Case file...  

MajorEasy 48M
3805 posts
8/9/2006 3:29 pm
Case file...


The doctor's in...

I receive many emails and quite often I get tricky questions...while I try to give them the best solution I can think of, I seldom try to analyze the reason...

Nevertheless...I don't profess to have a monopoly on knowledge...so if anyone else cares to share (either a new problem...or a different solution...)...please feel free to add here...I believe there's no right or wrong...as they say, there's more than one way to skin a cat (why would anyone skin a cat is beyond me though... )

However, I WILL delete silly comments...especially those which do not help...as Gu Long said...when a friend needs money and all you will offer is praise of how well your friend has survived with no money...your only friend will eventually be yourself...

I shall paraphrase the questions so it will be short and sweet...


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MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/9/2006 3:29 pm

From 'A'...

"My boyfriend doesn't go down on me, he thinks it's dirty. I love him very much but I miss being eaten. My ex was great with oral and now I find myself wishing to try with another man..."

Well sweetie...trying it with another man may be one solution...I'm all for that... ... but he may just not be into the smell and taste...perhaps you can have a shower with him, make sure he knows that you clean yourself up well...or even ask him to give it a go in the shower, where he can wash off if he finds it disagreeable...another way is to add food play into your sex play...it's wonderful how chocolate sauce can change his perception on what tastes good...

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MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/9/2006 3:30 pm

From 'B'...

"I've only ever had sex with my two ex-boyfriends, even after we broke up. Now they are acting like jerks and I don't wish to sleep with them any more. But I find myself unable to sleep with anyone else, I just don't feel comfortable."

Okie...you need to figure out why you're not comfortable with new partners....surely the first time you slept with your second boyfriend, he was someone new too?? Perhaps you need to be in a relationship before sex can happen...I suggest you just do it once...find a man you're attracted to and have sex with him...at least, you'll know if you can handle any more of it...if you really can't, we'll talk again??

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MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/9/2006 3:30 pm

From 'C'....

"I cannot orgasm through penetration, however hard we try. Doing it myself is fine, even when he licks me, I can cum. Just not penetration. What can we do?"

Sweetie, many women cannot come through penetration alone...they are two ways to go about this...one...you learn more about your own body, what gets you hot and what turns you off...remember, DIY can only simulate so much...during penetration, he's not attacking your clit as much...so learn to make yourself come with a dildo...through the inside...
Another way is to bring yourself close to the edge before letting him enter you...you may have to try it a few times to see how it works out...soemtimes, it may put you off, sometimes, you'll get the desired result...work on it a bit and you'll figure out how best to go about it...
One more way is to have him enter you but not move...then you DIY your clit (assuming that's what you do on your own...) make yourself come with him inside you...after a while, you should be able to come quicker and eventually, the feeling of having him inside you may do the trick...

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MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/9/2006 3:31 pm

From 'D'....

"I've met this really hot girl. I like her very much but she has very bad mood swings. We almost had sex the other day, but I cannot get it up. I usually don't have this problem, so I don't understand what's going on."

Mate...it may be one of two reasons...she's so hot (in your mind...) that you're trying too hard to impress. Pressure is never good and if you worry about performance, your mind takes over and your body may not respond...repeat this to yourself...she's just a woman...I like her, but she's just a woman...
The other possible reason is her mood swings...it may be affecting you more than you think...try to help her stay stable before any sex session...as great as make-up sex is...don't try it on your first outing...

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Scribe67 50M

8/10/2006 8:50 pm

"Doctor, doctor,
can't you see I'm burnin' burnin'"

- Thompson Twins


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/11/2006 12:45 am

    Quoting Scribe67:
    "Doctor, doctor,
    can't you see I'm burnin' burnin'"

    - Thompson Twins


Dear Thompson Twins...

The reason you're burning burning is due to the adage "liar liar pants on fire"...you call yourself Twins, but there are three of you...

Change your name to Thompson Triplets and the burning sensation should ease...



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rm_janeraped 42F
3772 posts
8/12/2006 10:37 pm

Let me have a go:
I think problem B is that maybe she's not ready for anything yet, after the breakups. Perhaps she needs to take time out and not see men for awhile. But I'm curious too, when she said she 'broke-up' with her 2 bfs, and yet had sex with them after that, were they serious bfs or just casual ones? Maybe what she thought was a "break-up" wasn't that at all, and it was just drifting apart slowly. That's why she's able to have sex again with them.

Then again, the fact that she does not 'feel comfortable' with other people says alot because I think one really shouldn't go with someone else if she's not comfortable with him. Maybe its just her natural instinct kicking in, and when the right person comes along, she's be ok.

haha, with problem C, I have no solutions, as you know me, Major - I'm the complete opposite. Can only cum with penetration and not other ways (though I managed to cum through a guys hands recently, thanks to you- i think I did post that in one of yr threads). Perhaps the guy's and her anatomy are not a right fit? Did they try doggy style? That usually is a big 'cummer' for most girls, I think. Certainly I seem to find that happening more frequently.

Problem D- Is the guy wanting perfection? Want a hot girl, but also want her to be a sweetie pie with a cutesy temperament? I think all those can only find in japanese porn...

Problem A- What can I say... I've always thought that the proclamations by guys about how they "love to GIVE" oral sex to women, rings a little excessive (notice I don't want to say the word, phoney). For example, every other male profile here says they love to "suck the juices" off a woman. Is that really true? Because speaking from a woman and a fellow human being's point of view, I really wouldn't like to plant my face next to so many folds.

I know its very un-PC to say this nowadays, but a woman's anatomy isn't the nicest sight in the world, unlike a man's erect dick which I think is a work of art (but that's another issue..) So I've never really bought into why a guy would want to eat pussy. I think those who put it in their profiles and declare it several times throughout are simply just trying to attract replies.

Granted some men do- and Problem A's ex-bf was one. But those are in the minority. So....when she then finds other men not wanting to do it (but subsequently, of course, never rejecting a bj by the gf), she finds it either odd, or worse still, hurtful because she may think its because of her. But I think she should be assured that this whole "love-to-eat-pussy" business declarations are all fakes, and that the majority don't really love to eat pussies. So her new guy is actually in the majority.


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/13/2006 11:38 am

Hahaha...thanks for the second opinion, sweetie....

Okie...problem A...you're not entirely correct...I for one love giving oral...the reason you find it distasteful is because you're not bi...and maybe even slightly homophobic...ask any guy what he thinks about another guy's 'work-of-art' erection and you'll definitely have another issue to deal with...same difference...get it??

Problem B...serious boyfriends...real break up...can't sleep with any other man even though she tried dating a few...she's ok with kissing them, but when sex comes up...she runs for the hills...not sure it's a time factor thingy...

Problem C...Not the same as you my dear...they've tried everything (as far as I was told...)...it's rather common actually...only in porn do all the women come through penetration all the time...

Problem D...yeah...you're right...but the mood swings we're talking about is a wee bit more severe than your wanting a sweet girl take...he had to deal with violent attacks, suicide attempts and a plowing her car into his...I've been assured though, that quite often, she's pleasant and sociable...

But lovely...I enjoy your what you've said...most enlightening that you find female bodies to be less attractive than male's...there is a god!!

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Honeydewy 40F  
3231 posts
8/22/2006 12:14 am

    Quoting MajorEasy:


    Dear Thompson Twins...

    The reason you're burning burning is due to the adage "liar liar pants on fire"...you call yourself Twins, but there are three of you...

    Change your name to Thompson Triplets and the burning sensation should ease...


Lol! Veree funee,..

BTW,.. we do have 3 holes so why not make it a Quadruplet,..


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MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/22/2006 1:13 am

    Quoting Honeydewy:
    Lol! Veree funee,..

    BTW,.. we do have 3 holes so why not make it a Quadruplet,..
Hey sweetie...thought you left the site??

Welcome back...

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MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
8/22/2006 2:52 pm

From 'E'

"my guy never tells me he likes the way I look. I don't understand, my girlfriends always say I good look, why doesn't he think so? And why does he start sex, and before I can get going, he is finished and asleep?"

Firstly my dear....I do think he likes how you look...otherwise, he won't be with you...right? (Actually...to be honest, there are many reasons why a guy sticks with a girl...but let's not go there...)...and when your girlfriends say you look good...I'm sure they mean well and that you looked good as compared to the time when you didn't look so good...no as compared to Angelina Jolie for instance...

See, for guys, we almost always think our girl looks good...but to say it...then it's a comparison without basis...you're probably not as good looking as Nicole Kidmen...so where do we start?? of course, if you like...we can be trained to pay lip service...we'll do it...but not because we mean it...
Don't you rather wait for a time when he says it without prompting?? It happens...change your hair style, or make-up pattern, or your dressing....just a little...and every so often, you'll get a wow from him...and you'd be over the moon...try it and let me know...

Hmmm...with sex...how shall I put this...men are task focused animals...routine sex can become a mission for us..."ready...set...go...race you to the finish line honey..."
There are ways to break this mould...but you must take control...let him start, and then make him stop...roll him over and take charge...let him know you enjoy this part of sex a lot...and you wish to keep it going...assure him (and he won't believe you for maybe a few years...) that orgasm is not everything in sex FOR YOU...you enjoy the intimacy...of having him inside you and holding you etc...find out his favourite way to get off...and after getting your share of enjoyment...reward him with his favourite blowjob or handjob or whatever job he likes so much...it'll help get his attention the next time round...
Work on his foreplay with the same technique...some attention on you...some attention on him....most guys are impatient...we know the good stuff is right around the corner...why wait??...Help him enjoy the non-penetration part as much as the orgasm and he'll be more attentive to your needs...the easiest way is to make it fun...we all love to play...play with him...be naughty...and stay in control without letting him know...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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ManFriendForYou 41M

9/10/2006 12:36 pm

Dear dr. major:

I was told that joining an adult site like this one will help me meet like-minded women for casual meet-ups. Why is it that it seems to me, meeting women at clubs is easier then?

Sincerely ManFriend.


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
9/10/2006 2:12 pm

    Quoting ManFriendForYou:
    Dear dr. major:

    I was told that joining an adult site like this one will help me meet like-minded women for casual meet-ups. Why is it that it seems to me, meeting women at clubs is easier then?

    Sincerely ManFriend.
Ah ha!!!! A customer...finally...

Dear ManFriend,

It's up to you I say...if clubs are easier, go for it. Personally, I find the one night stand thing too casual...I like to get to know the woman I'm going to be with...not everything...but at least her interests, likes and dislikes...etc...and inside a club, it's hard to hear myself think...so there's little chance of me hearing her...spurred by flickering lights and booming music, we pick what seems to be the best choice for the night...then repeat the whole thing the next week...fine when I was younger and didn't care who I brought home...not now.

I've been a member of the club scene, and I admit, the rate of closing is much higher...however, there's always a let's get it on urge, and too little of a 'getting to know you' factor...could be because she knows as well as I do, that we're unlikely to meet again...sometimes, I don't even know the girl's name the next morning...after a while, what's the point?? (Okie...I know the point, and it's a good point...but not great, you know??)

The problem in here is the ratio of men / women being too uneven...giving the women a false sense of superiority...nothing wrong with that...but I know a few women who said they will be selective and take their time to choose...end up never finding anyone...sure they meet guys...but they are so spoilt for choice that they can never decide on any...please note..I'm not saying ALL women are like that...but out of the 200 or so real women profiles out there for Sg...it'd be over-stating if we reckon more than 50 of them meet guys for sex on a regular basis...and the same 50 can only have sex so often...a few things to remember though...avoid profiles that are too good to be true, model pics and to-die-for bodies...a real time waster, those; avoid profiles with too many 'prefer not to say'...they are unlikely to want to meet you thus exposing all their 'prefer not to say's; avoid those with only one or two lines...if they cannot be bothered to write more in their own profiles, it's likely they will not come back to check and to even see your mail, or they're maybe fake profiles where the person don't wish to waste too much time setting it up; and lastly, avoid woman with many many friends in their network...especially those with testimonials saying how they wish to meet the woman...it means she's a friend collector and haven't met any of the people yet...and your chance of meeting her is almost zero...oh bugger...please read my blog post 'Don't waste your time..." somewhere back in page 11...

Keep trying though, one never knows...and try a paid membership for a while...it'll help in getting noticed...


Good luck...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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ManFriendForYou 41M

9/11/2006 11:38 am

Ha ha, read that post, you are funny buddy.

Thought bout paying for silver, its a catch 22 though, unless I know this site works, why pay?

What do you think? Worth paying?


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
9/11/2006 2:10 pm

    Quoting ManFriendForYou:
    Ha ha, read that post, you are funny buddy.

    Thought bout paying for silver, its a catch 22 though, unless I know this site works, why pay?

    What do you think? Worth paying?


Mate, it's a catch 22 alright...what you should ask is this...

Which is worse...to never find out if being silver will help you in here, or spending that money (which you will no doubt spend on other things...) with no result???


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ManFriendForYou 41M

9/21/2006 12:35 pm



I have a few emails already friend. So no need to pay just yet.

Beginners luck!

Anyway, I have another question. This is from a friend but I don't know how to advice him.

he lamented to me that he sees many good looking girls around the place (he's a Brit, moved here a few months before me.).
But when he gets to know a few of the women, they lose there appeal. He will still go out with them but other then sex, he doesn't find them suitable for girlfriends. What would you say to that?

Also, I find similar situations. I can walk around and see pretty girls everywhere, yet the ones in my office don't appeal to me. Why?


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
9/22/2006 2:05 am

    Quoting ManFriendForYou:


    I have a few emails already friend. So no need to pay just yet.

    Beginners luck!

    Anyway, I have another question. This is from a friend but I don't know how to advice him.

    he lamented to me that he sees many good looking girls around the place (he's a Brit, moved here a few months before me.).
    But when he gets to know a few of the women, they lose there appeal. He will still go out with them but other then sex, he doesn't find them suitable for girlfriends. What would you say to that?

    Also, I find similar situations. I can walk around and see pretty girls everywhere, yet the ones in my office don't appeal to me. Why?
...????? Huh??? How the hell did you pull it off??? I know some guys who are standard members and they've never gotten a mail in more than a year...wow...you're good!!!

As to your question...how much time do I have???

It's quite simple mate...you and your friend are not alone here...what happens is your imagination got the better of you guys...you see nice ladies walking around and think how cool it would be to be with them...that's because they do look nice, and in your mind, you've build them up to be nice people as well...(whatever that means...that they are intelligent, well-mannered, speak well, knowledgeable, worldly and what not...)...but the reality may be far from your imgination...

When you finally get to speak to them, you find things about them that you dislike...and those things are factors that 'turn you off' so much that their looks are no longer your only focus...hence you can't understand why you were attracted to them in the first place...

The flip side of this is someone you don't find attractive physically...but after getting to know them, and if you like them, then you overlook their lack of surface beauty...

In this world of instant gratification...people are more and more into attracting others within the first look...unfortuantely, without some depth, the flashy exterior loses its draw real quick...and because it is an instant gratification world...people move on quickly too...which leaves almost no chance of slowly enticing a future mate...

I don't know what can be done to solve it...my advise would be to just enjoy the view (since the ladies are flaunting whatever they have, without any effort on your part...heh heh...think back to our grandparents' days...for a guy to even see a woman's naked shoulders, he would probably have to propose marriage......now there are arms, legs, necks, cleavages, bellies, bum-cracks, nipples, even camel-toes almost everywhere you look...the view has never been so good for men... )...stop thinking what they will be like...just let them 'unfold' in due course...this way, you're less likely to be disappointed so quickly...and perchance, you might get to like who they are...

By the way mate...I bill by the letter (including '...' as well...)...so will it be visa or cheque??



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ManFriendForYou 41M

9/22/2006 11:07 am

Makes sense

But really, as I look around, for some reason, the girls in my office block are never as pretty as those I meet along the streets


MajorEasy 48M
2693 posts
9/23/2006 12:26 pm

    Quoting ManFriendForYou:
    Makes sense

    But really, as I look around, for some reason, the girls in my office block are never as pretty as those I meet along the streets
Mate...as I've said...it's your mind playing tricks on you...

Okie...let's for example say there's one cute girl per floor per building...in your building, you looking at maybe 30-40 cute ones...then you step outside...depending on luck, there should be a few hundred if not thousands of them around...simply because they belong to other buildings...

Another effect is this...when you're at your own building, you tend to notice the not-so-nice ladies too...but while you're out...there are too many to look at, so you only pick up on the cute girls...

That's why you think they've all decided to work away from you...

And also, when you see those outside, because you don't know them, you can make them out to be anything you like in your mind...but those in your floor say...you'll probably know who they are and how they behave and speak etc...so there's less room for your imagination to work..



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it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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