LIBlonde97 Got Stood Up!!!!  

rm_LilBlondeNZ 42F
1259 posts
11/10/2005 9:21 pm
LIBlonde97 Got Stood Up!!!!

I guess there is a first time for everything in life. I mean I've had guys do stupid annonying things like cancel a date totally last minute, or show up late...but nothing as bad as this.

Tonight, I got stood up.

And in royal fashion. I drove two hours in traffic to meet someone in the city. We had been talking for 3 weeks, everything seemed cool, he seemed like someone worthwhile. There was promise. I was looking forward to it, as I've had finals for the past two weeks and today I had my last two. He called me during my lunch break today between exams to talk and to make plans for tonight. All along he had been the one to pursue me.

Tonight? Not a call, not a text message. Nothing. I have no clue what could have happened between 12 noon and 7pm that would have caused him to decide that I wasn't worth his while... I am still completely incredulous. I was so worried at first! But my naivete wore off on the long drive home. I want to believe that something really bad happened, some kind of emergency... but really there are only 3 excuses I would accept.

He's in jail.
He's in the hospital (and it better be ICU).
He's dead.

I'm trying to laugh about this, chalk it up to just another asshole who pulled the wool over my eyes. But as I looked at my silent cell phone and
realized that he wasn't going to show up, something inside me cracked. It was almost audible. I think it was the final straw. I think I've officially lost hope.

It wasn't that this particular person was so important, that we were so involved, that I liked him so much. Nothing like that. I think it was just more principle that I don't understand how men can be so horrible, so hurtful. To waste my time, my energy, half a tank of gas.. to play with me like that... I just don't understand. I mean, I'm Amy, for God's sake. I know I shouldnt let one bad experience get to me like this... but it hasn't just been one... it's been one, after another, after another... I think I've had enough.

My roommate's having a party tonight, and I'm going ot go out there and be social, brush off the question "I thought you were going ot be in the city tonight?" ... I'm going to go out there and polish off the rest of the bottle of pinot I just cracked.

And I'm sure everything will be better when I wake up tomorrow afternoon.

jackrorabbit 49M
56 posts
11/10/2005 10:11 pm

It will only make mr. right that much better when you meet him. There are good guys out there. We just like to hide under rocks and such until the sun goes down... fear of being burnt goes our way too. Keep looking and enjoy the day.

Boredhornyhubby 47M

11/10/2005 10:18 pm

Sorry about that !!

Some guys can be monumental dicks (pardon the pun)!!

toothysmile 52M
16517 posts
11/10/2005 11:08 pm

Your last sentence says it all. Cheer up.

Loosetooth 42M
1148 posts
11/11/2005 3:05 am

Dear Blonde97,
it would be very easy to join everyone else here in condemning this utter (utter) fool. In commiserating with you and trying to vainly get you to feel better about this situation. But I know that that is a useless thing.

Instead I have decided to approach this from a slightly different angle. I would like to congratulate you, for this truly is a very special time in your life. There are many special times in a young persons life.....there is birth (I was always told this was wondrous but I have viewed video evidence and actually it is messy) and there is puberty (some see it as the flowering of a child into adulthood, I saw it more as a chance to swear at my parents and be spotty) and of course there is retirement (a chance to reflect on how you have wasted your life yet still have osteoperosis to look forward to).

Undoubtedly though today you have passed through the most important and beautiful phase that a young, fit, woman from Westhampton (is that near Bognor Regis?) can go through. The final losing of hope, the despairing silent wail that the soul gives when confronted by the utter uselessness of the opposite sex and your own inability to do anything about it. The constant questioning of self (is it me? I mean I think I am a nice person, all my friends say I am). The platitudes and lies of those who wish to reassure you ('oh honey, you will find someone') and the silent bitter thoughts you cannot say ('s'alright for you to say, you are dating Mr. Perfect over there.....bitch').

Oh the memories, the memories are coming flooding back, it was like all this happened yesterday (ah......well, actually). You are soooooo lucky, I wish I were there to share this magic moment with you (actually I wish I were there to share the wine). Look I know that you are probably not appreciating it now, but in give it time, it will not be long before you will be looking back with fondness at this key moment in your progression through womanhood (I reckon by the third bottle). It is good to see that you have discovered the necessity of alcohol as your friend on your new journey, but I am disappointed to see that you have started with pinot (amateur!, well I suppose you will just have to work your way up to gin). Once again congratulations and good luck, should you ever need to discuss anything (and I mean anything...) about the confusing feelings you may get in this turbulent time then do not hesitate to not contact me (as I am rather inappropiate as you can see), I reckon jackorabbit may be a good bet for that stuff.

Once again...well done.

Adieu x.

NB - I do like the optamism of your last sentence, however, unlike toothysmile I just do not believe that it is possible that you will feel fine so here is a recipe for a Bloody Mary (it will take away the pain).

1 1/2 oz of vodka,
3 drops of tabasco,
3 oz of tomato juice,
juice of one lemon,
1/2 teaspoon of worcestor sauce,
small pinch of salt and pepper - to taste.

shake with ice and strain into a glass (over ice)...add a slice of lime.

eastend79 39M

11/11/2005 7:35 am

That sucks huge hairy donkey nards I've been stood up before its a emotionally draining situation, and the hit ones takes to their confidence and pride takes is almost always noticeable.

I'll just throw out something for ya if ya want. Since I'm out in yer neck of the woods these days, Whadda say over the weekend or next week I take a brief detour to someplace close by in W. Hampton and buy ya a small dinner? Nothing fancy, not hitting on ya or looking to get involved, just something nice to pick your spirits up.

Just because we all need something from time to time. Lord knows I do on occasion

rm_LilBlondeNZ 42F
1028 posts
11/11/2005 9:20 am

Thanks Jack... *looks out window at rocks in backyard* Hmmm...

rm_LilBlondeNZ 42F
1028 posts
11/11/2005 9:24 am

Toothy & Bored- Thanks.

It's morning- I am over the initial insult, and onto bigger problems... my massive hangover that prevents me from typing more than a key per second. See next post LOL.



rm_LilBlondeNZ 42F
1028 posts
11/11/2005 9:52 am

Loosetooth- You are the best. I wish you had been here to share the wine with me too--- although I'm not sure if there would have been enough for the both of us.

"Final losing of hope"... check.
"Despairing silent wail"... check.
"Constant questioning of self"... check.
"Friends' platitudes and lies"... check.
"Silent bitter thoughts"... check.

Looks like I am in business!

I used to look at my girlfriends that were older than me and wonder how they got so jaded. Now I know-it's all crystal clear. It was only a matter of time before I would be lucky enough to be included in their misery! Well, last night I put on my party hat and learned the secret club handshake.

I am absolutely hurting right now from this torturous hangover. Ouch. (see my next post) The "hair of the dog" may be be the answer. Or else it's just a good excuse to start drinking at 12:47 pm... and I forsee continuing for the next 12 hours.

Thanks for your congrats, and for your Bloody Mary recipe. Both are well appreciated this morning.



rm_LilBlondeNZ 42F
1028 posts
11/11/2005 9:57 am

EE79- Aww thanks buddy. Yes, you are always welcome to make plans- take me one night out when you're out here.

Just don't be surpised if that when you come to pick me up, I'm in my pajamas or cleaning the house. Afterall, I'm not going to expect that you're actually going to show up. LOL



eastend79 39M

11/11/2005 10:42 am

Considering my Social life is currently dead till December, Feel free to be the one who picks the time and day

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