What is with the men on AFF??????  

LonelyAngel755 62F
31 posts
2/23/2005 6:09 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

What is with the men on AFF??????

My profile shows the following for my ideal person ~
Ideal Person
Someone who enjoys great conversation and pampering ...... someone who enjoys pampering the woman in his life. I would like to meet someone who is not into one night stands. These are not for me. If you are one who wants a lady to run at your beckoning, then you are not for me. I don't run at anyone's beckoning. I am a one man woman, and prefer a one woman man.

I am a woman who happens to be married to a much older gentleman. Our intimate moments have decreased to almost nil, and life has almost come to an abrupt halt. I am in search of a companion, a friend, a lover ....


Since I joined AdultFriendFinder, I have received numerous emails, and most of them are from total jerks! What makes a man think that by emailing me with a phone number and a specific time, that I would rush right on over. NOT!

I have also received emails from guys in the age range of 18 - 35, declaring they just "love" older women. I am a "young an active" 49 year old lady. What would make these guys think that I would "sleep" with a guy my son's age? NOT!! If I was looking for a "Boy Toy", I would of specified as such.

I have heard from gentlemen that compare me to a slut/whore just for being listed in AdultFriendFinder. They think that they can treat me or any woman as a "lady of the night". NOT!!! If a woman is a slut for being on AdultFriendFinder, then what does that make the men??? Johns???

Thankfully, there are more women than men on this site, and I have the privilidge of being very picky and choosy to whom I will respond to. Being the lady I am, in the beginning I replied to each and every email I received..... tho most were "thanks but no thanks". Now, all I do is delete, because I have found that is all the emails deserve.

Wake up men, and smell the coffee! Just because women are on AdultFriendFinder, doesn't mean they are your "toys" to play with and treat with disrespect. A little respect goes a long way in my book. For those of you who know how to treat a lady, then God Bless You!!

Playwithshadow 56M
1 post
2/23/2005 8:32 am

It's too bad that a few,ruin your thoughts about the "good" guys. Then again,I've contacted a few women that post a picture of some sexy little thing.Then I meet them,and they are 350 lbs.I think that women need to be honest also. Or when it comes to women,alot of them on these sites are hookers! That's not right either. If you want to meet an honest guy,write me,Playwithshadow. Have an orgasmic day!

leyndokona2 51F

2/23/2005 8:49 am

the average man on AdultFriendFinder doesn't read profiles but there are a few nice ones out there so don't give up

rm_leroyboyx 57M

2/23/2005 8:53 am

soemtimes I'm embarassed by my gender. Sorry.

jmanmetro 63M

2/23/2005 9:04 am

I happen to agree with you. However this site does attract a significant number of people that make you think the world as we know it is going down the drain.

AthleticHotty00 33M

2/23/2005 10:01 am

Altough you almost have to come to expect that from a web site like this, when a guy see's a nude picture of a woman I think that he doesn't quite give her the respect that she desevers, and it's real easy on a site like this where you don't have to face the preson face to face.

What the guys out there that act like jerks have to realize is that the woman on this site aren't really different then the ones you meet in daily life and should be treated as such.

Although thats not to say that some woman out there are looking for the jerk type guys to just have sex with. And once again it just comes down to just reading the profile and seeing if the woman is looking for, if your profile said that then there really is no excuse for those guy to contact you


2/23/2005 10:42 am

Please dont brand us as all the same, some of us do take time to read profiles, try to really know and want to understand what a woman wants..there is more to this than wham bam thank you mam.....The people I have met have all been great, but the 100 or so hookers, or just plain lunatics looking for a sugar daddy need to be filtered.....

The English Gentleman is still in existance, I promise.

specialgirl4you 54F

2/23/2005 10:56 am

>LonelyAngel755< i have to agree with yr statement..and congrats in finding a decent man who will treat you like a lady !! best wishes to you.!!

manupforall 60M

2/23/2005 11:02 am

Unfortunately most men are idiots.

Some of us learn better how to hide it and be civil, more or less.

Glad you found someone.

redswallow777 49M
6811 posts
2/23/2005 12:47 pm

You tell 'em love.

Cathy_Dave 55M/55F

2/23/2005 4:05 pm

men...men...men....half of them either don't read the profile or can't read and it seems most of the other ones have an ego that makes them think it doesn't matter what your profile says they will be the one to change your mind anyway or think you are here to be their slut ....lol...ya right. We get a kick out of some of the emails we get from guys...no we don't respond....just something to have a good laugh over. Which brings me to a question....guys do you really believe that when a couple is looking for a male to join them it is because the husband can't satisfy the wife.....lol....if you do then this whole topic is funnier than I thought. Cathy

1 post
2/24/2005 5:14 pm

Dont we all know which head men think with? Assuming they think....

vengeur 42M  
837 posts
2/26/2005 8:22 am

This site is billed as being "The World's Largest Sex & Swinger Personals site" for a reason. What you came to this site for sounds like a LTR to me, which I would say that puts you in a minority category. It is my firm belief that most other people on this site, both men and women, are not on the same page as you.

This site has about a 16 to 1 ratio (Yes, I did the math.) of single male profiles to single female profiles, so it comes as no surprise to me that you received all of the responses that you did. You probably would've received even a few times more responses if your profile even had just one pic on it. Men in the 18-35 age range are also in vast numbers on this site, and I am sure many of them wrote to you along with every other female within the search parameters of whatever method they used.

With the factors cited above, I would say you lucked out by finding your special someone. The odds were against you, so congratulations to you on beating those odds.

vengeur 42M  
837 posts
2/26/2005 8:32 am

Cathy_Dave, to answer your question, no, I personally never assumed that a couple who seeks a male did so because the husband could not satisfy the wife. I speak from experience on this, having had many MFM encounters with married couples in the past.


3/2/2005 3:16 am

I will admit that us men do make some bad choices in relation to the ladies especially on a site such as this. However while we think with logic and in black & white terms some of the women here do not seem to get it. This IS a sex site and while you have every right and should in fact BE treated with the respect you deserve you may not get that here. I have no idea why anyone would read yours or anyones ad/profile and respond in the way you describe...BUT it goes with the territory! I'm not defending it or saying it is right...just pointing it out.

"Dont we all know which head men think with? Assuming they think.... "

Grrrrr this pisses me off...get over yourself all of us are not mindless dick robots!

"soemtimes I'm embarassed by my gender. Sorry. "

And on behalf of the rest of us men we are embarrased to have to claim you!

rm_lickherhere 61M

3/2/2005 5:11 am

Excellent LonelyAngel, I believe you have smacked the nail right on the head.

dragonman1954 64M
10 posts
7/21/2005 6:12 am

What you see from me on this site is me. No act. I am seriuosly looking for something new.


8/22/2005 1:10 am

I hear your rant/vent, and I totally understand! Too many don't take the time to actually read the profiles, or they would know what they are looking for, and they would have a better idea of what the women look like!!

And in defense of other ladies my size, most will NOT try to fool a guy by saying they are smaller, I just think some men don't realize what 350 pounds really looks like! that ticks me off what that one guy said... and I'm not even looking! LoL


GalasForayWiser 44M
30 posts
11/19/2005 5:35 pm

we are not all bad but if i can help let me know i might be what you are looking for just email me if interested

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