Another Question...  

LoyaltyandHonor 37M/32F
3114 posts
3/25/2005 5:13 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Another Question...

What is wrong when a jerk can get a woman easier then a true gentleman? This is a very bad sign is it not?

Hung_and_tung 60M

3/27/2005 2:21 pm

Here's another line of thought - on the initial interchange most jerks are also VERY aggressive and will say anything to obtain a short term objective (pop a nut). Those of us who are gentlemen prefer not to create a potentially hostile environment from the start and refrain from the stereotypical come-ons. It doesn't end there, because many gentlemen will place personal objectives behind those of the mate and are then viewed as weak for not standing up for one's convictions. So, why do they want the bad boy? It's more than "normalcy" or "forbidden fruit", it is also because of the confidence and determination the jerks project during the pursuit. I've found most women want a strong assertive type that will treat them with respect and admiration. A kind iron-fisted protector and provider for the family who has the softest touch and tender heart when alone with her.

rm_toohotque 51M
179 posts
3/27/2005 8:58 am

A lot of nice women are jerk too,, they're made for each other.


What's this then for than thang in the younger generation? Did they drop grammer a few years ago?

LoyaltyandHonor 37M/32F
1241 posts
3/27/2005 4:45 am

Some of us guys are as open and honest as can be, but I know what you mean. Like many professionals claim, most guys are nice for the first few dates and then turn into assholes afterwards.

ember700 50F
57 posts
3/26/2005 8:24 pm

Hourglass is right, sometimes you can tell they are jerks until it is too late. Weeding out the jerks to find the gentlemen is not easy. Surprise some people lie and are good at it so finding out who people are can be tricky. Good luck to us all, LOL later E

ember700 50F
57 posts
3/26/2005 8:22 pm

Hourglass is right, sometimes they don't appear to be jerks until it's too late. Weeding out the jerks to find the gentlemen is not easy. Surpise but some people lie and are good at it so finding out who they really are can be tricky. Good luck to us all. LOL later E

LoyaltyandHonor 37M/32F
1241 posts
3/26/2005 1:35 pm

I agree lickee, I was curious if I was the only one who noticed these immaturities.

rm_lickeetung 59F

3/26/2005 6:56 am

Ever hear the song by John Mayer called "Daughters"? Listen to this beautiful song....every word of it. This answers your question in his artful way. Hats off to John Mayer.......great song!

rm_lickeetung 59F

3/25/2005 7:55 pm

People are products of their own we are raised, what we are exposed to......this all etches into our memory and we learn this is "normal". Example: growing up witnessing father berate and criticize mother.....this girl will grow into a woman naturally attracted to a man who berates and belittles her because to her this is "normal". It's all she knows and all she has experienced. Until she lives through these painful realities and becomes aware of this and wants to grow and evolve.....she will unfortunately repeat this pattern time after time.

hourglasses 49F

3/25/2005 7:00 am

We don't all want jerks. Sometimes you just can't tell until its too late.

But I think the answer to that question is that they will say whatever they have to say to get what they want. They wno't be remembered fondly, but that's probably not going to stop them.

xoxox4you 46F

3/25/2005 6:41 am

It is the "you always want what you can't have" syndrome! As young ladies we are told to "stay away from that guy, he's trouble." We grow up with that mentality and the bad boy is the one we always seem attracted to. Don't think we don't get burned and wish we had chosen the true gentleman! There's a little bad boy or bad girl in us all! Don't be afraid to show that woman the bad boy side. It will attract her to you even more!

3 posts
3/25/2005 6:41 am

I know what you mean dude. Go figure, they say they want a gentleman but end up with a controlling asshole that treats them like shit & most don't have a big dick either.....

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