Well.. Here I am.  

Korbinian42 46M
6 posts
8/18/2006 12:27 pm

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8/19/2006 10:14 pm

Well.. Here I am.

I've toyed with sites like this over the years but I have never gotten serious about them until now. I have created an account here, started a blog, and I guess I am interested in meeting someone.

I honestly don't know what I'll do if I do meet someone, So don't look here for a guaranteed lay, not that I'm sure real women do that on sites like this anyway.

I am a 30 something married man with a child. I love my wife and daughter, but I am just not getting all that I need at home. I've been married to the same person for over 10 years, and she has cheated on my once that I know of. We made up and I have forgiven her but still I cannot get the physical contact and love that I need. We have 5 star sex 3 to 4 times a month. We talk about how I need more, often, and sometimes it gets better after the talk, but it never lasts. I am frustrated with this recurring theme for the past 10 years.

Also I am in to most anything related to straight sex. I provide oral, I masturbate, her, I play with toys with her, anything to get her to scream for more, but the same effort is not made with me. Oral is all but off limits, she rarely touches me other than a deep kiss or chest rub, even during sex. I need more.

If nothing else I will just use this blog as a forum to vent my frustrations anonymously. Maybe no face to face meeting will ever happen here, btu at least I can vent, and perhaps find some other netizens who feel the same way.

2daycowboywanted 46F

8/18/2006 1:09 pm

Seems to me that she just might have someone else on her mind other than you.

I wish you the best of luck!

Until later

Greekgirl4u06 40F

8/18/2006 1:23 pm

thats the great thing about blogging, you can write and vent what you want to and it really doesnt make a shit who likes it or not, you are just gettin something off of your chest and getting feedback from millions of others who may or may not know what you are going through....i for one do....married 7 years with a child, no happiness, no sex, no nothing, so i decided to leave b4 the rest of the "best of my years" had gone by me.......hope all works out for you hon.

CB_2 52F

8/18/2006 1:27 pm

You don't say how old your child is, but I'm guessing quite young. The thing is, relationships change dramatically when children enter the equation - I'd guess that she sees herself more as "mum" now, when you want her to be your lover. We had the same problem in reverse: my husband saw himself as "dad" and me as "mum", and our sex life (which was never great) went downhill dramatically after that.

If you're having great sex 4-5 times a month, I'd say that was pretty good going! I got it about one a month, and many of my friends with young children say the same.

Take her away for a weekend without your child, have a really good time and have a long talk about it. Your relationship is worth more than a fling, in my opinion.

And in the meantime, just blog away like the rest of us!

Blogito ergo sum.

Hydragenias 57F

8/18/2006 3:33 pm

Sometimes a wife and mother just needs her husband to help more around the house with chores, errands, children, and such. Once she starts receiving that help, she will be less exhausted and her libido will go up Up UP!

I would say, from how you described things, your sex life is pretty normal for a married couple with children.

I was married for 15 yrs. I know I had sex at least twice during that 15 yrs, only because I have two daughters to prove it, LOL.

Please don't be shy, drop on by my blog sometime and say Hi!
The light is ALWAYS on for ya!

dimplesfouryou 47F
24690 posts
8/18/2006 3:46 pm

Good luck to you sweetie! I hope you find happiness!


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