Another Bad Date Story  

MissAnnThrope 57F
11679 posts
3/24/2006 8:26 am

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Another Bad Date Story

This one is from 2003. While I'm not using his handle, this guy is about the only one I've mentioned who is still on the site.

This guy landed in chat one day and refused to leave me alone. I wasn't interested. While he didn't have one of those handles like BigDik4U2Suk, I still found his handle and his profile a turn off. However, the people in the room would NOT leave me alone, until I agreed to meet this guy. You know how that goes.

So, I agree to meet him. In Morristown. Heh. However, this time, it was during the day and we agreed to meet on the Town Green, a small park in the center of town.

Well, what I didn't realize was, the Town Green is the favorite hangout for the homeless. It had also been raining. So instead of hanging out on a bench, the homeless people were on the move, no one from the surrounding businesses were using the park and well, let's just say, I was the ONLY person in the park who wasn't homeless.

Of course, this guy was late. I know this because I was on time, he wasn't where he was supposed to be in the park. I then did a full circle of the park, went back to the monument and had to wait around for, well, a while. I was about to leave when he arrived.

He finally arrives and I barely recognized him. While he was just 27, he too had an older picture of himself up. One from several years and about 30 pounds ago. As a matter of fact, he's still using the same picture. He didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with it, as he's still the same person on the inside, right?

OK, so we head off to lunch. I let him pick the place, as it had been years since I spent any amount of time in that area. We get there, we get our menus and keep in mind, he picked the place, someplace he was familiar with. I hear, "Could you just order from the appetizer menu? I'm kind of broke." Um, sure. No problem. I was still a veghead at the time and the appetizer menu was about all I could order from.

So, we start talking. All he really wants to talk about is if I'm going to have sex with him. I manage to change the subject diplomatically, saying I would like to get to know him a bit better before making a decision like that. Now, even if I had been in danger of sleeping with him, which I wasn't, I would have gotten over it real fast.

I learned a few things. Such as, he can't stand condoms. Poor baby. Then I learned of his past heroin addiction. Heroin? Excuse me? What's that? Shared needles too?

"Oh, but that was in college. I'm clean now."

"Good to know. Do you know how lucky you are to test negative for HIV and Hep C after years of sharing needles?"

"Oh, I don't need to be tested. I know I'm clean."

That's right, folks. This guy spent years sharing needles and had never bothered to get tested for Hep C or HIV. He didn't see the point, as it was over a year ago that he did this and he doesn't have any symptoms. He's a healthy lad... Eek!

This fucktard couldn't figure out why I wouldn't have sex with him! He couldn't understand why I told him that he had to have tests and come out negative before I would even consider it! Not only that, he wouldn't let up. OK, there was only one thing to do...

I told him, since he was so gung-ho on the sex thing, that I had an idea. For a second date, how about going for testing? I would take another test with him, even though I had just had a full screening a few weeks before, during my yearly. Just to show him how there was nothing to it and how simple it was to get tested.

Needless to say, he stood me up for that second date. Like I didn't expect it when I suggested it. Oh, he also ran like a scared rabbit every time he saw me in the room after that, too. Heh.

That was when I decided meeting anyone from the northern suburbs in Morristown was a very bad idea.

haversack_smith 41M
6192 posts
3/24/2006 3:56 pm

Some people are just unbelievably stupid. Literally. If I saw something like that on TV, I'd immediately turn over because I'd think the writer were trying too hard to be funny, it's just not realistic. Fact is truly stranger than fiction.

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 10:29 am:
Oh, there are some winners running around on this site, let me tell you.

popmuse01 36F

3/24/2006 4:14 pm

Yikes...that sounds strangely like a guy that I met through another dating site who hated condoms and believed that he could sleep around anytime he wanted, but his women couldn't, but that he'd never been tested and 'knew' he was clean cuz his women were.

It also seems like they tend to come out of the woods in droves LOL.

I'm leaving the site end of March. To those who want to keep in touch, see blog for details.

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 10:32 am:
There tend to be lots of people, both men and women like that everywhere. I know it's not just this site. I love the guys who automatically assume every woman in the world can take the pill. Some of us can't, based on family history alone. Then you throw in the other factors. Yeah, I want high blood pressure leading to a stroke or heart attack, simply so you can bareback me, pal. Right.

8337 posts
3/24/2006 6:28 pm


And I always thought the suburbs were a peaceful place to meet nice, clean, well mannered people.

I'm a bit shocked and perplexed.

On a side note: Ann, it's time for you to stop dating people because "the room" pressure you to, and start making decisions out of your volition. You're too intelligent to let others decide for you, unless it was just a case of "curiousity".


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 10:42 am:
The suburbs are full of nice, clean, well-mannered people? Oh, the sarcasm is dripping off of that.

Trust me, he was the LAST one I let the room convince me to meet. They got chapter and verse on it. They of course, thought it was hystercially funny. I didn't.

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
3/24/2006 7:01 pm

While it was not a good experience, I like the way you tell your story. I especially like the word "fucktard"
What a complete L-O-S-E-R this guy is.

I really like your Blogs!! My reading is set for the night!

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 10:43 am:
Thanks. Fucktard is an old word, born of the Usenet. I swear, this guy was beyond loser.

cuteNEway 42F

3/24/2006 8:43 pm

oh SURE i'll have sex with you...ummmm did he REALLY expect it after THAT story? I thought the room fucktards were bad LMAO

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 10:44 am:
He WAS from the room! He stopped coming in after that. Well, when I was around anyway. I guess he didn't want to be outted for not being willing to be tested. But trust me, I outted him anyway.

NickRules999 40M
9464 posts
3/24/2006 11:35 pm

That is a scary thought. Someone who's sure he's clean, coz he says he is. No proof, just coz he says. The mark of a man who has something to hide.

I'm no biology major, but I wonder if symptoms of STDs could stay dormant for years before the person who has it or them feels their effects? I heard that somewhere, but I could be wrong.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 11:03 am:
Nick, it takes years for HIV to blow up into full AIDS. You can also have Hep C, which is far more common and not know. 80% of people who have it have no outward symptoms of the disease. It can be years before you get symptoms of liver disease from it and it can be overlooked by doctors, if you're an alcoholic to boot, or you don't fess up to intravenous drug use. Hell, even people with tattoos should be tested, as not all tattoo parlors properly sterlize their equipment.

HBowt2 60F

3/25/2006 8:00 am

Instincts are such a wonderful thing......especially when your right...

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 11:03 am:
Yeah. But no one ever believes my instincts.

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
3/25/2006 10:08 am

I'm starting to understand how Bush got elected twice now. Seriously though you have to wonder at peoples naivity, presumedly if you said .. no condom, no problem, I'm clean too ... he would have believed you and would have been all set to go. Crazy!

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/25/2006 11:06 am:
Bush got elected the first time because ballots fell off the back of a truck. He was reelected the second time because the heartland was afraid Kerry was going to start giving out free abortions on demand and allow fags to answer. Well, that and the black box voting fraud. Ohio election officials admitted the software was hacked, the election was fixed in their state, they've signed affidavits to that effect and guess what? No one cares.

But yeah. I love these people who think they're invincible. They're not going to get HIV or Hep from sharing needles. That only happens to people who aren't from good families. That only happens to fags. I know the person I'm sharing with. UGH!

SaucyNSassy 40F

3/25/2006 12:39 pm

Miss, omg! That is truly pathetic. First of all, don't ask a woman out to lunch/dinner and then tell her you are broke. What a loser. I would have preferred to just pay for my own meal. THEN, to talk about nothing but wanting to have lame. THEN, to admit to shared needles in his drug use habit...omg and that he NEVER got TESTED!!! What a moron! He will be lucky if his dick doesn't fall Hopefully it will so he can't put any naive women at risk. Good thing you are an intelligent woman w/ a good head on your shoulders. You are right, there sure are some "winners" on this

P.S. It's good to be back, I forgot how much I missed your

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/29/2006 2:33 pm:
Why did your comment not show up until today? Weird...

This guy was a complete loser. I couldn't believe HE picked the restaurant and then did that he's broke thing. What surprises me is, he's still on the site, he's still a gold member, so he must be meeting women who don't ask questions. Which is kind of scary.

greatnsexy69 48M

3/25/2006 5:04 pm

I hear stories like this all the time and I am still amazed. The only time I was ever in Morristown was for a computer show. I always thought it was an upscale area.

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/26/2006 12:58 pm:
Morristown used to be upscale. But these days, it has its good areas and bad areas. It is literally a town where you have the right side of the tracks and the wrong side of the tracks and yes, the train tracks do divide the town.

lifeisablast333 55M

3/26/2006 10:16 pm

sure glad ya ducked that bullet, it is some times the near misses that make us laugh, or cry....the redneck

MissAnnThrope replies on 3/27/2006 12:19 am:
I can laugh at it now. If he came back into chat, I would ask in front of everyone if he ever got up the balls to get tested. I would remind all the regs of who he was. But being a candyass, I doubt he's ever going back in there. Seriously, I won't even do someone with a tattoo unless they've been tested for Hep C. I've lived nearly 46 years without so much as a yeast infection and I'm not about to start now.

wildoats19622 56M
3530 posts
3/28/2006 10:20 pm

Good post! I enjoyed it.


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MissAnnThrope replies on 3/29/2006 2:30 pm:

greatnsexy69 48M

4/1/2006 6:36 pm

I don't remember where I saw it but that actually does happen in towns where train tracks divide the town.

Hippink 36F  
4498 posts
4/2/2006 9:22 am

Don't let one bad apple spoil the whole barrel. That's generalizing, assuming that just because one person from an area is like that, they all are.

Not being bitchy... but why the hell did you bother to meet the guy???? Of course, maybe you just skipped over whatever might have led you to believe the guy might be worth meeting... But, from your story, it sounds as though it was a pity meet. What were you expecting?

After finding out that he doesn't use condoms, I would have been out the door so fast, he would be left wondering if I'd even shown up for the meeting. Needles... I'd have run sreaming!
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papyrina 52F
21133 posts
4/3/2006 6:46 am

far too many guys with that i hate condom syndrone

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6/12/2006 2:47 am

There to huh?

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