Parental Guidance is Advised  

KMA5 41M
384 posts
7/11/2006 8:17 pm

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9/8/2006 5:58 am

Parental Guidance is Advised

I know this is kinda off subject for this time of night but I thought this was some good advice for those out there who may have some type of blockage with their parents or as parents themselves are finding things hard.
The Golden Rule and possibly the 2nd rule to the ever popular "Because I said so" rule...... Parents may fuck up but the fact that they keep trying is what proves their true intentions. I have made a bunch of mistakes I wish I could have gone back in time to fix; many which bring me tears to this day. The most important thing however is that I know my daughter is safe and well because of these choices. Many parents feel the same way, many have absolutely fucked up ways of showing they care but hey, thats how they can show it- cut them some slack. I watched the special Christopher Titus had out on Showtime. His dad kicked him out at an early teen age, giving him beer, calling him names and letting him learn from his mistakes with sometimes almost near death results... but he did learn from all that, it made him stronger if not somewhat dysfunctional. But aren't we all?
Being a parent means we are always right and yeah, we can be a bit rough at times but we aint always gonna be around. If the kids don't learn now, what will happen when we aren't there. If your kid tries running across the street without looking, snatch them and shake them; it is a great option to them being snatched by a Toyota's chrome grill at some 60 mph. If you smell herb in the house and you haven't been able to buy any in weeks because of the house note payments, ground them/ shout at them/ do something parental; its better than having to bail them out of jail or pay for their rehab bills.
Do the best you can and keep trying, please. If you can pop viagra to keep fucking, drink some coffee and keep parenting


demonicsexkitten 42F
10689 posts
7/15/2006 6:04 am

and on the bright side... when your kids grow up... after you've screwed up, and they've screwed up... often... you reach a point when it all somehow makes sense. and you apologize.

well... in my case, just over a year ago mom got a divorce, then a b/f. and things that i would never dare say to my mom... he could and did. or even if my brother or i had pointed out... she wouldn't have listened. she came to me and apologized for some of the things she'd yelled at me about or been angry for. namely my first "serious" b/f was 17 yrs older than me, and i went alone to egypt without telling her. both happened after i was adult, but i'm STILL scared of my mom. and she was mad.

i've seen others on this site mention the apologies and forgivenesses on both sides once they've reached adult status... it's cool.

*hugs and kisses*


KMA5 41M
771 posts
7/15/2006 1:13 pm

if my gf or my child's bf was 17 years older, there would have been some serious smoke in the city. Literally. Shit would be getting set on fire.
Glad things came through, Tips. You turned out pretty good


demonicsexkitten 42F
10689 posts
7/15/2006 6:18 pm

well: i was 21 at the time. though there were a few battles... ending with "you cannot see him if you're living under this roof". so i made arrangements and moved out a few months later. (NOT in with the b/f. rented a house with a friend. though that ended up being a fiasco. sure learn who is/isn't your friend that way!!)

and thanks


demonicsexkitten 42F
10689 posts
7/15/2006 6:20 pm

oh yeah... said b/f is why i have a "daughter" (re: the "4 rachael" part of my YIM handle). of all things... she's 15. he let her go to tennessee to meet her internet b/f and his family. now... if i really had any say in her life? i'd have freaked and slapped her dad up longside the head for being nuts. well... at least freaked. he's obviously more trusting than i am.


KMA5 41M
771 posts
9/8/2006 5:58 am

trusting, oblivious, high... is there a difference nowadays?
Nice to see 1 parent has a head on their shoulders


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