Is true, unconditional love attainable?  

LovableAscending 61F
13 posts
6/20/2006 9:54 pm

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6/27/2006 11:49 am

Is true, unconditional love attainable?

Is anyone grateful for what they have anymore? Is anyone truly faithful anymore? Is anyone willing to put forth an effort to nurture their current relationship instead of keeping a constant eye out for that something or someone "better"?

Sometimes I think Hollyweird and romance novels have given us false hope when it comes to finding a faithful companion. Those characters weather tough times and win over bitter adversaries, and they ride off into the sunset, or on the subway, or in a limo...etc to a life happily ever after - together. In real life, the bills have to be paid, the kids need therapy, and Lassie puked on the new carpet. I think sites such as this just add confusion to chaos. Seriously, can anyone honestly tell me they consistently lived Mayberry in public and Deep Throat in the bedroom - and NOTHING suffered in either world? Ever? Is it possible? And if it isn't, why do so many couples break up because they couldn't find complete happiness together?

Do you ever feel short-changed? Do you ever feel you deserve more attention? Sex? Respect? Freedom?

Do you think all of the unrealistic crap we use as an escape or for entertainment drives us to expect more than what is humanly possible from a partner or mate?

When we are unhappy with our lives, instead of looking within, we tend to look around us and often the blame settles on our significant other. I'm okay, but he or she is so lazy/busy/fat/skinny/bitchy/goofy/apathetic/anal/prudish/sex-crazed...etc. The movie and book characters and the person in the profile (who lives just a few miles away) seem to have what we want...offer what we are seeking. But sooner or later you have to come to the realization that they are not real. They are all creations to get your attention and pull you out of your rut.

Fulfillment looks so easy on the big screen, reads so well in a book - and probably presents best on the internet. With so many options available, why sweat out the unpleasant stuff? Life is too short to be bothered with fixing a relationship. Keep watching, keep reading, keep looking, you'll either find contentment in living life vicariously through fictional characters, or find someone who looks like a centerfold, fucks like a mink, and gains the approval of your mother - for a while. Sooner or later that son-of-a-bitch "Reality" comes slithering back to upset the apple cart.

I hate when that happens.

Is true, unconditional love something we should even bother to aspire to? Or have all of our methods of escape spoiled our ability to truly commit ourselves to our "one"? Are we doomed to cheat ourselves out of the best thing that will ever come along in our reality because we are hung up on living a fantasy?

rm_MisterFrumpy 47M
428 posts
6/21/2006 7:16 am

I think you're right that movies and tv have given too many people (mostly women i think) a hope that there really is a shot for that dumbass they call a boyfriend to stop being a goob so he can turn around, save the world and be all he can be ya know?

between Ophra, the Oxygen channel, Lifetime movies and chick flicks, they have women everywhere believing guys are capable of a miraculous turnaround to be the hero of the day but the reality is...once a guy becomes "that dumbass" hes always gonna be that way lol

rm_babyboomer26 68M
898 posts
6/25/2006 8:56 pm

If you want unconditional love, get a dog!

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