Cultural or gender difference??  

MajorEasy 48M
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7/30/2006 11:55 am
Cultural or gender difference??


Heh heh...was asked a question I didn't know how to answer...what's your take and what would you have said??


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MajorEasy 48M
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7/30/2006 11:56 am

A friend came for a visit from Thailand...and she brought along both her sisters (and a sister's friend...hmmm...how could I put this delicately...they are allegedly lesbian lovers??))....one is 20 (her friend is 19) and the other 17...all cute, giggly and sweet...well...it takes a lot of effort to 'handle' 4 women at the same time...but that's the job tailor-made for Da Man ....so 'handled' them I did...we went to the usual touristy places...hung out at the kueys...sent them out to shop (coffee for my friend and I...)...even stopped for a drink at a club...my friend and I are not big on night outs...but her sisters are young and wanted to see the happening places...what were we to do??...

One night...I brought them to the East Coast hawker place...we had fun and it was the one night out of three that wasn't raining...so all went well...I did manage to get my friend away so we can take a stroll by the beach...we left the girls to fend for themselves...and they came out ok...

When we got back...ordered more food and drinks...my friend needed to go to the ladies...instead of all the girls going at once (as per usual...) this time, all the other girls stayed...I soon found out why....

After she left...they all stopped talking...and in very broken English (heh heh...my Thai is not good enough to understand this question...), her second sister asked me...

"Are you my sister's boyfriend?"

Lord above...if ever there was a loaded question...

I hem and haw and eventually said...I suppose you can say that...*sigh*

I don't think it was the answer they were looking for...but...what IS the model answer in this situation??


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Serenely_Yours 118

7/31/2006 7:29 am

Can I just think in a simple manner? If I were you, I would just tell them that I am their sister's guy friend. Not one who is very very close but close enough. Not someone who she would marry at the end. Hmmmm. I dont think there IS a model answer.


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MajorEasy 48M
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7/31/2006 11:07 am

    Quoting Serenely_Yours:
    Can I just think in a simple manner? If I were you, I would just tell them that I am their sister's guy friend. Not one who is very very close but close enough. Not someone who she would marry at the end. Hmmmm. I dont think there IS a model answer.
Heh heh...oh shite...so sorry sweetie...after reading the thing and your comment...just realised I didn't give you guys the context of our relationship...*sigh*...gunning the jump as usual...

Okie...she and I are good friends...and because of her family business, she comes down here once a month for 2-3 days...we'd meet and have dinner and coffee (please see my definition of coffee in the other post... )...quite often, because she's hardly ever here, we have much to catch up on...we'd chat till 4-5 am...a couple of times...her sister, if she's here too, will come look for us (we're usually at a coffee place near her hotel...)...or will call her and she'll let me speak with them for a few minutes...so to them...we're always together when she's here...

She has a boyfriend back home...but she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex...so they are physically (so I've been told...) only at the holding hands stage...but with me...maybe because I'm such a comfortable person to be around ......we hug...once in a while...we'll sit real close and she'll lean on me as we talked...

So...the sisters' perception is that she and I are closer than she and her boyfriend...(aiya...come to think of it...very complicated leh...)...and as her lesbian sister quite eloquently put it (when she saw her sister leaning on me...)...Thai girls must know how to behave...it's a shame to the family if a daughter is found to be promiscuous...hahahaha...I almost asked her what it does to a family if a daughter is found to be a lesbian...but my friend stopped me...she's very protective of her sisters...

Anyhoo...I'm not sure what I am other than a good friend...we don't do anything physical...we just enjoy discussing stuff...

But...if I say I'm not her boyfriend..then she's a 'shame' to the family...if I say I am...I'm really not...Also...I didn't get a chance to check with her on what she would like me to say...surely, she must have an opinion on the issue...right??

But...for this post's purpose...let's assume she doesn't have an opinion...without incurring anyone's wrath, what's the 'proper' answer??

P/S- wow...sweetie...lovely pic...seeing that back of yours makes my fingers restless...

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Serenely_Yours 118

8/1/2006 9:30 am

    Quoting MajorEasy:
    Heh heh...oh shite...so sorry sweetie...after reading the thing and your comment...just realised I didn't give you guys the context of our relationship...*sigh*...gunning the jump as usual...

    Okie...she and I are good friends...and because of her family business, she comes down here once a month for 2-3 days...we'd meet and have dinner and coffee (please see my definition of coffee in the other post... )...quite often, because she's hardly ever here, we have much to catch up on...we'd chat till 4-5 am...a couple of times...her sister, if she's here too, will come look for us (we're usually at a coffee place near her hotel...)...or will call her and she'll let me speak with them for a few minutes...so to them...we're always together when she's here...

    She has a boyfriend back home...but she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex...so they are physically (so I've been told...) only at the holding hands stage...but with me...maybe because I'm such a comfortable person to be around ......we hug...once in a while...we'll sit real close and she'll lean on me as we talked...

    So...the sisters' perception is that she and I are closer than she and her boyfriend...(aiya...come to think of it...very complicated leh...)...and as her lesbian sister quite eloquently put it (when she saw her sister leaning on me...)...Thai girls must know how to behave...it's a shame to the family if a daughter is found to be promiscuous...hahahaha...I almost asked her what it does to a family if a daughter is found to be a lesbian...but my friend stopped me...she's very protective of her sisters...

    Anyhoo...I'm not sure what I am other than a good friend...we don't do anything physical...we just enjoy discussing stuff...

    But...if I say I'm not her boyfriend..then she's a 'shame' to the family...if I say I am...I'm really not...Also...I didn't get a chance to check with her on what she would like me to say...surely, she must have an opinion on the issue...right??

    But...for this post's purpose...let's assume she doesn't have an opinion...without incurring anyone's wrath, what's the 'proper' answer??

    P/S- wow...sweetie...lovely pic...seeing that back of yours makes my fingers restless...
A straight answer to her sister that you are just a good friend is fair enough. Its unnecessary to explain so much unless her sister cannot keep herself quiet. I think for the respect of your friend, you should let her know what her sister has asked you about. To avoid misunderstanding or hurting anyone, I would do that.

Thanks for your compliments. I love to spend time taking pictures of myself and people. ( Hubby thinks Im weird with such a hobby ) Getting the shot of this angle is abit tricky. And I like it too.


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MajorEasy 48M
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8/2/2006 1:35 pm

    Quoting Serenely_Yours:
    A straight answer to her sister that you are just a good friend is fair enough. Its unnecessary to explain so much unless her sister cannot keep herself quiet. I think for the respect of your friend, you should let her know what her sister has asked you about. To avoid misunderstanding or hurting anyone, I would do that.

    Thanks for your compliments. I love to spend time taking pictures of myself and people. ( Hubby thinks Im weird with such a hobby ) Getting the shot of this angle is abit tricky. And I like it too.
Right you are sweetie...didn't get a chance to talk to her before they left...but then...I emailed her...and usually, she replies in a day or two...so far...nothing....you thinking what I'm thinking?? Someone is not altogether pleased??

The shot you took is worth all the trickiness...beautifully done...not too explicit yet enough room for the imagination to run wild...excellent!!

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MajorEasy 48M
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8/15/2006 4:59 pm

Okie...just an update...no email, no sms...I supect I gave the wrong answer and there's a very pissed, albeit very sweet and cute, young lady puffing her cheeks out in Thailand...

What is a man to do???

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ManFriendForYou 41M

9/20/2006 2:37 pm

I feel your pain. There is no proper answer here because the two girls have very different views of you. You should discuss with your friend to see what she would like her sister to view you.
Just my 2 cents (Why i giving advise to the guru?)


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
9/21/2006 1:15 am

Hahahaha...cheers mate...even gurus get confused once in a while...

Yeah...too late for that now...

Will know better what to do next time...

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