When Bad Things Happen...  

LustyTaurus 49M
12038 posts
3/19/2006 9:38 am

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When Bad Things Happen...

First of all, by way of an update from my last post, my “little”, 6’4”, 265lb brother is showing signs of life again. He woke up for a short time last night and although he can’t remember anything, and he was asleep again real quick, it is a very good sign.

The Doctors are still quite concerned about internal damage, permanent memory loss etc.
Only time will tell.

At any given time here in blogland or out in the
“real” world, you or someone you know is going
through a real tough time. As you know if you read my last post, A really bad night , it’s been a rough few days in my world.

I pulled out some old tapes and CDs, and
I must have listened to this very well known classic 50 times. A person doesn’t realize how much truth there is in music, until it resonates with something you’re dealing with.


When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
And in my hour of darkness
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be.
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

And when the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree,
There will be an answer, let it be.
For though they may be parted there is
Still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be, let it be. yeah
There will be an answer, let it be.

And when the night is cloudy,
There is still a light that shines on me,
Shine on until tomorrow, let it be.
I wake up to the sound of music
Mother mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be.
Let it be, let it be.
There will be an answer, let it be.
Let it be, let it be,
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be.

Another thing I’ve learned is when you reach out,
People will usually grab your hand and try to help.

I’m not trying to be a sadist or anything, but I’d like you guys and gals to share some challenges…big or small…for two reasons.

First, you can help me get my mind off things
of my own for a bit. Believe it or not, telling me your troubles and challenges will help.

Second, if you’re newer here and still an unbeliever, this exercise in reaching out will educate you on how wonderful folks can be in offering advice and encouragement when you need it.


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/19/2006 10:42 am

I know that feeling, I remember my own brother in the hospital...all you can do is share the comfort of your family. All my good thoughts are for you and your brother right now.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:17 pm:
Thanks kallied...you're a good man.

PassionKisses4Me 45F

3/19/2006 11:31 am

Blog land and some of it wonderful people have been so comforting to me too in my own times of need....hugs and kisses sweetie and know my thoughts are with you.



LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:18 pm:
Passion...thanks again, it means a lot to me that you stopped by.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
3/19/2006 12:55 pm

glad to see things are looking up

blogland is a wonderful sharing place,its helped me through good and bad times

I'm a

i'm here to stay

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:21 pm:
Yeah, people here are wonderful for the most part...and thanks for checking in and your kind words.

rm_AnOddGirl 58F
3469 posts
3/19/2006 1:13 pm

Glad that your brother is doing better. The thing with head injuries is that it is an unknown. The fact he woke up is an excellent sign. May his road to recovery be the fast lane.


LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:25 pm:
AnOddGirl..thanks for checking in...I was so relieved when he woke up. I know, the head thing scared the living BeJesus out of me...we'll see how things go.

willing2tryit42 41M
1141 posts
3/19/2006 3:39 pm

Good luck to you and your brother. My challenge is dealing with PTSD from Hurricane Katrina and I applaud your brother for doing his job in the worst of conditions!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:26 pm:
willing...thanks for taking the time to tell me that. I remember you posted about helping after the storm. Yep I'm proud of him too, and I hope he pulls through.

warmandsexy52 65M
13164 posts
3/19/2006 3:51 pm

I'm pleased to hear that some progress has been made. Early news is good news usually in cases of trauma and I hope your brother now goes from strength to strength..... warm

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:29 pm:
warm..I'm no doctor but I knew the first 24-48 hrs was critical. The fact he woke up, could move his body parts and talk normally was huge. We still don't know about memory, or other internal injuries entirely...but it is good news so far. Thanks for taking the time and checking in, I value that, you're a good man.

catseyes23 62F

3/19/2006 5:56 pm

"First, you can help me get my mind off things
of my own for a bit. Believe it or not, telling me your troubles and challenges will help."

I've had my fair share of troubles and challenges, but they don't compare with what you're going through at this moment in time. I'm happy to hear that your brother and best friend is on the mend. My heart is with you, Lusty.


LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:31 pm:
Thanks Cats...for checking in and your warm words.

saddletrampsk 55F

3/19/2006 6:15 pm

Glad to hear things are looking up..
*picks up her guitar and does her best Carole King*
You just call out my name
And you know whereever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there
You got a friend..

Lots of good peeps on here..

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 7:33 pm:
Hey Saddle...I know I have a friend in you, thanks for checking in.
Between my brother making some progress and all the kind words, I'm feeling pretty good...tired, but good. Thanks again, very much.

rm_cru1972 45M
4407 posts
3/19/2006 7:03 pm

I am so glad your brother came to that is a very good sign, I was an E.M.T. So I do have some idea about the medical aspect of that. As far as telling you my troubles and challenges, you have read some in my blog so you know what is going on at this moment in time. But one thing that I deal with on a daily basis that will never leave me, Is the fact that I suffer from PTSD. Whicxh is caused by having served my time in "The Gulf War". I spent all of my time over there behind the enemy lines, which is really hard to deal with. what with the constant worries of capture, or even worse. But enough about that, My prayers are with your brother, and your family, Wising you nothing but calm winds, and smooth seas from here on out.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 9:10 pm:
Wow cru, sorry to hear about that...PTSD is a tough one adn i hope you can find a way to manage it OK...a friend of mine had PTSD from abuse as a kid, and the only way she could sleep at night was by smoking a joint, it seemed to keep the nightmares away. Thanks for the thoughts, encouragement and kind words.

kelly402005 53F

3/19/2006 7:39 pm

Just know that we are here for ya!
~~~ Maybe, I shouldn't speak for everyone....... I'm here for you, been there done that, "the brother thing"........
Need to email me, so.......
I have some knowledge in the field.....
at least know some damn good Drs. that I can ask anything....
~~~huggin' ya....
--- hittin' you on the back!

Doesn't matter how I have to be here for ya, I'm here!

LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 9:11 pm:
kelly...no worries, I understand what you mean, and thankyou very much.

2943 posts
3/19/2006 7:50 pm

Just you being there with him will help to pull thru,Blessings to you and him...xo


LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 9:13 pm:
sweetsinn...yeah, and the rest of the family too...its just great to have a place like this to get support...thanks for taking the time to stop by.

ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
3/19/2006 8:49 pm

Lusty, It's good to hear there are signs of improvement with your brother. My prayers and Hopes for his speedy recover are with you.


LustyTaurus replies on 3/19/2006 9:14 pm:
OhSo..thanks for checking in...and yes I am relieved and more hopeful now than two days ago for sure.

xxxhandyman4u2 56M

3/19/2006 9:06 pm

Your brother is lucky to have siblings who care...when i was in an explosion that burned me severly my own brother ,couldnt be bothered to check in,send a card or do much of anything...my own recovery took a year with much help from strangers and friends ,but again the family ws absent.....but when I see an out pouring of support from strangers,It restores some of my faith in humanity....with the signs being so positive so early...he will recover....see him well in your mind..let no doubts creep in,and it will so...Positive energy to you and yours...Handyman

LustyTaurus replies on 3/20/2006 8:13 pm:
handyman...it just plain sucks that you had to go through that, with your physical pain and your family. I am truely sorry to hear that.
Thanks for the positve encouragement, you seem to me to be a very decent human being. Yes the response to this from folks here has been unbelievable.


3/20/2006 1:05 am

I am glad to hear he has shown some signs of improvement! It is a long road, but it is a good thing he has a good support system! I am so glad to see that! Your a good man! If you need to talk or anything you can e-mail me!

LustyTaurus replies on 3/20/2006 8:16 pm:
HNB...thanks so much...I am proud to be your friend.

MissKittyNip26 107F

3/20/2006 5:04 am

Oh my God!! I hadn't been to your blog lately (I need to get you added on my watch list).. so, I had NO idea this was goin' on in your life. I am so sorry you're goin' through such difficulties. Though.. I'm glad he seems to be doin' better. And you're right.. people will usually grab your hand and help out. I know most of us here, even though we're all far away from you and never really met, would do anything we could to ease things for you. Just let me know if I can do anything! Take care.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/20/2006 8:18 pm:
MissKitty, I will certainly keep you and everybody posted, thanks for your support and encouragement, it means the world to me.

dasher121 37M

3/20/2006 8:06 am

very sorry for you and your family dude. Hope that all goes well. Def prayers and best wishes sent out,

The Dude.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/20/2006 8:19 pm:
Thanks Dude, you're a good man for stopping by and taking the time. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.

norprin5 56M

3/20/2006 3:49 pm

hangin' in there with ya, LT

King Nor XVIII

HBowt2 60F

3/21/2006 2:59 am

hope things continue well for you lusty.....wouldn't know where to start sharing today.....

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:05 pm:
Hey HB...I can't believe this happened and how much it just sucks for everyone...I appreciate your encouragement, and thanks for taking the time to check in.

RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
3/21/2006 4:58 am

We will pray to the Gods for your brother's recovery and for you and your family to have strength during these times. We have been there in the past, we know. Joe & Carol

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:08 pm:
Thanks for your thoughts and prayers, and for taking the time to stop by. You don't strike me as the kind of people to utter words you don't mean...and I appreciate every one of them.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
3/21/2006 7:29 am

I'm very, very sorry to hear about this... I have been busy and haven't been around to know anything about this until today. I'm happy to hear that he is responding. I will pray for you and your family during these trying times!!

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:13 pm:
Hey aascrompn...thanks for the encouragement and kind words and prayers. Mostly, thanks for taking the time to stop in and tell me.

clevergirl4U 59F

3/21/2006 8:20 am

I know that the waiting and hoping is hard...my thoughts are with you.

I have had a few tragedies in my life, but it was the "accidental one," that came out of nowhere, that completely blew my world apart. I remember being very angry at God. I had to rely on friends to carry me until I could stand on my own again...don't know if I would have made it but for their love.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:15 pm:
clevergirl...I suck at waiting and hoping...they are not normally verbs I have in my vocabulary. Thanaks for stopping by

TabithaElectra79 39F

3/21/2006 9:28 am

My thoughts are with you and your family....

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:16 pm:
Tabitha...thanks for your kind words, and for taking the time to tell me.

clevergirl4U 59F

3/21/2006 3:29 pm

You inspired me to write my hope/survival story...our situations are different, yet similar. Something bad happened to a good person in both cases. My answer isn't your answer...quite...because my answer was TIME. Have no idea if it will be of any help...

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:17 pm:
That's great clevergirl...I hope it helps you and others come to terms with some bad things. Thanks for sharing that with me.

meerkittykat 43F

3/21/2006 6:11 pm

Taurus....good to hear the update. Hope in abundance.

Not facing any tragedies [knock on wood]. But many years ago struggling with some stuff, I heard this song. Reading your McCartney, I thought of this:

"I Will Not Take These Things for Granted"
by Toad the Wet Sprocket

♫ How can I hold the part of me that only you can carry?
It needs a strength I haven't found
But if it's frightening, I'll bear the cold
And on the telephone
You offer warm asylum

I'm listening
Flowers in the garden
Laughter in the hall
Children in the park
I will not take these things for granted

Continued good thoughts and prayers from Minnesota....Meer

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:19 pm:
hey meer...I don't know that song, but I'm definately gonna download it...thanks so much.

silverbreeze2 66F

3/21/2006 6:34 pm

I send very best wishes for your Brother and hope he gets better day by day. We had a serious accident in my family 3 years ago and it's still going on, so I know the stress involved.
Try to think positive. I like that song too!

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:21 pm:
I'm so sorry to hear that silverbreeze, and thanks for sharing. You know, I am positive and hopeful by nature, but this is tough. Thanks for the encouragement.

Honey_Dew_you 46F

3/21/2006 7:12 pm

I'm so sorry to hear that, may the angels bless him and kiss him well.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:22 pm:
Honey...thank you very much for stopping in and I hope the Angels bless him too.

FunFlirty4u 47F

3/21/2006 7:34 pm

I said a short prayer for you and your family, take care.

LustyTaurus replies on 3/21/2006 9:23 pm:
Thanks a million for the prayer Fun...it means a lot.

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