Safe sex and responsiblity  

LTsGirl915 35F
312 posts
9/6/2006 3:29 pm

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9/10/2006 2:24 pm

Safe sex and responsiblity

I found out today from my EH that the $200 he took out of our joint acct was to help pay for an abortion. We tried for over a year to get pregnant when together, with no luck. He doesn't even know if this kid was his, but paid it anyway. On top of that, he tried to sleep with me on our cruise (although I turned him down) AFTER getting this woman pregnant, AND sleeping with someone on the first night of the cruise without a condom. I am SO lucky I never gave into his advances, because god only knows what he picked up with all of these women. I'm so disgusted, and hurt... I would NEVER put someone else at risk like that, knowing I have engaged in risky sexual behaviors and COULD have a STD. His response when I pointed this out is he's getting blood work done tomorrow for an upcoming deployment, but not all STDs are tested through blood work. This man is nearly 30 years old, and still so irresponsible. The kid was likely not his, since we think he has fertility issues, but the fact that "the condom broke" with her, and he blatantly didn't use protection on the cruise disgusts me. I'm seeing red, I have to fight this man tooth and nail to get him to help out with our children (which are not his biologically) but he can fork over money to cover his own ass when some whore says she's knocked up. I'm just dumb-founded... and then to attempt to put ME at risk, how fucking low can you get?

Djeeper1987 48M

9/6/2006 4:52 pm

If this guy was smart at all. He would be using a condom. As for the blood work. You can get a certain type of HIV Test done, but the results take a week now I think. Even though you have to wait 6 months after that last unsafe sex you had.


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attentive2u58 59M
251 posts
9/6/2006 6:10 pm

Hmmm. Not to make excuses for my fellow MAN, but "low" would imply he was purposely trying to have sex even though he new he might be at risk. Maybe "low brow" as just to ignorant to believe what he should know. Most people don't. You have to look out for yourself in that regard.

LTsGirl915 35F

9/6/2006 7:48 pm

He WAS intentionally trying to have sex with me, knowing there was a possibility he could have picked up something from his risky behavior. He's just one of those people that thinks it can't happen to him, even though he knows my ex gave me a (curable, thank god) STD while I was pregnant, and therefore I know it can happen to anyone. He's a licensed EMT, he knows about communicable diseases, it's not ignorance, it's arrogance.

rm_Pebcac80 43M
104 posts
9/10/2006 1:02 pm

This doesn't seem just irresponsible but very self-centered. It's not so much about the god complex as it is the fact that he thinks he's above all of this stuff.

I'm not shuttling through women (far be it) and I still get tested almost every other month. Primarily, though, because I have to have them on file when we do contracts with the companies I work with.. the downfall of being an independent contractor, facilities can ask for a drug/disease test everytime they renew.

Anyway, the more people he fucks around with, the higher the risk. And yes, some bacterial infections (STI, like Chlamydia, etc.) can be semi-self generative though easy to cure; but others can be significant, serious and life changing (HIV, Hep amongst others). More then that, there are other sickness that are not traditional STDs which can be transmitted through any bodily fluid.. (though I doubt he's contracted say.. Sleeping Sickness).

Basically, he's living out a god complex. And it is ridiculous. Condoms, Condoms, Condoms.

*laugh* I could go graphic on alternative diseases he could have also contracted on a cruise ship, but I'm discounting him tossing her salad I know, I shouldn't joke, but dear, this relationship is a joke, and while you can be pissed, at a certain point you have to back away and laugh just a little bit.

LTsGirl915 35F

9/10/2006 2:24 pm

Oh, believe me, I am laughing about it. And I wouldn't put it past him to toss her salad, so yeah... god only knows what he's picked up. I guess maybe he'll learn his lesson when he fucks some drinking girl in Korea and catches something serious.

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