MEN CLAIMING TO WANT LTR's?? HAAA!!!  

Ladyblue85 59F
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10/5/2005 7:31 pm

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MEN CLAIMING TO WANT LTR's?? HAAA!!!


Well, here i go again guys (and girls).... talk about people full of so much bullshit I'm surprised AdultFriendFinder doesn't hand out flystrips for us to hang off our monitors. I've been thru the bullshit of men claiming to look for friends w/bennies, etc.....(see previous blogs!)... and the tales of guys "claiming" to be looking for LTR's:
GUY #1: At the beginning of the year, when I was just starting to meet with people, I found a guy in my area, we started IMing privately, etc. Sounded great, but as we talked more.... he told me how he had just come out of a relationship -- seems his g.f., who he was helping to support and had her own kids, had been cheating on him all along. Of course he was hurt and would have a hard time trusting anyone. He was interested in me ~~until I told him that altho my husband had passed away a few months earlier -- and it was an abusive marriage , one of those where I was NOT allowed to talk to other men w/o being accused of cheating or even having had slept with them in the past, etc.... I had lived 4 years with not being allowed to even being alone with a g.f. to talk privately. So once back onto the "dating" scene, I wanted to not necc. screw every man I met but talk -- just talk with men in general.
When I explained this to "local man", he said, Oh you want to play the field? I told him, not necc. in the way a man plays the field (SEX!!), but I missed having guy friends. Without even giving me a chance to meet him, he got the attitude I was a slut and disappeared.....Ok.
Skip ahead about 5 months.... spotted him again on AdultFriendFinder, he had left for a while and saw he had been checking out my profile a few times. So I started chatting with him, now that I was looking for an LTR. Well, what do ya know? NOW he's the one looking just for a playmate, someone to fuck and hang with ~~ as an exclusive but doesnt want to call it an LTR. CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN TO ME (OR HIM!) why an exclusive 1-on-1 sexual buddy-friendship might be considered an LTR?? He didnt seem to like the fact that I had told him I had a couple of guy friends I met thru AdultFriendFinder that I had had sexual relationships with (and still do when we have time)and didnt want to have to give them up as just friends for anyone. ???? Ok, so I started drinking after this fella!
Guy #2: Skip ahead to say, September ~~~ I find another local guy, his WHOLE profile is totally looking for an LTR __ wanting a real girlfriend, someone to spoil etc..... I liked his pics, his profile, his hobbies, etc. Really felt like we would click in person. We started chatting on private IM, he loved my pics, etc. I was even so bold as to tell him I wanted to meet him in person so we could check each other out. BUT, unfortunately I made the mistake of being honest when he asked if i had met with other guys from AdultFriendFinder -- didnt give him a number but told him I still have a few friends that I see once in a while -- that meaning movies, eating out, etc. He started ignoring me, etc..... so I figured, fuck him. Then took someones advice to try "regular" dating site.... so I browsed a couple and lo and behold: there was the exact same profile for Guy #2. So I winked, he winked back (and he HAD TO HAVE known it was me but the name, location and general profile.) We started chatting briefly again, then he just stopped. So I figured: FUCK HIM TWICE!!! CAN SOMEONE EXPLAIN TO ME --- what the fuck this guy is doing on a sex site looking for an LTR but expecting a woman, esp in the 40-age bracket to not have had any previous relationships, or completely give up other guy friends??????? What I did find in his profile on the reg. sites was a comment that he will ONLY date someone 1-on-1, not if she is seeing other guys at the same time. Well FUCKING DUH buddy!!! Was this not something to discuss with ME before deciding to give me the cold shoulder. However I am glad to have provided him with private pics to jerk off with.
GUY#3 -- again, found this winner on a reg. site About 1/2 mile from me.... same interests: motorcycles, dogs, etc. Started chatting with him in what is a small window of opport. during the day due to his work schedule... he already stood me up Sunday to stop by while I was doing yardwork, just to say Hi in person. Later in chatting, when he told me worked nights, I jokingly made a comment about, well no sex for you then with those hours.....little while later he made a comment that he doesnt just jump into bed with anybody. (well after I laughed to myself .... lol ) I said good for you. He added, I have to find someone worthy enough to invite them to my bed. OK --- WHAT PLANET DID THIS MAN COME FROM??? So I just came right out and told him, my problem is and always has been that I was way too worthy, and too damn good for most of the men I've wasted my time on. My guy friends have told me that. Even the guys I've had friendships and/or sexual relationships with have told me how I treat them so well, massages, etc.... and that I'm amazing in bed (their words!), even my guys have been pissed about the way other men have treated me because they know how "caring" I usually am with everyone.
So people, what's up with men's definitions of an LTR???????? Can we not have men friends?? Are u so insecure in yourself that a woman has to make you her entire world???? Suggestions please?? Cuz I'll tell everyone right now..... I will not give up my few guy friends I have found.

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