Mackey05 40F
508 posts
2/27/2005 5:57 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


I just had a guy, a reporter, I've been talking to for awhile tell me that I am being too idealistic when it comes to finding a FWB. He knows I have been frustrated with how a lot of men treat women on AdultFriendFinder and last night he was one of them. I thought I had been stood upby another man, but come to find out there was a miscommunication and both of us messed up. I feel like an idiot and hope I didn't ruin getting to meet this guy. I was venting to the reporter and he was being sweet then turned around and acted like a total jerk. I was pissed and he apologised and I ended the convo because I was fuming. This morning we ran into each other again and I had accepted his apology but was leery. He went on to tell me I don't belong on AdultFriendFinder and should go on a dating site because I was expecting too much. I told him all I wanted was a FWB.. A guy I could grab drinks or dinner with... Maybe hang out.. Then have sex Mainly someone to have regular sex with. Someone who treated me descently and with respect. He told me that sex always objectifies people and insinuated that I am naieve and would never find it.... Oh well, some people see things very differently.

I look back at the only FWB relationship I had back when I was college. The relationship lasted the whole summer while I was taking extra classes and he was sticking around on campus working out and getting ready for the next football season. We met up in the weight room one afternoon and went out for drinks that night and both of us agreed that we wanted a no-strings sexual relationship.

IT WAS AMAZING AND SOOOOOO MUCH FUN!! We'd hook up at least, bare minumum 3 times a week. Some times we'd hang out first and a majority of the time we'd meet just to pleasure each other. It was exciting and made me feel so alive!!!!

Sometimes when I was in class he'd stop by and look in the door and wink. I knew where to find him afterwards because we'd always come up with a new place to have sex ahead of time. On a few occasions I'd slip out of class to use the bathroom only to fuck his brains out in an empty room, a storage closet, the roof, and even the bleachers then return to class with a smile on my face. We knew campus well enough and the routines of people so we managed to have sex in the weight room, the training room, in a dorm hallway, the university president's office on his desk, on the 50 yard line of the football field, the roof of the parking structure in the bed of his truck, in the corner of a coffee shop as people walked by..... Being creative was so much fun!!! We did have a custodian walk in on me sucking him off in a bathroom, but managed to give each other oral in the back of a crowded theater undetected

Never once did he make me feel like a whore and we always parted with smiles and great memories. I'll never forget him and that summer. I hope someday soon to find a man to enjoy and be able to call my FWB.

rm_Minnguy58 60M
57 posts
2/27/2005 8:12 pm

I think you will find that guy. I know he is out there somewhere for you. I have manage to have a few ladies that would meet me at different time. We both understood and enjoy the relationship and treated each other with respect and still to this day talk from time to time. So Hang in there and you will find him.

Sexonthebrain4U 51M
36 posts
2/27/2005 9:27 pm

Well, I'd be a good listener if you'd like...

StlRams69 38M
22 posts
2/27/2005 9:45 pm

I think you are a perty cool person Mackey, and really want to know you so if you like you can talk to me on yahoo I go by ramsrule_62040( yahoo messenger is always on when I am on-line) and we can set something up ok. Take care and hope you find mr.right soon. Also I want you to know I am in the same boat as you cause its hard to find a good guy. At less you can always have friends right.

SigEp4U 44M

2/28/2005 8:36 am

Mackey… I don’t know how to respond to your last post… other than to say I am sorry. Saying I am sorry sounds so cheap though… so generic… it doesn’t do enough.

I wish you wouldn’t of experienced that in your life. It is not what a loving relationship is supposed to be like. I know this is going to sound so cliché but, “you deserve better than that”… everyone does. Being respected is a basic right that everyone has… no one has the right to disrespect us. Unfortunately not everyone plays by the same rules and therefore sometimes people who have done nothing wrong end up getting hurt… it’s a sick twisted world that we live in.

You know something though… one thing you are doing that is good for me is taking my mind off of my problems… I read your posts and I start to think about what you have been through and how you must feel and I don’t think so much about myself… I worry about you. It’s funny… I’ve only been on this site for two weeks and I have found a friend. I really didn’t think that was going to happen.

Take care of yourself… make the world eat out of your hand,


SigEp4U 44M

2/28/2005 8:56 am

Ooops again, typical monday morning for me... the post above was meant for the conversation that we have going on in your, "Lesson's learned" post... feel free to delete these two posts if you want so that you can keep the structural integrity of this post intact.


rm_viceroysM2 46M
1 post
3/1/2005 8:17 am

a pitty you live so far away....but i hope you find him

bobmeknob_now 39M

3/1/2005 10:19 pm

To say the least, you are just fucking amazing. Any guy would kill to have someone like you. Especially with the awesome stories of your college days...

rm_ironic2bhere 49M

3/2/2005 8:58 pm

Mackey I am sorry about our mis comm Both of us felt stood up. And It was ironic we where both looking for the wrong vehicles. With better planning we can get together this weekend.

P.S. I enjoy your stories

SigEp4U 44M

3/4/2005 6:40 am


Hey, are you ok? Haven’t seen you post anything on here in awhile. I hope it’s because someone has come in and swept you off your feet and you don’t have time too.

Actually, my guess as to what is going on is that your getting so many emails everyday that you don’t have time to respond to half of them, let alone this blog.

Whatever the case may be… I hope your doing good, having fun, and that life is treating you well.

Hope to see you posting again soon,


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