Update to lunch  

Kokomo1963 47M/55F
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4/20/2006 1:46 pm

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4/20/2006 3:48 pm

Update to lunch


Well lunch did turn out to be ok (partly because I got some food and caffeine in me!) She turned out to be cuter than her picture--YEA ME!--and we had a good conversation. She's working really hard to keep it at the friend level, which makes me feel less pressured. NO, she's never even heard of AdultFriendFinder! So she doesn't know what a freak I am! LOL. When it was time to go our separate ways, she parted like her hair was on fire...not sure what that was about, but I used my manners and sent a note and thanked her for lunch.
We'll see.

You know someone posted a Comment to something I wrote yesterday that has had me thinking since I read it. They said, "...it sounded like I knew what I wanted..." I think I need to print that particular Post out and re-read it because I sure feel like I don't have a damn clue. I think it's more like I know what I don't want.
Ok, so I want what most women want which is the relationship, the stability, the "things", happiness with a partner, a boat, vacations to Greece, you know-stuff like that. My jaded view on all that though is that the world is a different place and unless you get it young, only a small percentage of the world will end up with that picture. Doesn't mean you won't be happy in a different picture. But it's white-picket fence/June-Ward Cleaver stuff versus Ozzie-Sharon Osbourne/uptown loft in the City deal-io. And that picture changes constantly, the older you get and the more life experiences that you have. If you don't get the stereotypical picture of a couples life early on, there is no stereotype for what it is supposed to look like after that. And so we tend to still try to work for the "norm", all the while not realizing that it's come and gone and we have to make a new "norm". I know the feelings I want someone to inspire in me, just not how to go about what qualities to look for that will get it for me (go Dr. Phil!)
Then there's the whole time you spend with someone and how that changes from youth to getting older. I could no more spend every second with someone than I could win the Boston Marathon; just won't happen. Maybe that's maturity (that's what I tell myself). I enjoy the time alone as well as the together time. I think it gets to be about knowing they're there when you need them to be and hoping they have enough respect (and hobbies/friends of their own) to let you have your alone time to recharge--I'm talking about living under the same roof here. Of course, not everyone is wired that way, but I think I am. Besides, personally, I have way too many diversions in my life now to have to worry about carting someone else around and keeping them entertained as well. Haven't found that balance yet where they want to be a part of my life but sometimes they have to do something else because they have a life of their own, but we end up--at the end of the day--together again. It always seems to be this all or nothing thing. Of course it's been like almost 9 years since I've lived with someone full-time so what do I know?! LOL

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

4/20/2006 2:39 pm

It takes time to find true happiness.

You can not rush it or else you will be disappointed.

All good things come in time.

Like the saying goes, it will be greater later.

Hope you find happiness soon.

Lady Bambi


Kokomo1963 replies on 4/20/2006 3:49 pm:
Actually I am happy with things most of the time. But sometimes I start questioning things and then I think I'm not happy! LOL

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