Age & Dating  

Landof10KLicks 56M
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6/13/2006 11:16 am

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Age & Dating

Just had another birthday, and wondering where that puts me as far as eligible women. I crossed the dreaded 45 threshold (oh no!) and I wonder if I'll see even more red Xs as far as compatibility.

At different times in my life I've dated women of different ages. I was married and divorced in my early 20s. When I was 25 I lived with a woman who was in her early 30s. Mostly I dated women close to my own age or a little younger when I was in my 30s. But when I was 36 I had a passionate affair with a beautiful, intelligent college girl who was 21.

Maybe it was my ego, and thoughts of my age in the back of my head, but that was the most sexually exciting 9 months of my life. It wasn't just the sex though; she looked to me for guidance and advice about her life, was open and willing to try new things, and most of all, truly seemed to appreciate me for me and was always there in the moment when we were together.

After that I dated women of all ages, but often (not always, don't want to generalize) found women close to my age had been thru the wringer and tended to be cynical and even bitter about men, while the younger ones were, for lack of a better term, fun. Not to mention, dating women with children can get complicated. It all culminated when I was 40, and married someone who was 20. I thought I'd found what I'd always been looking for, but it blew up in my face and we were divorced last year.

So now I'm back to the dating scene. I still have my reasons for enjoying the company of younger women, primarily the fact that I'd still like to at least consider the possibility of being a father someday. I have a son from my first marriage, but his mom and I split up when he was 9 months old, and I missed out on that everyday parenting experience from that point on, although I was always part of his life, and still am. I'd love to do it all again, with the right woman and knowing I'll be ther all the time to raise him or her, and I'm at a better point in my life to handle all of that responsibility. I have to be reasonable though, and realize that that ship may have sailed and my chance to be dad again has passed.

Since I moved to the Midwest, I dated a woman who was 40 and exciting, but nuts, in a scary way. I also dated a girl who was 19, and while we had a great time, she was clearly too young for me. I've drawn the line at being able to go out and have a drink with me But seriously, I'm just looking for some feedback from people on age and dating. Ideally I'd like to find someone in their late 20s to mid 30s, not for an instant relationship, but someone who's outgoing, honest and willing to invest the time to really get to know each other should we hit it off initially, with all that entails. Of course, we live in the real world, so ideal doesn't always make it, but I never say never to anyone based on anything except attraction. Too many women I've written to here and on other dating sites see my age and immediately reject me on that basis alone. Its a shame some of them don't at least take the time to get to know someone better before making such a judgement. Most people that meet me in person usually figure me for my mid to late 30s, and find it hard to believe I'm as old as I am. Sure, we all hear, "age is just a number", but is that true?

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
6/13/2006 12:11 pm

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