Sparks and Passion  

Kaliedascope61 42M
3157 posts
2/24/2006 2:48 pm

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4/13/2006 6:00 am

Sparks and Passion

A real man, for a good live woman

There has been a lot of discussion about men and the unsavory way some approach women. But what about the good guys? I think the bad ones get way to much air time! I want to hear more about the guys I have to compete with; I want to know what they are doing that’s working.

What is causing sparks for you ladies, and what are you hearing that’s making you reach out, and take what you want.

Other than travlingintexas I know what he does. Do you like that guys have to compete for your attention? You have to know that is going on right? I think it’s a good thing, and I think that it forces us guys to tap into more inspiration to convey what we really want, what we really need in a way that relates to what you’re looking for.

And of course there is humor! Laughter is the one sure fire way to make a not so appealing man get the girl of his dreams! Laughter and humor to me are the greatest things I could share with a woman, if she gets my jokes, and then she will have an easier time getting me. That’s my view of it.

The chase. I don’t want an easy woman; I don’t want her to give herself to me. I want to catch her; I need to feel like I have accomplished something that others could not. That’s what makes me feel like I am a king, and that’s what makes me feel like I am better then other men you have come across.

At ease. To be comfortable with someone, to be able to share those deep dark desires and thoughts with out feeling embarrassed or judged a pervert. The right woman, the most compatible woman. This requires friendship. I don’t want to just fuck, anybody can do that. Fucking is easy, go to the bar, pick one up, fuck, leave. I want to be satisfied; I want quality, if I can’t have it, that’s what my right hand is good at. I want great sex.

What’s love got to do with it? There has to be emotion, there has to be chemistry. A connection of some kind. With out it, well it’s just another right hander again. How can it even come close to be good with out emotion? With out passion?


angelgrrl 49F

2/24/2006 6:13 pm

There are a lot of good men on here, actually. They understand that AdultFriendFinder is just another place to meet people and that the women here are real people, not just unpaid hookers. I agree that there has to be emotion there to have good sex. That does not mean a lifetime commitment, but if you don't feel free and open with and care for your partner, it is just physical release.

I have to admit I'm not good at being chased. If someone catches my attention, I most likely will let him know I'm at least interested in getting to know him better. It doesn't mean I'm giving myself to him, though. I'm not good at games, so hopefully I'm not blowing anything


twirly_girl 48F

2/24/2006 6:38 pm

I get a lot of emails but I rarely respond. It comes down to having a sense of humor. Even if I'm not interested in a man (ie: he's married or attached or just not my type) I will respond and at least thank him for the email and for making me laugh.
Funny thing is though, my current sex partner didn't make me laugh with his email (And he has a great sense of humor)... he made me smile and he made me extremely wet. lmao
Hmm... still though, the funny guys win with me. It's all about personality. Sex isn't as enjoyable to me if I don't enjoy the person I'm with.
That was kinda long winded, huh? haha

-Nikki


NSAAddict 43F

2/25/2006 1:46 am

Humor, personality, gives good head... meaning gets into my thoughts (you perv!), has something to say that intrigues me, makes me want to know more aobut them as a person. I don't know K, it seems to me you've got it all, the girls will be all over you, give it time. And I just have to tell you that I love Lloyd Dobler!! Bad guys are fun but nice guys... keepers!


HBowt2 60F

2/25/2006 2:11 pm

Looking behind me but don't see you.....


lust4u941 47F
33 posts
2/25/2006 5:44 pm

I have to agree with NSAA, you've got it all.... You're sweet, kind, funny, smart, a great listener, creative, shall I go on? Wasn't it you that told me patience was all I needed?

You're right though about great sex involving emotion and knowing someone one. It's only then that you can truly be free and give yourself completely in sex. Don't get me wrong though there is a great fuck too, but even that's more enjoyable with a person you care for.

I do think far too many men think that the women on this site are just free whore's which, at least in my case, clouds my vision when trying to find the decent guys. But similar to what you were saying to the girl wanting to lose her virginity, is AdultFriendFinder the place to search for a meaningful relationship? Sorry, I'm rambling... Take care K, love you hun. J


rm_texasgal1978 46F
225 posts
2/26/2006 7:36 am

Don't worry about a thing, based on this post you are miles ahead of a lot of men on here. You get it.


SaucyTart_36 48F

2/27/2006 9:24 am

How a guy catches me - makes me laugh, tell me I am beautiful, shows me with his eyes that he desires me, asks questions about me to know me, has things in common with me so that we can enjoy life together, opens himself to me emotionally, discusses life with me - deeper things than how was your day.

Those are the qualities that I am looking for in a nice guy!


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/2/2006 9:34 am

    Quoting angelgrrl:
    There are a lot of good men on here, actually. They understand that AdultFriendFinder is just another place to meet people and that the women here are real people, not just unpaid hookers. I agree that there has to be emotion there to have good sex. That does not mean a lifetime commitment, but if you don't feel free and open with and care for your partner, it is just physical release.

    I have to admit I'm not good at being chased. If someone catches my attention, I most likely will let him know I'm at least interested in getting to know him better. It doesn't mean I'm giving myself to him, though. I'm not good at games, so hopefully I'm not blowing anything
good point.


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/2/2006 9:35 am

    Quoting twirly_girl:
    I get a lot of emails but I rarely respond. It comes down to having a sense of humor. Even if I'm not interested in a man (ie: he's married or attached or just not my type) I will respond and at least thank him for the email and for making me laugh.
    Funny thing is though, my current sex partner didn't make me laugh with his email (And he has a great sense of humor)... he made me smile and he made me extremely wet. lmao
    Hmm... still though, the funny guys win with me. It's all about personality. Sex isn't as enjoyable to me if I don't enjoy the person I'm with.
    That was kinda long winded, huh? haha
thanks for stopping by....no not long winded, I appreciate the input.


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/2/2006 9:37 am

    Quoting HBowt2:
    Looking behind me but don't see you.....
thats because im invisible!


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/2/2006 9:41 am

    Quoting rm_texasgal1978:
    Don't worry about a thing, based on this post you are miles ahead of a lot of men on here. You get it.
haha...we will see about that.


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/2/2006 9:43 am

    Quoting SaucyTart_36:
    How a guy catches me - makes me laugh, tell me I am beautiful, shows me with his eyes that he desires me, asks questions about me to know me, has things in common with me so that we can enjoy life together, opens himself to me emotionally, discusses life with me - deeper things than how was your day.

    Those are the qualities that I am looking for in a nice guy!
Your so pretty!


Kaliedascope61 42M
4084 posts
3/2/2006 9:46 am

    Quoting lust4u941:
    I have to agree with NSAA, you've got it all.... You're sweet, kind, funny, smart, a great listener, creative, shall I go on? Wasn't it you that told me patience was all I needed?

    You're right though about great sex involving emotion and knowing someone one. It's only then that you can truly be free and give yourself completely in sex. Don't get me wrong though there is a great fuck too, but even that's more enjoyable with a person you care for.

    I do think far too many men think that the women on this site are just free whore's which, at least in my case, clouds my vision when trying to find the decent guys. But similar to what you were saying to the girl wanting to lose her virginity, is AdultFriendFinder the place to search for a meaningful relationship? Sorry, I'm rambling... Take care K, love you hun. J
you just ramble to your hearts content.


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