Ladies: How many guys have you met that lied about something in order to get into your pants?  

LoyaltyandHonor 36M/32F
3114 posts
4/23/2005 6:41 pm

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Ladies: How many guys have you met that lied about something in order to get into your pants?

A Fast Question

A lot of you women have probably been through a lot of crap when it comes to dating and relationships in general. A lot of counselors and doctors comment about the fact there are a lot of men who claim to be romantic at first and then change later once they finally get what they want.

How many times has this happened to you women?

Does this kind of thing happen to some of you men as well?

Do a lot of guy’s really only use romance in order to get laid?

I would have to agree with the fact a lot of guy’s lie to women based off seeing all the guy’s my sister has dated and literally each and every one of them lied to her all the time. Not only did they lie, but also they changed after dating her for a little while.

You don’t have to give details, but I am curious as to just how many women out there this happens to and how often.

LoyaltyandHonor 36M/32F
1241 posts
4/25/2005 5:33 am

I don't lie m'lady so please don't say that we all do. I understand where you are coming from, but I can assure you that not all guys lie. I have not seen another male or even female for that matter have a profile as open and honest and detailed as mine, but I am sure I will sooner or later.

rm_amhcutie 39F

4/24/2005 6:15 pm

This happens all the time I really don't understand why men feel they have to lie to get what the want if they were honest they might find themselves in a much better place Every guy i've ever dated has lied to me to get what they want from me i'm only 26 and i've given up on dating because there is no perfect man and there always going to lie and then make excuses like i'm a guy it's in my genes that ones getting really old.

LoyaltyandHonor 36M/32F
1241 posts
4/24/2005 2:50 pm

Thank you for the comments ladies, I am sorry those things happened. I figured I would ask openly because I keep hearing about this kind of thing just about everywhere I turn to.

oldrwomanforu 66F

4/24/2005 2:13 pm

I can't help but respond to this one. Let's just say it's a pet peeve of mine. I have met some great people on here. And I've only had one occasion of someone lying about their age and looks. Luckily I figured that out before I met him. 5 missed chances to meet because of supposed catastrophic instances kind of made a bell go off. As much as i abhore someone lying to me if they are lying about their looks there usually is a very good reason behind it. What I can't understand is the ones that will chat u up for weeks about how they are different and are looking for the same things u are. Of course they want sex...this is a sex site. However I try to explain over and over that I'm really not interested in a drive-by. I want to meet someone that enjoys hanging out, getting to know each other and yes....great sex! I've had some very pleasurable evenings and nites full of cuddling. And what can be better than a woman that doesn't want to own u or want anything from you except some relaxing and exhilartaing times and that makes u feel comfortable in every way? Well I had two of these instances in a row. We met, we went out, had great sex and then poof disappears. never to be heard from again. If something was so enjoyable equally by both parties then why not do it again??? Well this all culminated last week when I finally met someone that spent most of his time convincing me that he was "different". In all our converstaions he just never said a wrong thing. I finally thought that this was what I was looking for. Something thoroughly satisfying but not smothering. Well we met and he seemed to be all he had said he was. We went out, got along great and I finally thought that my search on here wass over. It does get tiring talking and meeting new people all the time. Well needless to say...and I must say I got duped really well as I really never thought...poof and he wss gone too. It wasn't the loss of him personally that made me feel so bad but the loss of something I had been looking for for so long. I make it perfectly clear that there are no-strings. I'm not interested in a real "love" relationship or tying anyone down. Each time I have an encounter I wait for them to get in touch until stupidly I think maybe something terrible might have happened. But that's never turned out to be the case. Eventually you'd think u would hear something. This last one really took the wind out of my sails. I just can't understand how human beings can treat each other this way. Just say you're not interested anymmore or that I'm not what ur looking for. I always make it perfectly clear that as long as there is honesty I can deal with anything. At least send an email. What are they afraid of???? What could I do to them??? It is so disheartening when u tell someone what u have been through and they turn right around and do the same thing. Just to get laid! Damn they pretty much knew that was part of the mix already! So I guess I just keep on asking why.

I probably should also explain that I am a 53 yr old woman that enjoys the company of much younger men. Although some would probably explain that the younger age may be a problem I don't think this is the case. These are career-building young men who don't have time in their lives for much else, including a full-blown relationship, but still need the intimacy of a woman. Some one to talk to as well as share his bed with.

BTW, mysticwriter88, you do seem remarkable for your age. Please don't let others influence you from your views. However do try and take something from each person's ramblings that will serve you in the years to come.

queenoftheboys 54F

4/24/2005 8:31 am

True the liers ruint it for everyone. I stoped dating years ago after a few bad meetings on AdultFriendFinder. a 400 lbs married guy with a wedding ring that was a model and not married. What I hate is when guys lie and there is no reason to, or no point to it.
We get lied to enough in life for sex to be fun it helps if I realy know who and what you are. Lies are such a big turn off and it is easy to catch most guys in them. What they seem not to relize is that finding if a guy is trust worthy is part of our screening process. Sure there are times we are horny enough to just not care but those times are rare, maybe 2 times a year. I have not dated in five years due to the lies. Have I had sex? Sure tons. I went pro as dating was an anoying waste of my time 90% of the time. Liers ruined it for everyone. Oddly I meet nicer guys now. And more honest ones.

lickmyclit1955 62F

4/24/2005 6:00 am

you would not believe at the times this has happened to me..I am 49 yrs old..thought i wouldn't get taken in by another liar..but just last happened!!! I am sick of all the lies!!!!Why do you do this??? Makes me want to give up on men in general..

rm_lickeetung 58F

4/24/2005 5:09 am

A very high least 80%! They can talk the talk but then don't walk the walk! It really challenges one's sense of trust. I don't know think I know what those words......."I love you" mean anymore!

Crimson959 59F

4/24/2005 1:33 am

Well since I was a virgin when I married almost 22 years ago I can't really say it's happened to me often...but over the years of my married life romance has unfortunetaly died...I can however speak about some men from AdultFriendFinder though...from a few experiences I've had I do believe that some men tell me what I want to hear for the sole purpose of luring me to their bed...afterwards it was obvious that they only used romance in order to get laid...can't blame me for having an issue with trust...How does a woman really know that a mans intentions are honest...that he is not planning to just use you for a hot steamy night of sex and then adios baby? We don't we. I'm also curious to know if this kind of thing happens to men too.

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