The sting of rejection  

rm_I_NV_Satiety 48F
206 posts
7/25/2006 1:29 pm

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The sting of rejection

Well, it appears that STOIC and I are finished. He won't talk to me, for whatever reason he has found, and I cannot stand being ignored. To me it's rude and insulting, and it shows just how little I meant to him.

The funny thing is, I didn't expect his rejection to sting quite this badly. I tried to protect myself emotionally, but it seems that he got in some crack in my armor. I'm not sobbing and crazy, but I won't lie, it hurts. I suppose my mistake was in thinking that the passion he showed for me behind closed doors was passion for me, that he cared in some way.

This is an invaluable lesson to me. I hate these learning curves, but at least this time I can recognize that I'm in one. I do appreciate him for teaching me something, indirectly or not.

Thanks, Brad. I really will miss you more than you know.

MaggiesWishes 61F

7/25/2006 3:26 pm

This would make most of us scholars in the class of pain.
Hope you realize that you are worth more than he will ever know.

warm wishes 2ya

rm_bigcxxx79 38M
1 post
7/25/2006 3:35 pm

You know, it's funny how a lot of men seem to have no feelings whatsoever. They say whatever it takes to get some ass, and get it. Sometimes even dating these women for a while and treating them like shit, but the women never leave! That's one of the things i'll never understand. But the women out there like you (that seem to have their head on straight)give themselves to their men thinking it's mutual love and wind up getting their heart broken. From one stranger to another... i'm sorry. I seem to be stuck in the rut of not being the typical man... i don't have the perfect body, and i'm not aggressive or too outgoing (until i get comfortable with them). it seems the world is stuck on what's on the outside vs. what's on the inside. I have met several women that i thought were absolutely beautiful... until they opened their mouth. haha. Looks aren't everything to me, sure there still needs to be SOME attraction of course, but if i find them beautiful on the inside that's when i go crazy. Sorry to go on and on...

CB_2 52F

7/25/2006 3:41 pm

I so know what you're talking about here! It does hurt, doesn't it, when you open yourself up to somebody only to find out they don't actually feel the same way, however much they seemed to. I was really hurt by the thought that he preferred to have no sex at all rather than have sex with me. It will take me a long time to really get over that.


Blogito ergo sum.

p33c3y0 43M

7/25/2006 3:56 pm

i think maybe you should lay off guys whose name start with the letter b. seems to be a theme forming around that. or maybe it's something else.

most often ... people do things for reasons that have nothing to do with anyone else but themselves. that's been my experience anyway. my point being ... i wouldn't internalize it ...

pierd 53M
222 posts
7/25/2006 10:23 pm

"Whenever a door closes, a window opens"

"What doesn't kill us makes us stronger"


Good to hear that you are already beginning to get over it, though I don't think anyone ever completely does - the memory of the parting remains and will always be sad. *hugs*

Some advice: see if you can be charitable. Both of you lost out - you on shattered dreams, him by not being able to appreciate the chance he had. Evidently he wasn't ready, and you have a life to live. No need to blame anyone - it just was not meant to be.

Now you're free to live and grow further. Enjoy it!

more on my blog,

rm_FreeLove999 48F
16127 posts
7/27/2006 2:12 am

i am sorry this has not gone as you would have wished, but i hope you know he is an idiot for not valuing you and above all, you deserve to be with someone who values what you have to offer, not someone who says it is "too much" etc.

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