law. This thing needs a new CPU. Or to be replaced.

nighstalker, the cards weren't soldered to the motherboard on the Packard Bell. I can't remember what it was, but there was no way to really upgrade the video card without some weird dual card thing. BTW, I don't bowl either. I think I'd be a bitch if someone took me bowling for a first date.

pink, I still have that computer, but no monitor for it. I'm lazy about getting a cord and plugging it into the laptop, to try to get everything off of it that way.

Canton, the time zone difference had something to do with that. I forget exactly why they didn't call the cops right then, but it was something like, the one convinced the other just in case I hit it off with the guy, wait until morning my time before calling the cops.

Division, simple curiosity drove me.

greatnsexy69 48M

2/22/2006 11:25 pm

I haven't dealt with 3d video cards for a while now. The only use they ever had was for games. I did pay 340 for a very popular one back in the day. I soon caught on to waiting a few months when prices were sure to come down. I never did get another video card though as I soon got very bored with Video games in general. I always like to figure out how things worked then actually playing video games. I always used walkthrus anyway, which kind of defeated the purpose of plopping down x amount of money for a video game anyway.

caressmewell 55F

2/23/2006 3:44 am

That's just to much excitement for 1 date.

nightstalker172 38M
1258 posts
2/23/2006 3:50 am

Well its not just a bowling alley it was a bar and grill too...and it really wasnt my idea...but if I ever go out to a bar with my buds I never bring my car so I had to go with the flow...Bowling isnt my favorite sport either (unless Im drunk its fun when Im drunk)...mainly because I REALLY suck at it...on a good day I bowl a 100 point game ...but it was voted on by all of us to go bowling...So if she hated bowling she could have just said so...INSTEAD of being a bitch about it...but she didnt...

MissAnnThrope 57F
11488 posts
2/24/2006 11:18 am

greatnsexy, I know what card you paid that for. One that made all of us drool back then. I still like some games, I wish my sister would return my copy of Santitorium. I never did finish playing that. But I STILL haven't played Alice. *sigh*

Caress, oh, it was after the date all the excitement happened. It's funny now, but back then, I had visions of the cops knocking on this guy's door. Especially since, a month before this date, I had gone to the movies with a friend of mine. When we got out, she had a message on her cell. Another friend of ours had stopped by my house. I had left lights and the radio on for the dog I was sitting, my car was in the driveway, the dog was barking. So, he got worried and called the cops, who showed up, but didn't break in to investigate, as they had no warrant and I wasn't gone long enough to be considered a missing person. That was fun, let me tell you. Especially since the one cop who showed was someone I had grown up with. Heh.

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