Growing up...  

JohnerH 36M
44 posts
5/15/2005 4:57 am

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Growing up...

I didn't exactly have a very normal up bringing,

Some of the people that are close to me would say that I grew up too high too fast.

I started spending time with older people at a very young and tender age.

Because my mom was a lecturer I ended spending a lot of time with Uni guys and doing exactly what they did. Now I'm talking the full 9 yards.

Everything from going out, to sometimes even going to their lectures (which was quite weird, I don't recall having anything better to do at the time), but all n all I tended to grew too fast because of it, experiencing things too young...

Now days I look back and think, god I wish I just had the normal growing up cycle.

You know, just doing kids stuff, fafing about, playing about being silly and what not. But nooooo, what did I go and do, I started programming when I 12... By the time I as 16 I was helping out students with their masters in their final year...

Add insult to injury, I ended up going out with a final year girl when I was 17... That itself lasted 4 years... Why oh, why didn't I just spent more time looking good and trying to fit in High School? Why wasn't my aim to be the most popular guy in there like most other guys of my age?

Good, I ask myself, why on god's green earth did I rush things?

Could I just have taken the normal path?

But then again I think this question applies to a lot of people.

I've across a lot of people, after chatting away a bit the exact same question comes up, and then one day I started thinking, what is normal? What is the "normal" path anyway?

How do you class it? Who came up with the definition of the word?

As one grows older and adds culture to our general knowledge we look back in history and see, there nothing bloody normal about anything!

2 world wars, 1 cold war, from dictatorship to revolutions...The world's had it all...

Now days, every single person I come across has a different story to tell on how they grew up, and how they became what they are today.

Some of them drastic some of them quite tame, but in one way or another there is always something particular that sets that person a side. None of them can say they had a "normal" life.

After thinking about it for a bit, I came to the conclusion that if people where to always have that "normal" up bringing that everyone dreams about, wouldn't we all be a bit the same, only to be set a side by culture?

See, I remember an old series that screened when I was a weee boy... It was called, Beverly Hills 90210...

Now looking back at it, I tend to think if that's the "normal" way to grow in America (which, note I'm not saying it is...I know better then that...), it seems like they're all twins with different parents, if you catch my drift...

They all talk alike, they all look alike...

But isn't it great that in reality we are not alike at all?! Isn't it beautiful that for every person we get the privilege of knowing there's always something different that sets them a side?

I dunno what I'm going on about here, perhaps I'm just trying to justify why I'm weird by trying to say that other people are like me too, you know different...

I tend to think now that I am what I, I grew up to become what I am today and finally I got to the point that I can say..."I'm nor bloody normal, and I'm damn proud of it!"

Like me there are millions of people out there alike in this sort of situation.

Expect for one thing.

There people that still think that juts because they're not a chip on they're cultures old block and they're not considered to be very normal, they should just set themselves a side and hide...


At the end of the day if a weirdo like me can come out of it and be proud of what I am, I hope I'll have the privilege to meet other people like me, who simply don't know the definition of the word



P.S.: I really gotta learn to wake up before posting...

rm_redairsxybig 41F

5/15/2005 5:42 am

mmmmmmm all this after we chatted your getting deeper!

gotta love it though, we are meant to all be very unique and its something we should all be proud of who we are and what made us that way!

keep at J your doing great.


wyvernrose 39F  
3961 posts
5/15/2005 5:53 am

Normal is subjective, we all travel our own paths, whichever direction they may lead us


rm_Elysia2005 44F
412 posts
5/15/2005 8:17 pm

I've finally gotten to the point where most of the time (not ALL of the time, mind you) I really don't care whether or not I'm normal or what people think of me. If they like me, great. If not - well, fuck 'em if they can't take a joke, y'know?

But J, my dear, part of what I love about you is your not-normal-ness.

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