Rough, slow?  

LoyaltyandHonor 37M/32F
3114 posts
3/25/2005 12:27 pm

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Rough, slow?

The Difference Between Fu***** or Making Love

A great deal of people in today’s society f*** each other’s brains out and “claim” they are making love. I find this to be very offensive considering I am a helpless romantic! Many couples do in fact f***, when a couple does it then it can still be considered making love. When two single people do it as a sport then it is not actually making love.

The reason it is still “making love” when a couple do it is cause they do it as a appetizer in most cases and yet still make love to each other once and awhile. If it is the only thing that two people do then it can not be considered “making love”. A couple does it and then wakes up together the next day and continue the relationship. When two single people do it (of any age) they do not often get together again and therefore it is an act of lust and not an act of passion like most couples do it as.

In order to fully decipher between the two you have to philosophically break them down…

Fu***** is a action of lust and desire that results in genital “mashing” and not caressing or grinding. It is not romantic at all; instead it is normally a “take me now” kind of attitude. That attitude is fine unless you have no intention of backing it up at a later date. Due to the hard thrusting involved with hard sex, it means you can not really massage or caress each other’s body in the process. It is also “proven” that women can not “ever” achieve truly high levels of emotional and physical orgasm during this type of activity.

Making love is about passion, desire, comfort, and emotional connection. Instead of thrusting and banging your bodies together, you rock them and grind them “very” slowly and gently “together” as one. Many people seem to be under the impression that “making love” is only about actually being in love. As I stated earlier, “making love” is about passion and not lust. If you have true passion and desire for someone you can make love to them very easily. I would bet my existence on the fact there are millions of women all over the world that wishes men knew the difference between the two.

I hate getting put into the position of having to say it but “sexual experience is nothing compared to true sexual knowledge and understanding”. You need to have knowledge and understanding more then actual experience or you are NEVER going to be a good lover. Ask any doctor or sex therapist in the known universe and they will inform you that people lack knowledge of sex and therefore end up in serious relationship issues. At worst a sexually inexperienced man and yet knowledgeable man might have an ejaculation problem “at first”. A sexually experienced man without true knowledge and insight could never achieve anything other then pornstar style sex. If you ever meet a sexually experienced man who is good in bed and yet he lacks knowledge then that means a woman taught him what to do. A sexually knowledgeable person needs no teaching at any point in time.

A good f*** can be great, but if it is all you ever do, or know how to do then it can get very boring. A good lover can not only f***, but he can make love and keep the desire and passion alive by keeping a changing mix of sexual attitude and various experiences.

In my observations I have noticed that many of the men who get laid a lot and brag about it are actually doing a pornstar imitation. No “real” women would “consistently” allow her self to be treated in such a manner. While the f*** is fun, it is not fully satisfying. Eventually every women they sleep with would get bored and kick them to the curb, I think that is why they often engage in one nightstands. While they think they are wonderful, they subconsciously know they are not and thus run away in fear before they get told they have no real talent.

If you men out there who like to always fu** want to try a nice experiment… try fu***** her one night like a barbarian. The next time you have sex, kiss her and massage her and fondle her while very slowly and gently penetrating her. I will guarantee she will be happier the next day after making love then she will the day after a good hard f***.

“If a woman is not singing, whistling, smiling, laughing, joking, and gazing into your eyes, then she is not even close to truly satisfied!” Making a woman moan is nothing compared to making a woman truly happy and smiling. “It is harder to make a woman genuinely laugh, then it is to make her cum”.

When you f*** you are aggressive which results in tension and a forceful orgasm. When you are making love you are connected and very close which results in prolonged intercourse and an orgasm or series of orgasms that take you by surprise. When tense you naturally hold back some during orgasm, when relaxed you can’t hold back and therefore reach very seriously high states of orgasm.

rm_toohotque 51M
179 posts
3/27/2005 8:53 am

Wrong,, love making feeds the spiritual, unconscious sides of two beings. Fucking is a social statement made by two people. Nothing social is without the inspectors.

Take it to your teachers and tell them they are wrong to sway you from the truth.


LoyaltyandHonor 37M/32F
1241 posts
3/27/2005 4:43 am

Proven by numerous doctors and sex therapists. Many of my books confirm my belief. The highest level's of orgasm are achieved through tantric sex like I have always believed and they state it as well.

ember700 50F
57 posts
3/26/2005 9:05 pm

MW, I hear what you are saying but I don't agree with all of it. I agree with the fact the f***ing and making love are 2 diff things. I disagree with the It is also "proven" that women can not "ever" achieve truly high levels of emotional and physical orgasm during this type of activity. "Proven" by who?

rm_allusnine 58F

3/26/2005 8:04 pm

f***ing requires no emotional connection. It is solely used for physical release. Making love, on the other hand, requires much emotionally from both involved. To be emotional and intelligent is an oxymoron, for one to be emotional and intelligent does not happen. When one is emotionally involve,one does not think with ones mind, but with ones heart.

LoyaltyandHonor 37M/32F
1241 posts
3/26/2005 1:31 pm

Lol yeah, I wrote this a long time ago, probably 6 months or so.

rm_lickeetung 59F

3/26/2005 6:48 am

Add emotional intelligience to this recipe.....yes?

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