a jealousy issue....  

MsLoveRose 34F  
2019 posts
1/29/2006 6:58 pm

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a jealousy issue....

Jealous you jealous me or trust

I was having a conversation with a guy the other day and the subject of jealousy was brought up when I made a comment about not really caring if a guy looks at another woman. This guy seemed to argue that NO one…NOT ONE PERSON on the planet could say that they don’t have jealous issues. He also noted that seeing just a little jealous streak was a turn on, an ego stroke, it meant that the connection was deeper. For the lack of trying to get into a heated discussion. I let him go on and gloat about his jealous encounters both with himself and his lovers. It was a pretty interesting story. When I brought up trust, he said that trust was completely different and not in the same boat. I knew then that his way of thinking was set. No matter what I said…or anyone for that matter, would mean anything to him. His opinion was set and no one could convince him otherwise.

My point, that I should have fought but…I figured I would have better chances talking to the wall! If you are in tune with yourself then there isn’t anything that would make you have trust issues with your partner. If you feel like something is going on and has proof, well trust yourself to make a good decision as far as how to bring clarity out. I do not find it necessary to be jealous about someone else. If I do, such a thing is meant to pass…. If I see my lover checking out another woman, just looking at her…why would I get upset? Why would try to make a scene?? Had I walked in on them actually engaging in a sexual act then that’s different.

In the past I have had issues with trust and jealousy. I had a lover who just thought because I knew other men I was having an affair, or I wanted to at least. I have had a lover who thought I didn’t care about them because I never showed signs of being jealous when they were around members of the opposite sex. WHY???? WHY??? WHY????

If I have gotten to the point in my relationship (whether a friend, relative, lover, employer) if there lies trust and a solid bond then that trust will stay. I have no need to be jealous or hold anything against them. So my next question is WHAT is too trusting? Where do you draw the line? What is stretching too thin?

Sooo many questions, so little answers.


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rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
1/31/2006 3:16 pm

I think its all a matter of growth and understanding. Believe it or not before Sail and I started in the swinging lifestyle, I would about rip his eyes out if he looked at another woman but once we started the lifestyle, I was no longer like that. Strange huh? But I think its because I felt better about myself and realized he wasnt leaving me ever.

Purry {=}

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__Huntress__ 56M/59F

1/31/2006 4:21 pm

I think I got over the "jealousy" issue quite some time ago ... realizing that jealousy springs when a threat seems present ... I've learned my value ... and can no longer be threatened ... "trust" is another issue ... and this sounds jaded but "trust" is for fools and more often than not ... leads to heartache ...

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tillerbabe 57F

2/1/2006 12:40 am

I'm with you baby! I don't consider myself a jealous person..jealousy is just a symptom of low self esteem. On trust: if you think something is going on.. it probably is!!.. what you do with that will be determined by your level of maturity and the maturity of the realtionship and again, "self esteem"...Me? I don't succumb to the drama...I either make it work or just walk away depending onthe depth of th realtionship and how much each wants to give tomake it work.{=}


rm_FreeLove999 48F
16127 posts
2/2/2006 2:00 am

my husband is proof that your friend is wrong about there being no human on the planet who does not suffer from jealousy issues. and yes, that is because he trusts me completely.

i am not such a trusting soul. i find trust hard. i suffer from all kinds of doubt and jealousies. i wish i did not. but my trust is a rather battered object, so doubt and fear are pretty deep seated in me. my lovers have to cope with that ... even my husband ... i know it is not a good quality to have, but that is how it is... i just keep working on it, and panic keeps overtaking me...



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MsLoveRose 34F  
2432 posts
2/2/2006 8:26 am

free its one thing to live that and not recognize it...and its one thing to try to cope with it!!

tiller you are awesome!!

huntress i can see your point!! thanks for visiting!!

purry your words are great!! thank you!!

live more, laugh often, love much


redswallow777 49M
6811 posts
2/2/2006 11:15 am

I cannot remember ever being jealous of anyone. Maybe I'm just not in touch with it when I am...but I don't think so. I don't covet what other people have so I am not jealous about things. My mate and I encourage each other to have friends outside of our relationship so jealousy there would seem strange. You got me on this one.


toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
2/2/2006 12:11 pm

Ah... trust...
such an important word...
where do you draw the line?
let your instinct guide you, chances are you 'll be right... ...


pASSionwantd2 51M
1316 posts
2/2/2006 7:54 pm

I never get jealous!

Only unless,it's when I'm not the first person to respond to a Blog.....and if ,if,if,if....someone dosent *wink at me*


MsLoveRose 34F  
2432 posts
2/3/2006 9:21 am

red i understand!

toothy its all about instinct...that line always makes all the difference....

passion its ok!! dont be jealous!! there is two winks for ya

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