My rant  

Kokomo1963 47M/55F
42 posts
5/1/2006 8:41 am

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5/1/2006 4:25 pm

My rant

Guys aren't the only ones who can tap and run. Girls do have that capability, too. The difference is that we may also be looking for something more permanent as well. We just prefer to look for the permanent fuck than the temporary, if given a choice. In my opinion. Especially as we get older. If you're in your 20's and even halfway decent looking, then you should experience everything you can (safely, of course). And in your 30's you should start being more selective. In your 40's--if you've managed to take care of yourself--then you know you need to start focusing on the big picture, bottom line, whole enchilada, whatever you want to call it. But there are still some needs to be met while you're waiting for the one that will rock your world in a long-term kind of way.
But in the reverse, if I tell you that I am only into serious dating (i.e. we get involved with the understanding that it's going somewhere if the chemistry is right), then don't let your very next message to me be about licking, sucking, fucking, groping, oral sex, anal sex, or any other kink you want to execute on me. Mixed message, for sure.
Like any other relationship in life, I want something different from different people in my life. And I can be ok with it. So if I want to fuck someone for the sake of the experience, then I can do that. If I want to be wined and dined, treated like a lady and someone that you'd bring home to Mom/the kids, then that's the only place I want to go with you.
I'm an intelligent woman...I'm not going to confuse great dating chemistry with foreplay. As a matter of fact, if you've agreed to take me out as a potential romantic interest, then I'm not even thinking about sex yet--at least not in a specific way--like when/where/how/how soon.
Someone told me that we all come to this site for a reason. It's true. He didn't know how right he was. The reasons seem apparent (sex), but are usually more in-depth than that. Sometimes, they are downright complicated. If I make a dating connection here, that's the kind of stuff I want to know about. Stimulate my mind--I do have one.
So the point of all this rambling? Honesty. If you tactfully, but honestly, lay out why you are here and what you expect from each person you connect with, it makes life a lot easier. Didn't most of us come here to get away from the B.S.? And if you stupidly deny to yourself (and the person asking) what you're really looking for or what you can put up with, than shame on you and you'll never get what you want. You can't get what you don't ask for. If you want sex, ask for it. If you want a relationship, then make it clear that is your interest. If you want to play while you look for a relationship, then you'll have to be clear as to who gets what part of you.

rm_tetrault25 37M

5/1/2006 10:23 am

I completely agree with this whole rant!

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