LondonDerriere 37F
1281 posts
7/28/2005 2:49 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


OK, maybe it's because I've had a little too much to drink (to console me after my bereavement this afternoon), but one thing has got me just a little bit confused.

I can understand that there might be things on your profile that you 'Prefer not to say' but if you state that you are looking for both men and women for sex, what is the point of saying that you prefer not to say what your sexual orientation is?

I mean surely the fact that you're openly looking for sexual partners of either sex is a bit of a giveaway wouldn't you say? Or am I being too simplistic?

donnie157 60M

7/28/2005 3:49 pm

Or... just can't face up to the fact, that is the word for what they do?

ahandfulforu 60M

7/30/2005 9:27 am

Be assured its only the drink for I wouldn't have thought you would have been too confused about 'prefer not to say' entries. They are clearly afraid to say what they want and with whom. I tend to ignore them as not being serious in their intent.
But then you may ask why I have a white line through my main photo - only because there are some people (probably a lot in the 'prefer not to say' category) I would prefer not seeing my face but those who are interested will. That thought should scare a few more people off. Stay well.

sexsationalnow 38M/39F

7/30/2005 9:29 am

Or possibly there is a need for a more descriptive scale, e.g.:
Gay / Lesbian - Absolutely no attraction to opposite sex
Mostly Gay / Lesbian - One or two flings with the opposite sex a.k.a. 'straight-curious'
Bi-sexual - Likes it both ways
Sort of Bisexual - Have had some kind of intimate same sex contact, maybe a session of heavy kissing or some oral. Was just experimenting but actually liked it.
Bi-Curious - Major fantasies about same sex but hasn't done anything about it yet.
Faintly Bi-Curious - Had a couple of weird dreams, "does that mean I'm queer?"
Straight - Not attracted to same sex at all. Never have been, but I'm cool with anybody who is. If somebody of same sex makes a pass at me, I'll turn them down, but hey it's a compliment isn't it.
Ultra-Straight - well, they're probably not the kind to be on this site!!

sexsationalnow 38M/39F

7/30/2005 9:33 am

Oh and sorry for your loss, it is a terrible tragedy.

jackyeats69 57M

8/2/2005 6:33 am

Hi Londonderriere,
I've just seen your blog and that's the most complete description of a handle I've come across so far (in a manner of speaking - you do have to be careful on AdultFriendFinder). On the subject of sexuality, in my experience most people are, like you, sexual. The orientation is rarely exclusive, although in Ireland it's a lot easier if it's straight. Finally, how come (there is it again) no female smokers ran out of money when I was growing up?

rm_coyote36uk 49M

8/6/2005 2:13 pm

may i say of the blogs ive read i have to say,yours has been the most fun,interesting and informative to read sorry to read of the loss of your fiesta!but im am so happy to see a lady write about all the issues that are involved in her life!keep it up good lady and keep writing great blogs!lot of love coy xxxxxx

rm_lazycon 41M
1 post
8/7/2005 4:02 am

i no this has nothing to do with youe loss which im sorry to here about, but im wondering if you could help me with a little problem? im confused about the whole shaving thing with men, the yanks seem to like men with shaved genitals but irish ladies dont mention it at all, i would like to hear your point of view on it, great blog to xxx conall (budgenite)

vengeur 42M  
837 posts
8/9/2005 5:57 am

Hello LondonDerriere,

I could not agree more with your stance on the 'prefer not to say' issue. I do not feel that you are being too simplistic at all. Full disclosure regarding what one is inclined towards and thusly seeking is merely being honest with others and true to oneself.

Regarding the loss of your Fiesta, you have my full condolences.

May I please just take an opportunity here to remark that I find your blog entries and profile simply magnificent? I feel this way not just for their content, but also for your impeccable spelling and grammar proficiency, too. (This is uncommon to see within many of the blogs upon this site, I am sorry to say.) Your photos are...well...leaving me rather speechless and rather turgid in some anatomical parts as of right now.



rm_14u24me34all 52M
235 posts
8/9/2005 9:11 pm

A similar opinion on 1 I came across: not to say.....duh! Alas,poor Fiesta.....F.O.R.D.=Fiesta-Old,Rusty,Dead

Sorry, hard to resist. RIP to your carriage....

LondonDerriere 37F
157 posts
8/11/2005 3:24 pm

sakrilej, I accept your point and thanks for your honesty. I'm not against 'prefer not to say' per se. I fully accept that there are some things people might want to keep to themselves and your view is a perfect example. I also agree with handful though. If you're going to leave most of your profile effectively blank, especially if you don't have any pictures, how does anyone expect people to take you seriously?

Take 'Body Type' for example. You might be the nicest, most intelligent person in the world, but if you've got a beer gut the size of a small country then, sorry, I'm not going to be interested and I assume that anyone who hides behind 'Prefer not to say' falls into that category. I may be being harsh, but what else have I to go on?

But my point was really just on the subject of sexuality. Especially when you say you're looking for both men and women. It just seems to be kind of silly to me. But then, I accept that I'm extremely open about my sexuality and I appreciate that some people aren't as fortunate as I am in that respect.

Thick9InchLad 36M
1 post
8/12/2005 3:21 am

Hi Shelley,

This my first blog post so I’m not sure of the etiquette. You have a very interesting blog, are you into writing? I have a question for you about the title of your profile, “If I blow your mind, will you think in my mouth”, what does this mean? I can guess but it doesn’t make sense to me, it is an intriguing use of words and I would like to know what it means if you don’t mind telling me. Intelligent, sexy and horny a rare combination, my compliments! x

tfc713 41M
1 post
8/12/2005 7:23 pm

I would have to agree fully... why even bother trying to find someone if you can't even give some kind of answer, even a bullshit one, to all of the questions?
I'm glad you went into the explanation of your handle. I at first assumed London, but then remembered Londonderry in Ireland. Either way, it shows some intelligence that is always sexy. But I doubt you have little problem there.
Sorry about the car. I'd sell you mine but you would have to come get it in Texas USA!

Loosetooth 42M
1147 posts
8/13/2005 5:28 pm

You are being too simplistic.

LondonDerriere 37F
157 posts
8/15/2005 2:48 pm

Care to expand on that a bit Loosetooth?

Oh, and thanks for the comments on my car. Got my eye on a nice litle Renault Clio, just need to sweet talk my folks into lending me some money towards it when I'm back home next week

Loosetooth 42M
1147 posts
8/15/2005 4:17 pm

My dear Shelley after reading your profile and some of your blog's I can tell you that I have expanded quite enough for one night. Good luck with the folks, my advice is perhaps keep this web-site hobby of yours as our (and the other 1.9 million members) little secret. Easy x.

angel_down 39M
1 post
8/26/2005 6:20 pm

Man, some people!!!

I can only speak from my own point of view. Most of my 'prefare not to say's are because the alternatives are retarded multiple choice answers I'd never have conceived of.

The rest, well I'd prefare not to say.

rm_BOULGA2 47M

10/10/2005 1:50 pm




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