What women want...  

MajorEasy 48M
3805 posts
3/3/2006 11:05 am
What women want...


Met a lovely lady (for the first time...) for lunch today...and we hit it off quite well from the first hello.

She started off insisting that she's not after sex at all...her reason for being in the site is to find more friends...fair enough...I can do that...so I turned down the sexual dial and gave her enough room to relax...lunch was served and we had fun chatting about the weather...

She then told me about the other 'jerks' she met from the site...no sex no friends etc...I'm all ears...the least a friend can do...and how she's looking for someone who will have coffee and chat with her, a coffee pal...yup...I can do that too...so I suggested coffee after lunch...

During coffee...she talked about the lack of choice men in her life and how most are not up to the fuck buddy standard she is looking for...and how I'm different from them...that I was......(censored due to not wanting to blow my own horn too much... )..and so nice etc...I took that to mean nice enough to sleep with...cool...I can do that as well...so I suggested we move over to the hotel around the corner...

After we finished our tango...she commented that many men she's been with will just up and leave after without spending a little time chatting...alrighty...I can do that...so we hung out and talked some more...

Right...I managed to be her friend, coffee pal and fuck buddy all in a few hours...but I'm wondering now...have I been played??

While I believe she meant what she said when she said it...how quickly she changed her positions was rather alarming....are all women similar?? Do us guys really stand a chance with a woman regardless of what she says??

I dunno...but as long as she likes me..I'm all cool about it...

Sweetie...if you happen to read this...it is not a slag off...it's just my thinking out on print...no offence meant or taken...in fact, am looking forward to being played again next week as we've arranged.

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rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
3/3/2006 12:26 pm

Would you happen to be in the same platoon as General Disaray? I dont see how you think she played you. I think she was probably just desciding if she liked you or not. Guess she did!


rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
3/3/2006 1:04 pm

Ah, you listened. You'd be amazed at how many men don't. Maybe that's all she really needed to feel comfortable enough for it to be okay in her own mind to relax and enjoy what you had to offer. As much as people think this world is more accepting and open, women still get a bum for meeting a man and jumping into bed with him in just a matter of a few hours. We were raised to behave, had it drummed into our minds for years. Getting past that is tough sometimes and it takes the right person to make it alright. So, continue to play your hand the way you did at the first meeting and it sounds like you'll have a friend that will open up and respond even more each time you meet. It only gets better from there.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
3/3/2006 2:22 pm

I think you had a good time and should be glad she went out with ya I wouldnt think you got played at all.

Big hug,

Purry {=}

Purry


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
3/4/2006 3:01 am

Hahaha...thanks everyone...

saintlianna...please don't knock my beloved General...he and Colonel Baffled are the best officers I've served under...some of my people...Captains Clueless & Confused work hard to keep us all going...

DaphneR...while I agree with you...words should mean something...no??

PurryKitty...big hugs back...+...

I'm not fussed about being played...if that's the word for it...just curious about the turnabout...I guess it's a 'safeguard' sort of thing...but if I told a person I met that I'm not interested in sex (because of my mood or because of her...) it's unlikely I'll change my mind in the first meeting...so are you ladies saying that women will meet and lay that claim just to be safe?? Hmmmm...I suppose it's easier than rejecting later...but I don't go to a meeting assuming that sex is a must....so to bring it up is a bit upfront too...what'd you think??


But everyone's right...I had a really good time...and think she had a good time too.


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happyladychat 48F
3740 posts
3/4/2006 4:53 am

I'm glad you have a nice encounter like that. Actually, women are not that difficult to handle. As long as you give them lots of TLC without being demanding, they will do anything for you.... as simple as that. That was what happened, right?

Cheers

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
3/4/2006 9:20 am

HLC is right as usual...the trouble is sussing out the amount of TLC, isn't it??


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Funasianfemale 40F
23 posts
3/14/2006 2:59 pm

It's a process my dear, play along and help her feel comfortable with you. That's the only way to go.


sweetandspicy570 60F
2832 posts
9/24/2006 2:36 pm

I'm not fussed about being played...if that's the word for it...just curious about the turnabout...I guess it's a 'safeguard' sort of thing...but if I told a person I met that I'm not interested in sex (because of my mood or because of her...) it's unlikely I'll change my mind in the first meeting...so are you ladies saying that women will meet and lay that claim just to be safe?? Hmmmm...I suppose it's easier than rejecting later...but I don't go to a meeting assuming that sex is a must....so to bring it up is a bit upfront too...what'd you think??
----Do you need to be told againthat you are the exception that proves the rule? ... most men who meet a woman, especially with something like AdultFriendFinder as the intro, WILL expect to get laid pretty close to immediately. Therefore, I don't find it strange that she started out by saying 'not interested' As a matterof fact I've had a couple men who lost interest in meeting at all when I said that I'm not hopping into bed until we do something recreational (even chatting over coffee) to get to know each other first. Oh well...their loss!!



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
9/24/2006 3:44 pm

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    I'm not fussed about being played...if that's the word for it...just curious about the turnabout...I guess it's a 'safeguard' sort of thing...but if I told a person I met that I'm not interested in sex (because of my mood or because of her...) it's unlikely I'll change my mind in the first meeting...so are you ladies saying that women will meet and lay that claim just to be safe?? Hmmmm...I suppose it's easier than rejecting later...but I don't go to a meeting assuming that sex is a must....so to bring it up is a bit upfront too...what'd you think??
    ----Do you need to be told againthat you are the exception that proves the rule? ... most men who meet a woman, especially with something like AdultFriendFinder as the intro, WILL expect to get laid pretty close to immediately. Therefore, I don't find it strange that she started out by saying 'not interested' As a matterof fact I've had a couple men who lost interest in meeting at all when I said that I'm not hopping into bed until we do something recreational (even chatting over coffee) to get to know each other first. Oh well...their loss!!
HOLY CRAP...sweetie...you're really digging up the past huh??

Hahaha, you know what sweetie...you're the only one I think, to have actually read what I wrote...the others focused on the 'played' part...when they didn't get that I thought it because she kept changing her mind...

Yup...it's their loss alright...any man who doesn't try to get to know the woman he's going to be intimate with...will never be a good lover anyway...he won't have a clue as to what you like or dislike....other than that...the woman has to yell out instructions throughout since hinting wouldn't get through, he never paid attention to her verbal styles...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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MajorEasy 48M
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it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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