Your relationship after a threesome..  

IrishKev 41M
1015 posts
6/13/2006 2:57 am

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Your relationship after a threesome..

For those of you who have had a threesome sexual experience, what if any were your thoughts after the act. I'm curious to know how it affected your relationship for good or bad. Did you see each other the same? Did you see your partner experience sexual pleasure in a different way than when you are sexually involved??


Optiskeptic 70M
2490 posts
6/13/2006 3:39 am

Interesting question Kev! I'll be interested in the answers you get. For me, I don't have much experience of threesomes and when I did, I was the 'other man' and I really enjoyed it - but I was the newbie and when you enter into someone else's relationship you discover just how little you know. Just things like what's the protocol for getting naked? What about toys? Does he want to be involved or not, what are her favourite postions? I could go on, but you catch my drift. I found my few experiences were just wonderful (perhaps not for the people I partnered) because it was such a privilege to be allowed such intimacy with people who were, in reality, almost strangers. The downside was that I never felt as if I was really part of this, not really giving anything...


IrishKev 41M
1523 posts
6/13/2006 9:52 am

I had a few threesomes with partners and although they were brilliant it's hard to keep a little bit of jealousy sneaking in. For example with my last partner we had a regular thing going with one of her friends and a few times she accused me of fancying this other girl. She caught herself on straight away but I felt strange doing it after that cause I wasn't as relaxed as much as usual so we eventually had to stop it.

It wasn't so much a problem in my first relationship so I guess different people handle it different ways. It's definitely stranger when you're the third person because you don't have any feelings involved...still good though


shar1 56F
606 posts
6/25/2006 10:34 am

I have had a number of 3sums, both MFM and FFM. After the first one I was unsure as to how he would be feeling and what he would be thinking about me, and I suppose there were the insecurities of 'never being enough'. But I have to say, that the 3sums have not affected our relationship, still going strong and if we are playing with other's it a mutual decision and not jumped into lightly. I have no regrets.


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