Intellectual turn-ons/turn-offs  

Kiki_n_stallion 36M/37F
10 posts
6/21/2006 8:22 am

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7/16/2006 7:58 am

Intellectual turn-ons/turn-offs

I love people, men and women! I think regardless of size and shape, that ervery person is beautiful. Yet, I need someone who I can connect with intellectually too. I CANNOT be turned on by someone who is stupid or plays dumb. Intelligence is sexy and essential. How can you be with someone and connect with them if they can't hold a relevant conversation?

GlialSewerEuler 70M
73 posts
6/21/2006 10:16 am

My thoughts exactly, but in most cases the choice is based on looks, size and financial status. I of course realize that a women like you could have anyone so I will admire you from afar and just sy.

rm_Kallisti_5 37M
130 posts
6/21/2006 11:01 am

We're in the same boat. Tends to be kinda' hard, though. You're in a world on this site and on this topic that we tend to shy away from the analytical. I think the generally puritan society we live in is uncomfortable NOT keeping sex on the base level.

And, I agree with "Onthelose"s comment--looks, size, and cash do play a big part. Even if someone like yourselves say that it's not important, the three factors do affect everyone else, making the not-rich, not-built, not-huge sexual people in the world generally shy and timid. And seeing as most people find dynamic, confident people attactive, the jig is up!

ShaneLiveLife 51M

6/21/2006 11:48 am

You can't ....

Live with passion !

wellendowed553 37M

6/22/2006 6:38 pm

I agree with you's tough for me to find someone who I can connect with on an intellectual level. To me, great conversation with my date gets me a lot more interested than cash flow, boob size, or skirt length. But on this web site, trying to meet intellectual people is an exercise in the old Catch 22 scenario. It's hard to gauge someones intellect on a site where most people tend to have very flirtatious conversations, so the best way to really have a meaningful conversation is to have it in person, but how do you know if you want to meet someone if you can't tell if your going to enjoy yourself? I've tried to use my own blog for intellectual questions...and let me tell you, there aren't a whole lot of responses on it.

rm_B_O_H_I_C_A 54M
342 posts
6/25/2006 5:22 am

Life Is...

Life isn't about keeping score.

It's not about how many friends you have

Or how accepted you are.

Not about if you have plans this weekend or if you're alone.

It isn't about who you're dating, who you used to date, how many people you've dated, or if you haven't been with anyone at all.

It isn't about who you have kissed,

It's not about sex.

It isn't about who your family is or how much money they have

Or what kind of car you drive.

Or where you are sent to school.

It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are.

Or what clothes you wear, what shoes you have one,

Or what kind of music you listen to.

It's not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, or brown,

Or if your skin is too light or too dark.

Not about what grades you get how smart you are, how smart everybody else thinks you are, or how smart standardized tests say you are.

It's not about what clubs you're in or how good you are at "your" sport.

It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will "accept the written you."

Life just isn't.

But, life is about who you love and who you hurt.

It's about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully.

It's about keeping or betraying trust.

It's about friendship, used as a sanctity or a weapon.

It's about what you say and mean, maybe hurtful, maybe heartening.

About starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip.

It's about what judgments you pass and why.

And who your judgments are spread to.

It's about who you've ignored with full control and intention.

It's about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge.

It's about carrying inner hate and love, letting it grow and spreading it.

But most of all, it's about using your life to touch or poison other people's hearts in such a way that could have never occurred alone.

Only you choose the way those hearts are affected, and those choices are what life's all about.

Kiki_n_stallion 36M/37F

6/29/2006 8:44 am

I agree with everyone responding, looks do play a part. As well as finacial status, but there still needs to be revelence in the intellectual. Okay, any one of us can have a one-night stand with a hot and successful person. The problem is finding someone you can connect with intellectually to at least have a friendship. I don't know about everyone else, but I don't want every encounter from here to be a one time thing.

rm_B_O_H_I_C_A 54M
342 posts
6/30/2006 9:30 am

"I don't know about everyone else, but I don't want every encounter from here to be a one time thing."


Kiki_n_stallion 36M/37F

7/1/2006 6:51 am

Thank You B_O_H_I_C_A!!! Just wished more people agreed on the topics at hand. unfortunately, so few people put emphasis on the importance of connections (not just sexually/physically) and being able to get more out of it than a 1 time thing

rm_B_O_H_I_C_A 54M
342 posts
7/2/2006 9:36 pm

There's a surprising number here who think AdultFriendFinder is just a place to "hook up" for sex. Maybe they're under the misconception of just what the second "F" in AdultFriendFinder stands for...

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