For all those guys out there.  

InnocentKitten2 32F
6 posts
11/14/2005 8:53 pm

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For all those guys out there.


How do you let a girl know you like them?

When you are trying to let a girl you have a crush on know you like them, what do you do?

I don't know if this is right, when a guy acts like they like a girl one day, then appearing as though they don't exist the next day a sign that the guy likes her?

What about if the two of them have known each other for 3 years and they both know they like each other?

When a guy acts like the sweetest person in the world. One who is honest, patient, everything a girl could ever want in a guy. Then acting like a completely different person, a complete jerk, when he is around his friends normal?

I just don't understand men. Does a guy like that like a girl or is he just trying to mess with her or is he totally uninterested in her?

JustMike008 42M
6 posts
11/14/2005 9:40 pm

No, it's not a sign that the guy likes you. It's a sign that you're trying to explain away the reality that you see in front of you.

Men are results-oriented. Extremely so. If we don't feel something will work out, there is a percentage that will simply cut their losses unless you provide them some reason to pursue. Others will pursue you more. It doesn't matter how long you've known each other --- if you give a guy a reason to suspect you've lost interest, a lot of men will ALSO lose interest.

As for why men suddenly begin treating women badly --- it, sadly, is because that is what has worked for others in the past. Acting utterly disinterested, far too often, has given the man what he ultimately seeks. So, they have learned a lesson. All men know that. If a man acts like he's interested, it will scare a lot of women off (I once ended a very new relationship with somebody I had no interest in by telling her that I loved her. Worked like a charm).

If they only do it in front of their friends, it's because they respect their friends more than you. If a guy does that to you, don't give them any sex (hate to be blunt) and they will cease doing so in short order. You need to make the man respect you. If there are no negative consequences for treating you in less than a completely respectful manner, no matter who the company is, then the behavior will continue, unabated. Again, always keep in mind that men are results-oriented. If we can STILL get what we want even if we treat you shabbily, then there is no reason to treat you well, outside of those guys that just don't think disrespecting women is cool. And, since you are on this site, you have become painfully aware (no doubt) that not all men have a problem treating women with an utter lack of respect.

And, when I like a girl, I will first see if there is ANY sign of interest on her part. Crushes come and go and I'm not about to expend a great deal of effort on a dead end. Especially since I realize that looks are brutally overrated in women. A great body and a crap personality is miserable to be around. An OK body with a great personality is insanely sexy.

I'd advise, heavily, you talk to whatever guy is doing this to you. The guy, most likely, is oblivious to your concerns.


rm_someone4you 48M
6 posts
11/14/2005 9:41 pm

If a guy likes a girl he should go up tell her. This guy is either shy or immature, he shouldn't be one way and then be completly different when he's around his friends. Probably just a guy macho thing around his friends but if he really like her he shouldn't care what his friends think and go for it but really she may deserve someone who will treat her right if he can't be more of a gentleman. I guess that comes with age lol just my 2 cents lol


Satyr48 69M
1805 posts
11/14/2005 10:07 pm

MEN!!!
Young guys (teens and mentally-teens) do play those head games... But mostly because they haven't yet figured out how they really feel, and what they're willing to commit to. They're still too tied to their peers and buddy groups to have many independent thoughts. That's why they can show attention, and even affection, in private but - once the buddies/peers show up - they don't know if their independent thoughts will be "accepted" by the group and they fall apart like a cheap suit...
There's good news and bad news...
The good news is that we grow out of it and learn to hold our independent thoughts as we cut the buddy-umbilical-cord...
The bad news is that it usually takes about 30 years...

Another thing you should know... that old saying about us guys going into our "second childhood"? WRONG!
From the time we first develop our deepest desires to the day we die, we don't change. If we grew up liking cars & motorcycles, or reading & writing, or sex/rock'n'roll, or hymns at church, or want to be a fireman, or doctor, or surf bum, or ??? - that's what we'll like f-o-r-e-v-e-r... It's just that, somewhere along the way, we are forced to put those things aside - we get married, have kids, get a house, put the kids through school, bills, bills, bills, fight our way up the corporate ladder... Then, all of a sudden, the kids are grown & gone, the mortgage is paid, that job you struggled in all these years has paid off, and you have the free time, freedom, confidence, resources, and peace of mind to go back and get all those old desires out of mothballs and act on them. The frumpy old guy who hits 55 and gets a tattoo and a Harley isn't "reverting". He's finally at a stage where he can tell society "Fuck you!" and do what he's been wanting to do since he was 12.
It's NOT a "second childhood"... but a continuation of the one he had to put on hold all those years.
Deal with it!

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...


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