How to pick up women on the blogs revised and revisited  

Kaliedascope61 43M
3157 posts
5/12/2006 9:06 am

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How to pick up women on the blogs revised and revisited

This is how it is done. Revised and Updated

This is an updated and revised version of a post I did last month. I went through all the comments and tried to make it better using the ideas of the various women who suggested some changes. It needed work, and I knew when I first wrote it, but I wanted to get some comments and use them as a guideline for any revision that I came up with and here it is.

Ok, I'm going to tell you fellas how to do this successfully, and trust me I know.

If you are already getting all the action you can handle then please just put a smiley as your comment and go about your merry way.

If not here is a guide on how to blog to meet women.

1. Make your blog readable, it's really not so much content, but how it is presented. Short paragraphs work best if you want them to get to the bottom with out losing there place. Don't be afraid of the enter key, hit it every four or five lines. It helps them from losing there place, and trust me if you lose them once, there on to the next blog before they have read the first sentence.


3. Women read blogs you don't like. So you must read blogs you don't like. Doesn't mean you have to write them. Go where they go, because there not coming straight to you.

4. Realize the importance of a comment. This is the number one thing that will get you noticed. Comment on everything you read, or don't read, just comment.

5. Exception to Rule 4. If you comment in a negative on a negative post, or come on to strong, or type something that should have been in an're doing it wrong, use your head. Don't get extremely wordy, If they are blogging about a bad day, don't try to fix it with a cliche' just try to say something encouraging or even better just say that you understand. She's a big girl and can deal with her own problems, she's not blogging about it because she needs a hero, she is just venting.

6. Flirt, Flirt, Flirt, The women on here are very sexual, and they have the power of choice, you gotta make just enough of an ass of your self to get noticed with out being considered an asshole. There is a find line, but it's a tight rope we must walk together.

7. They can see you when you lurk in there blogs, they often check out the profiles of people who visit but don't comment. They won't email you though. If you keep coming back and do not comment, you will start creeping them out. Even if you are just coming back cuz you like that blog means nothing, you have just entered into to stalker status weather you wanted to or not. Just comment.

8. This isn't a bar, and these women have a lot of choices, understand that you must compete with guys that are better looking and have bigger dicks. Be yourself, be confident, take chances and make silly comments to get them to smile. They will notice you most of all you can make them laugh.

9. Know where the women hang out. Have you noticed that some male blogs are just stuffed full of women? Everything posted on it is filled by 20 to 40 comments by different women? If you haven't, then here's your chance to know the biggest secret of Blogland. Comment on the blogs of men, women do not just read the post, they read every comment that goes along with it. Yours included.

10. Use a pic other then your cock. Don't want to show your face? Women want to see what's sexy to them, and even though a few like to look at cocks, they don't want you introducing it right off the bat. A lot of women want to see your butt, your shoulders, and your chest, give them something different that sets you apart from the millions of dick photos on this site. Do a search for men for fun, and trust me you will see what I'm talking about. The ratio is like 100 dick pics to 1 pic of something else. Your dick isn't going to get noticed in the sea of dicks, other body parts will stand out like a sore thumb. And I want to be a sore thumb!

11. You won't get noticed, you won't get people to your own blog, and you won't get random emails from women everyday, if you do not comment comment comment comment comment. I can't stress this enough.

12. Spell check everything, almost every woman I have ever met has an inner English teacher inside of them looking to slap the wrists of anyone who makes a typo!

I just can't tell you how much easier it makes it if they have seen you around, if they already know a little bit about you. Don't believe me? Try it for a week, and lets compare. This is very important, think about it, they see you everyday in blogs laughing and smiling and having fun, and that's what a lot of women are looking for, someone who is comfortable and confident in a public forum. This is what separates the lurkers, the creeps, the stalkers from the guys who get there emails answered.

For you already successful bloggers, did I miss anything? Thanks to all the women who commented on the earlier version of this, if you have anything more to add please let me know and I'll keep revising it for future use. Let's keep our favorite place to blog fun and flirty and a place to share everything we think about.

For the guys who commented before, let me know if it is working for you, or if you have found something that is really working that I forgot to mention or should change. This is an open document and all comments and critiques are more than welcome.

Lets keep this up to date, so comment and tell me what you think I should change or add for future versions of it.

rm_AnOddGirl 58F
3469 posts
5/12/2006 9:25 am

Excellent! No wonder all the women here want YOU!
Oh your #5 is dead on. Just give us 20 mins to bitch (we already know the answer or what we are going to do about it) but just listening to the vent is key! This also works outside of blogdom.
#12 - Yes spell checking is soooo important, if nothing else it shows that the poster cared enough to take the 10 seconds to do it!
I just hope the men here READ and COMPREHEND all you posted!


Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:24 pm:
don't be afraid to spread the word and link to this on your blog if you want to.

rm_coathanger1 49M
859 posts
5/12/2006 9:32 am

Hey, did you know some of the women here take flirting seriously. Be warned, they will spank you for it to!!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:26 pm:
like spanking is a bad thing!

GossipJunkie 41F

5/12/2006 9:34 am

Another good way to catch the ladies: write a list about how to catch 'em.
I say this in a good way because the ladies (like you mention in #9) flock to certain mens blogs--those with lists like this are a prime example. Women will check this out just to see if you got it right and they will also read every comment to see if what they might suggest hasn't already been addressed by another commenttee (another reference to #9)
Another suggestion: One line blogs are usually a waste of time (unless you're an established blogger.) Why go through the trouble of a checking out a blog with a catchy title only to be met with one line not even worth reading? Not a good thing.

"Dance like nobody's watching"

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:27 pm:
Great suggestions! a list about how to do it.....hmmmmm

rnnr1000 43M
12 posts
5/12/2006 9:37 am

Great Post. I'm new to blogland and will use many of your suggestions.

Your like Yoda!

Thanks for help'in the little man!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 9:47 am:
haha...more like vader! JOIN THE DARK SIDE

534 posts
5/12/2006 9:53 am

You have been doing your homework....Great stuff and so flippin true...See my blog One Eyed Green Monster...that's exactly what I mean.....Gatta love it...Take care... ~D~

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:27 pm:
Not home work, just a little common sense, and lessons' i've learned the hard way.

toys2us 59M/59F
147 posts
5/12/2006 9:54 am

Even those of us not looking to be noticed. Agree with most of the points. Especially the #1, will back click on any blog that is a one page, ONE paragraph. Thanks for the advice, Toys

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:28 pm:
getting attention is one thing, keeping it is the hard part.

alphuctup 41M

5/12/2006 10:03 am

Once again very informative, thanks. As a loosely related side-issue I was wondering how bloggers in general view non-blogging commenters such as myself?

For example does the fact that you bloggers do all the work and yet non-bloggers like me get to enjoy the fruits of your labour cause any resentment? Or are you just pleased to be able to reach a wider audience?

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 10:23 am:
Personaly I don't think its a big deal, I like having a wide active audience who will put there two cents in, weather they blog or not does not matter to me.

meerkittykat 43F

5/12/2006 11:29 am

Just like the first one, great post. I find the guys with well-written blogs in Blogland an utter thrill to read, and those guys respond right back. I get blog stalkers and it drives me crazy. I called out one I was seeing EVERY DAY...invited him to even say hello. Big chicken. Most women, even us assertive ones, like a guy who's got some cojones and will actually DO something to garner attention. Otherwise...we just laugh and imagine the little items in the pics shrivelling away.
Something about correct spelling. I don't want to date a rocket scientist, but he'd better have the brains to figure out the correct amount to tip at dinner.
You speak well for yer species

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:30 pm:
Maybe he was just super duper shy?

HBowt2 60F

5/12/2006 2:12 pm

formula blogging.....something else we have to watch out for....but you're right Kal...nothing more attractive than an man who reads, writes and thinks......

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:32 pm:
haha, let me know if anyone comes to your blog and uses this as a guide. It would be very interesting to see if anyone puts it to good use.

waerlookin4fun 51M/47F

5/12/2006 3:42 pm

I agree with the spell check and yes please make a comment even if it's a smiley face or whatever. Also when making a comment please, please don't make it crude. Flirty is good, crude is not. I sometimes stop in at blogs I'm watching just to see what others are saying and now I'm a standard member for a while so I can't see who's quoted me so I have to go back and look (hope that doesn't make me a stalker)

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:33 pm:
flity and crude there is a deffinate line between the two, and I don't understand why it seems so abstract sometimes.

champagnechaser 42F
1639 posts
5/12/2006 3:54 pm

I suggest you teach these guys how to write an email! There are still many lost puppys out there who do not have a clue.

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:17 pm:
you sure been thinking about puppys alot lately!

Phuc_Buddy 47M

5/12/2006 5:47 pm

Thanks for reposting K. As you can see by my blog I, with the help of our mutual friends, did a complete rewrite of my profile and have just started the slow long journey into getting myself out there and noticed.

For any of you who doubt Kaliedascope's advice my advice to you is to take his suggestions seriously and don't expect instant gratification. Like relationships in the real world those here in blogville also take time to cultivate. Oh and be yourself the woman on here have an uncanny ability to sense bullshit!

Thanks again K!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 5:55 pm:
Thanks for this PB! I appreciate the testimonal.

Phuc_Buddy 47M

5/12/2006 6:04 pm

You are welcome K. Also let me add one thing. And addition to #7 - if you have a blog watch who stops by your blog. I have noticed some of the same people lurking in my blog and said what the heck let's try an email. It worked....have a new friend and may have convinced someone to start their own blog. Beyond that only time will tell!

woofff 42F

5/12/2006 7:55 pm


Are utterly irrepresible.

Shall return later when am more critical, am just in awe of your ability to turn around something that for me is supposed to be REFRESHING into a just-so technique

Still giggling,

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 11:11 pm:
does sound kinda like an infomerical doesn't it?

just wait till I break out the free ginsu knifes.

clitalicious67 50F

5/12/2006 8:41 pm

Great post! You are clever AND good looking nice combo!!! Hugs C~

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 11:12 pm:
the post? or me?

jdptw 30M
4 posts
5/12/2006 10:32 pm

Hey thanks for the advice. I'lll see if it works. Great blog!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 11:12 pm:
come back and let me know.

seek_my_flame 41F
465 posts
5/13/2006 3:09 am

Now, I am impressed! It seems that you ve been doing a lot of homework, Kalied! Well done...

... but now, how the hell should I spot the "naturals" from the "made" ones? Everybody is going to do the same things, just to "catch" the girls' attention... I always thought that everything a boy learns during the army time, sucks! Cause everybody is doing/saying some same bull...

Guys, keep everything that K is telling you here in mind but use YOUR OWN IMAGINATION as well! IMPROVISE!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 8:51 am:
I didn't think of it that way, thanks for your input this will help tons on the next revision.

rm_sexxielynn 54F
72 posts
5/13/2006 7:11 am

So I am guessing that most of these rules hold true for women too.
So in response to 4, 7 & 11.
Heres my comment!

BTW, I think it is a great list, it all makes sense, now like Champagne said, if only we could get more decent emails

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 8:51 am:
How to write an email just might be my next project.

clitalicious67 50F

5/13/2006 7:54 am

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/12/2006 11:12 pm:
the post? or me?


Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 8:52 am:
That looks like my tie, I want it back.

clitalicious67 50F

5/13/2006 11:39 am

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 8:52 am:
That looks like my tie, I want it back.

Hmmm...Cum and get it!!!!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 11:50 am:
Well I thought we could be civil about this, but since you so obviously deserve a spanking for taking my tie, I will have to put you over my knee!

This going to hurt me a lot more then it is going to hurt you.

clitalicious67 50F

5/13/2006 12:01 pm

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 11:50 am:
Well I thought we could be civil about this, but since you so obviously deserve a spanking for taking my tie, I will have to put you over my knee!

This going to hurt me a lot more then it is going to hurt you

Hmmm if you think you can spank me...then come on...but I tell ya what I will give you the tie if I can have the hat in your picture Maybe I should just spank you instead

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 12:15 pm:
You can't have that hat! How bout you just give me the tie, and take the spankin like a big girl

clitalicious67 50F

5/13/2006 12:24 pm

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 12:15 pm:
You can't have that hat! How bout you just give me the tie, and take the spankin like a big girl

Hmmmm iffin' I can't have the hat...then I am not givin' you the tie cum and get it like a big boy then

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 12:36 pm:
all right! bend over here I cum!

clitalicious67 50F

5/13/2006 12:48 pm

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 12:36 pm:
all right! bend over here I cum!

Smirking...Assuming THE POSITION...but NOT holding my breath...hmmmm maybe I will do my nails while I am waiting...

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 12:53 pm:
you must have been diving in the back of my blog and reading about my hand fetish.

clitalicious67 50F

5/13/2006 1:11 pm

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 12:53 pm:
you must have been diving in the back of my blog and reading about my hand fetish.

Who me? Nahhh must have been one of my evil twin(s)!!!!

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
5/13/2006 1:39 pm

This is a really nice post and very on target. I like to get to know people a bit before I date them and reading blog posts and comments it is a wonderful way to learn about people.

I think the importance of this holds true even more so for folks who only have a body part picture or no picture at all on their ad. Pictures convey a lot and if one is not in the ad or it's just a body part it's difficult to tell much about the person. Good or bad, the comments fill in a lot of the blanks so to speak.

Great post!!!


Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/13/2006 7:57 pm:
I totally agree, and it doesn't have to be one comment and forget you ever been there, back and forth banter is a whole lotta fun...see above

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
5/13/2006 8:57 pm

LMAO!!! The banter is a lot of fun!!!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/14/2006 5:33 am:
thats what it really is about isn't it? as long as the comments show up when they are supposed to and don't take hours or days to post.

007sexy40plus 52F  
7603 posts
5/14/2006 8:57 am

Great post again even if it is revised. It is still on target.

Can I hire you to monitor my blog?

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/14/2006 9:21 am:
blog monitoring is 100k per year

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
5/14/2006 10:44 am

#s 7, 10, 12.

7 - Not all of us do that, but if you never comment, and we see you reading us all the time, we do wonder ... a comment is a free way to contact us, and if you don't, we'll pay attention to those who show interest.

10 - Read our profiles. The number of women who say "no dick pics" should give you a clue. Personally, I'd rather unwrap my presents myself. I don't mind rummaging through the wrapping to get there.

12 - Yes! And for my esteemed host, there are some things a spell checker won't catch: there and their, weather and whether ...

Make me laugh! I'll pay attention!

Kaliedascope61 replies on 5/14/2006 2:14 pm:
I always get whether and weather messed up. Thats why I need an editor.

rm_sloman44 61M
701 posts
5/16/2006 6:44 pm

Kalie, you got my cherry (first) post in your unrevised edition of this blog so I thought it only fitting that you got my number two as well. Oops! Did I say number two? Gotta hand it to you though. Now you have all the ladies rewriting this for you. You ARE the man! Thanks again for all the great tips.

rm_chanda69 49F
418 posts
5/19/2006 8:54 pm

excellent advice!! if i may, i have something to add- when adding comments to a lady's blog, do just that- COMMENT! i personally do NOT want to be told "want to get to know you better, when can we chat, would like to meet you, WHERE ARE YOU?...." the getting to know comes with time, if you really want to know more, read more & comment! read the profile! if it says i don't chat, don't ask! as far as the meet & location questions, THAT creeps me out! if hes the kind of guy that would "meet" the kind of woman that would "meet" him after that little interaction, i want nothing to do with him!!!

ok now that ive gone this far i'll just have to blog it & link here.
anyway thanks for putting out the word to the unaware! since i know you're "caged" right now, maybe you'll have had 1,000 views by the time you read this!!


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