Kaliedascope61 42M
3157 posts
3/31/2006 2:42 pm

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I put up a post recently said I was thinking about leaving.

I'm still thinking that, even with all the positive feed back.

I know this is the web, and everywhere you go there are people who are not who they say they are, you can find them offline as well. Everyone lies.

I like to comment on my friends blogs. people I chat with, or just simply blog with. But I swear to god I've seen more swinging dicks then I ever fucking cared for.

I want nudity to be exciting to me again. The female form is a beatufiul thing. It is no longer a mystery, I see it exposed and displayed like it was meat at a butchers shop.

I've taken nude photos of myself, I've sent them to people who have asked for them. Key word...asked for them.

For you men who are about to comment and tell me this is a fucking sex site, it is the norm for xxx hardcore nudity.

My answer to you...exactly, go ahead and do what I did, and explore this possibility, do a search for men, and on that first page tell me if you saw more then one face!

Look around fellas, do you really just want to be seen as a dick? its not your most attractive feature it never will be, and it will never get you noticed.

If you really feel the need that you have to show it off, then don't make it your primary photo, and use some common sense, really you should know this. Your dick, is something women want to be surprised by. They only way you are going to make them want it, is if you surround it with mystery.

Frankly, have some respect, not just for the women, but most importantly yourself, what kind of man introduces there dick to a woman? and then expects her to fall all over him?

This is a wake up call for all you lunitics out there who don't have the self esteem or respect for themselves to realize that is exactly what shows in a picture of your dick.

You want to know what a woman sees when the first thing they see is your cock? I will tell you, they see your despraration, they just singled you out as a weakling.

If you have gotten this far, then well you already know what your self respecting male conterparts think of you.

Just so you know that I'm not just cracking on the men here, the women have lost it also. I read profiles all the time, about how they are looking for someone special, some one nice, someone they can introduce there kids too....yet there it is, staring me right in the face, your pussy.

Women are sexy, they truly are. But there is a difference between making me think you are sexy, and making me think im your obgyn. Sure the swinging dicks are going to love it, but you mentioned on your profile no cock shots...how ironic.

Recently I did some reserch on dating sites, just like this little friendly one, as I seen it referred to as. We have all been duped. Alot of these profiles that we think are being made by fat guys in tightie whities eating cheetos and jerking there orange dicks all day, are really made by none other than...guess who, your friendly site. I wonder if that will make it through the screener.

Im done, for now.

I'll be back.

I have much to say about alot of things, I will always have a story to tell, and because there are so many that want to read it, I will remain here, and at the same time explore my options elsewhere. You won't have to look for me, all my blogs will be the same here as they are elsewhere.

MWWwantsmore 52F

3/31/2006 2:53 pm

You are right about all that, there are more XXX rated shots on here then on some porn sights. I tried something the other day and it proved my point, I changed my main profile pic to the nude one and got slammed by comments and winks within minutes of it posting. Too many guys just look at the pics only. I dont like to see a dick in the main profile pic either. Of course there are reasons that I cant show my face. I think I am staying on here just to blog also.

Good luck in whatever you decide

2943 posts
3/31/2006 3:26 pm

Would this be a bad time to ask for a pic?...just joking.
I feel like I should take my ass pic down now...anyways hope your mood lightens soon, don't let this place get to you...it's so not worth it...((((hugs)))


jadedbabe78 107F

3/31/2006 4:00 pm

Can I get an AMEN!!

I like something to be left to the imagination. PLUS, I'm a visual person, like a lot of women are. I have to see the face to be attracted. I'm not attracted to a dick (either way, lol.)

I love creative pics. Some thought behind them. If I wanted to see a bunch of cock...I'd throw in a porno.

This may be a sex site....BUT, the biggest sexual organ is the mind. So come on guys...use your mind to entice...not some flacid looking penis.

Some nudity in pics is fine...but a full on shot of cock or pussy...it leaves nothing to the imagination. And that's where it stems for me. And I think a lot of others, too.

Just my .02.


Lioness_girl 46F
3494 posts
3/31/2006 6:09 pm

I totally agree that a guy is a dickhead if all he has to show of himself is a cocky picture that looks a bit ugly.


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sideline1968 49F

3/31/2006 6:20 pm

Do you feel better since your rant? I know I felt better after writing mine. I even did my own post about this subject not to long ago. I hadn't thought about searching for the women, but I do know that the women that coat puts on his hotlist don't have pussy shots up. To tell the truth ... I find them almost as unattractive as the dick shots.

intierzha 44M

3/31/2006 7:53 pm

I thought I'd offer a male perspective (besides your own of course on this. Yeah, the organ shots are rather useless, and I for one, don't like seeing them much when I post on blogs that have a lot of male posters. Not that nudity bothers me, but I feel that maybe men should have some respect for their body and for others, same as you. Some of the best pics I have seen as far as the women have been concerned have been face/and or clothed shots. Call me crazy...

I also have the same feeling about being on here. Most of the time, I just blog and respond and write. (if anyone wants to listen, if not call it working out mental energy) Any-who, simply my thoughts on the matter.

Oh, I'm not so sure the clothed photos work so much for us guys either... but then we do outnumber the ladies by a fair margin on this site.


rm_DarknStar 55F
2823 posts
3/31/2006 7:54 pm

Your rant makes, so much sense to me. I rather have a face pic of a guy, than his dick....and...Well for Me! I do have alittle more respect for myself. That why you and others here in blogland, only get my eyes. Want to see more of me? ASK for it?

angelgrrl 49F

3/31/2006 8:43 pm

It is really good hearing this from a man. There's no harm in leaving some things for when you know someone a bit better.

Sorceror07 55M

3/31/2006 9:06 pm

i don't have a dick pic... but i DO have a nude beach shot lol!...obviously i don't use it for my lead off photo hell, THIS one is scary enough eh?

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...

mycin62 55F

3/31/2006 9:31 pm

I completely agree with on the dick shots, I personally can't stand them. It kills me when guys e-mail me and attach a photo of their dicks, like that's supposed to impress me. I got one at home to look at, I don't need to look at theirs. I like to see a face shot, or a creative semi clothed body shot. I like to have something left to the imagination.

mangomamiCT 43F

3/31/2006 9:34 pm

wish ya wouldnt go ! I enjoy your honesty, and have really enjoyed your interviews , you ask the perfect questions!

catseyes23 62F

4/1/2006 2:22 am

"Just so you know that I'm not just cracking on the men here, the women have lost it also. I read profiles all the time, about how they are looking for someone special, some one nice, someone they can introduce there kids too....yet there it is, staring me right in the face, your pussy."

Well, I for one am real. You can see that from my amateur attempts at photography in my network, Kal.

Nudity is one thing, if it is done tastefully but I would NEVER post a shot of my genitals. God forbid!


champagnechaser 42F
1639 posts
4/1/2006 7:39 am

I think that the guys are just being guys. I think since they enjoy viewing X-rated pics of women, they assume that women want to see x-rated pics as well. I get this, that's why it doesn't really bother me whether or not they have a cock pic in their profile. What matters is what they say. What baffles me is when thay have a cock pic, and its ugly! Now why would they do that?

As far as the ladies, I am at a loss as to why they would want to expose their pink parts to the world.

HBowt2 60F

4/1/2006 10:26 am

Great post Kal.....I hate to get the mail that has cock pics attached...it shows me so little about the sender and yet tells me so much about him.....some exposures should be kept in real time....

rm_cant_be_true 39M

4/1/2006 4:47 pm

"Explicit Photo. Visible only on Profile." As a standard member that's what I see when, and I can only guess, a woman is showing her special private areas and a cock is showing his cock. And I'm pretty happy about that censorship, I mean I took health classes in school and know what they are suppose to look like so I don't care much for the variations of the same. Besides if when I first joined this site I saw 3 million cocks flapping around I'd be scared of getting flogged and would probably hike up my skirt and run for the closest exit.

My advice, grab yourself a machete and start circumsising.

runzwithknives 61F

4/1/2006 8:26 pm

Kal, I LOVE you!!
Not evereyone lies...I pride myself on telling the truth. I expect honesty. And I have met wonderful men here that were not liars either. Keep the faith.

meerkittykat 43F

4/1/2006 8:40 pm

Very well put, and I couldn't agree more. I like a little mystery, little imagination. Shadows and lighting over a body are loads more erotic than an run-of-the-mill dick or an overblown clit. Be imaginative, for gawd's sake.

NSAAddict 43F

4/2/2006 2:30 pm

I understand your point K but I'd hate to see you go! This site has a lot of issues but I know it's the bloggers who keep me here and you are one of my favorites. So ignore the dick pics and the pussy postmortems, stick to blogging. Love ya K, {=} NSA

gypsy1629 42F

4/2/2006 7:50 pm

I am in full agreement on all the XXX pics that are posted as a main photo...not the best way to greet and meet in my book....but what can you do other than block the explicit photos?....not too much at all...

I would hate to see you leave as I recently got into the blogging and you were one of the first peeps to give me some sort of encouragement to keep on blogging (even though I have yet to write much)...

Your blogs are something I keep up to date on, they cause me to think, bring me humor, take me away from my own miseries, show me that I do think like others...in other words I love to read your blog, I look forward to it and hope you decide to stay...


Kaliedascope61 replies on 4/3/2006 8:06 am:
thank you for this comment, and I really do appreciate that you get so much from what I write. I probably won't go anywhere else, just something I'm considering, testing the waters so to speak.

starvingnow 49F

4/2/2006 8:03 pm

If I go back and think about when I first started a profile on AdultFriendFinder up until now, I have gone through phases and it would be interesting to know if others have gone through the same phases. I first started with only pussy pics and a vulgar profile...yes, starvingnow and desperate. I then slowly changed things as time passed. I think everyone needs to find their path to what they are looking for. This website is a platform to express yourself from G to X-rated. There are many paths one can take..from blogging to webcaming to just searching. If you watch some bloggers over a long period of time, you will see that we all transform.

catseyes23 62F

4/3/2006 7:57 am

Kal,I am speaking for myself here, but I think that a lot of the nice people who have replied to your posts would really like a reply, even if it is in the negative.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 4/3/2006 8:08 am:
I'm working on it, in my own special way I am currently implementing new reply to comments procedure!

catseyes23 62F

4/3/2006 10:21 am

That is nice to know, Considering you think we are all "Dickheads,"

What are you going to call us next?? And how do you think most of us would like to call you??!

Maybe you don't give a damn, but for me, I really don't think you deserve what you are looking for, and that is RECOGNITION, right? Lol.

You simply do not deserve it, because you are so full of yourself in your ramblings.

I think you are rude to think of the people on this site this way.


Kaliedascope61 replies on 4/3/2006 10:30 am:
you can call me an asshole if you like, I truly do not mind. My opinion's are rude, and I voice them in rude ways, that is true.

weather or not I deserve to get the reconition I am seeking or not isn't really up to anybody but the people who come to read my blog.

I'm not afraid to take a stance, to call things as I see it. I've said it all along, I like debate, I welcome it, I want it.

Sometimes you have to get under someone's skin and go further then what you intended to, in order to provoke the reaction your looking for. Decietful, manpulitive? ya probaly.

I don't rant often like this, usually I can't be bothered.

Personaly I think your a classy woman, I enjoy your blog, your pictures are extremly sexy, and when I have talked to you, you have always come across with a lot of grace and elegance. All things I admire about you, as well as your ability to speak your mind when you feel you have to.

just4uandme33 44F

4/4/2006 9:19 am

I too agree with your thoughts on the dick pics ,, gets kinda boring . i'm at the point if you seen one dick you seen them all . and that case may be true on this site ..lolshows the intelligence of men and what they think with ,, but hey that has been a long time proven fact. just my thoughts,, men & woman , have some dignity.. if you want to find that special someone an organ shot will not get you the quality your looking for .. be tasteful ..

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