If you...  

Knot4Everyone 41F
734 posts
4/9/2006 1:30 pm

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If you...

So the other day I was at work, minding my own business and just trying to get through the day when a good blog topic came to mind. By the time I got home and sat down in front of my computer the topic was nowhere to be found. All that was left in my mind was the fact that I had, at one point in the day, come up with a great topic. (This happens to me all the time!)

Yesterday I was reading through some blogs and frogger1995's post [post 302617] jogged my memory and that terrific blog topic that was forgotten just the day before was now back in my head! Thanks frogger!

Okay, so here it is:

Being a blogger on a sex site can pose a dilemma when it comes to relationships. Suppose you meet someone and really hit it off. Suppose you enter a committed relationship with said person. If this person is not familiar with AdultFriendFinder, or simply does not approve of AdultFriendFinder, would you stop blogging here for as long as the relationship lasted? Might you possibly have the will power to do such a thing? Would you sneak a blog in here and there when you were sure you wouldn't be caught? Would you try to find a different, less controversial blogging site?

What would you do?

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
4/9/2006 1:51 pm

i would sneak lol.
I often get those ,i could blog this topic moment and now have a piece of paper in my poket thta i jot down on sad

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Jeepidiot 43M

4/9/2006 2:05 pm

Yeah I've got a little sticky note that I've jotted down various ideas. Trouble is I've lost the sticky note.

I don't see anything exactly wrong with the "blogging" part of AdultFriendFinder. All topics are discussed here and not all of them are sexual. Blogging here isn't really much different than just going to some web bulletin board for anything. As long as you don't click on the pics you should be okay. Oh and don't flirt.

I think the biggest problem might not be the fact that you blog here as the fact that you might have come here looking for something the person might not agree with.

rm_4wolfsr 59M

4/9/2006 2:07 pm

I believe in being upfront, so I'd tell her about it and probably even encourage her to do the same thing. Sure is nice to read what other people think on all manner of topics, sex related, relationship related, etc.

Knot4Everyone 41F

4/9/2006 2:58 pm

I love the blogs here! I was talking with a friend this morning about blogs and she asked what site I use. She is pretty straight-laced, so I was almost embarrassed to tell her! Of course I had to go on to explain that it's not all about sex and that there are some really cool people here who discuss some really great things. I think she might actually check it out now!

peteblack does bring up an interesting side-issue. If I ever met someone on here then blogged about them I would take great care to keep their ID anonymous.

Here's another side-issue: Do you think more men would take issue with their girlfriend/wife blogging here, or would more women take issue with their boyfriend/husband blogging here? I think the women would have more problems with it...

frogger1995 40F

4/9/2006 4:20 pm

Well I am glad that the my hopeless marriage prospects inspired you

That said...I would NEVER even date someone who opposed my blogging. I would obviously refrain from meeting people, but I could never give up the blog.

rm_VoodooGuru1 50M
2053 posts
4/9/2006 7:08 pm

I would have serious issues with any woman who presumed she could tell me what I could read or write, or what websites I could visit.

rm_BigDnLady 44M/42F
1140 posts
4/10/2006 2:38 pm

I say if they do not approve then just turn your profile off and keep blogging. If blogging here is a "part of you" then they should try to understand. Tell them that you could write some fantastic stories about your sex life, or tell him that you would limit it to public affairs and fantasies.


Knot4Everyone 41F

4/10/2006 3:27 pm

frogger: My marriage prospects are just as hopeless as yours! If things don't improve in the next 10 years then we should get together (and invite others like us) and throw the BIGGEST DAMN PARTY EVER!!!

Voodoo: While I agree that no one should attempt to tell their partner what they can and cannot do, it is a fact that sometimes partners can be uncomfortable with certain things. I'm not saying we should all bow down and obey everything our bf/gf says, I'm just asking how each of you would handle the situation. For the record, I agree with you!

Mz Huny: Go on with your bad self! We shouldn't let others boss us around! I'm with you on this one...

Lady: I agree with you, too!

You all have come up with some great comments and suggestions! Big round of applause for everyone!!!

Just so y'all know, I am still single and therefore don't have to worry about anyone being upset with my involvement here.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
4/12/2006 11:08 am

Great topic and actually one that I've thought about lately. I have an friend from AdultFriendFinder that wants to hook me up w/ a coworker of hers. However, I can't ever tell her how me met. Now, in this situation, I am not able to ever tell her about my blog.

If I were to meet a girl elsewhere, I would eventually let her know about my blog. If we were really dating, I would have to, b/c that's where I am in life and blogging is a part of me.

Knot4Everyone 41F

4/12/2006 5:44 pm

I think you've got it right, aascrompn! Keep it real!

I'd like to know if you go through with the hook-up and how it all goes! If you don't mind sharing, that is!

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