Sex Ed For Men  

LadyFantasy68 50F
208 posts
7/23/2005 6:45 pm

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Sex Ed For Men

Why do so many men on here post answers, questions or blogs on here that show that they have NOT A CLUE about women and their basic physiology? I have been reading posts on here as well as the magazine and chatting to people and it seems to be a real problem.

Perhaps this is why so many married men are on here as they have NO IDEA about what arouses a woman and seem to think that getting her wet enough to stick it in without hurting THEMSELVES is enough. Then they wonder why the wife refuses to accomodate them. Come on guys lift your game. Women want to get off and have great orgasms as well.

Am not just having at married men here either as plenty of singles are just as bad. Just my opinion think men should be taught more than how to wear a rubber in sex ed. Any comments?

randyinfm 61M

7/23/2005 7:16 pm

Please don't lump all men into one general, negative category. Now, I know I have been guilty of that as well, especially when I was much younger(and more selfish). I did change, though, as I began to relize that if I took my time and made sure my lady was pleased, then I would be pleased as well, and we both would have a much more hamonious outcome. This would also lead to more frequent forays into the world of pleasure, with both of us enjoying the experience more intensely. It came to be very much a goal to make sure the lady did indeed orgasm as well. So, while perhaps some of us never figure the mutual satisfaction thing out, some of us have, indeed, seen the light.

rm_connor696 62M
834 posts
7/23/2005 7:25 pm

Well, I won't try to defend my gender--that's a suckers game!--but I will point out that women need to be sufficiently confident and comfortable to express what they want and need. And when I say express, I mean using words or even showing. Yes, you can learn a lot by paying attention to how your partner responds, and that kind of experimentation can be a joy, but still, the best way to help your partner give pleasure is to say what gives you pleasure. I realize that doing so can be tricky; you don't want your playmate to feel inept, even if he--or she--is. But the payoff is great sex and maybe even something more, like communication and trust. Oh, and did I mention the great sex?

ih8usrnames 41M

7/23/2005 7:37 pm

Its my personal belief that the ownus isn't entirely on men to ensure that a woman has an enjoyable sexual experience. Sexual interaction requires communication, trust and honesty. A relationship (at the very least friendship) is mandatory and the intricacies of each relationship between a certain man and a certain woman is complex. Basically men need to be taught more by the they are involved with and this requires women to communicate.

Of course, there might be the one-off risk-taking, "he fucked me without even knowing my name" experience but these encounters come about by chance and aren't proactively created.

rm_venture12002 64M
67 posts
7/23/2005 8:19 pm

I wasn't shy and asked many questions long ago.You say the guys should know, but don't ask questions.Can't have it both ways.They may have wives who won't answer either and I say if a guy wants to please his woman and says he'll do whatever she needs, but she says nothing than it's on her.

LadyFantasy68 50F
126 posts
7/23/2005 8:27 pm

Ok thanks guys for your comments

randyinfm - I agree with you that not all men are the same and should not be lumped together. I am referring to the many comments I have read on here that state things like "if you relax enough (with oral) you may start cumming before penetration" which is wrong because many if not most women will not cum from penetration alone. Read the statistics if you do not believe me or ask women. Or other such gems as "I wet her ass with my spit and then rammed my cock in and started thrusting hard". Well OUCH. I like anal but the way it is described would just be painful.

connor696 and ih8usmames- I agree that a woman needs to be comfortable in her own skin and let her partner know what pleases them. It always should be about MUTUAL pleasure. She should also be aware of his desires and what pleasures him and all of it should be within a persons boundaries. I also agree that women need to empower themselves to take control of their own sexuality and what is pleasing to them rather than laying back and expecting it all to magically happen. Unfortunately, as a society we label women who do ensure that they get pleasure in ways that men are not and also women are taught from an early age in many subtle ways that it IS the man's responsibility to initiate and control the sex in a relationship.. Wrong I know and should be about both getting what they want. My aim was to point out that many men do not have any clue nor do they appear to wish to learn and personally I think all of life should be about learning.... your whole life.... about sex and everything else or we get stuck being something less than we can be.

And just for the record ih8usmames, I have NEVER had a "he fucked me without even knowing my name" experience and nor do I want one either.

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