So Much Crap  

HotTXpussy4U 49F
2177 posts
12/4/2005 11:47 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

So Much Crap I've heard you really never know someone until you move them. Packing, going through boxes... so much crap.

Having spent the last 2 days packing up all his stuff and loading them into the POD - highly recommend this to everyone (the most awesome thing ever invented)...I thought I knew my now ex-husband. I learned I didn't know diddly. He moved in back in August - he had so much stuff it was all still out in the garage to be sorted through - yes, after 4 months - it was all still there. I've heard the title "pack-rat" before but never really knew what it meant until today. Receipts, trash, stupid papers - like mailers, trash, shoes, more shoes...I really couldn't believe all the stuff. Of course, he life before and ways of handling stuff, spilled over to how he lived in this house. I found stuff that was stuffed in drawers - left in wal-mart bags...many many many lunches and tupperware dishes left out in the garage (apparently he was too tired to bring in the house or throw away). I don't know how many times I said "What the F"...but sure he's ears were burning.

You might wonder why he wasn't here to pack all his crap himself - - - well yesterday he needed to sleep - it was more important, so I took him to a hotel. Then he fell sick - and made it appear to his mom (60 miles away) that he was basically dying from throwing up. She called me and wanted me to tend to him at 11:00 at night. Why he couldn't call 911 himself is beyond me. Keep in mind - he doesn't have a car - as they are all in my name and bought before we got married. BUT if you thought you were dying - logical to call for medical assistance, as they are qualified to help. Well, not feeling safe going there (he's pretty pissed about this whole divorce thing)..I call the sherriff and asked if they would go check on him as a courtesy and if he needed medical attention, please help him. Well the sickness that he had all day so he couldn't pack and move his crap to the POD beside the house, it wasn't bad enough because when they came to check on him - he refused any medical attention. At least that's what they said when they called me back. Again - WHAT THE F. SO - at that point I and my family decided that he had no intention of moving his stuff out.

I then packed up all his suitcases with all his clothes, bathroom stuff, dirty laundry that apparently he never had time to do either while I've been away working the disaster in New Orleans..and me and dad went and took that to him. Along with his mean-ass cat. Told him that I would take care of all the POD stuff and that he needed to find his own way to Dallas. He was floored that I was not going to spend an hour and 1/2 on the road taking him - - - after all the hell he had put me through up to that point - fuck him. Plus the police advised that I do not put myself alone with him (apparently he was kind of hostile when they visited). As he only has 1 family member that would come get him and he has no friends to call on - - and he wouldn't spend any money for a shuttle - he's appauled I wouldn't help. Oh well - not my problem anymore.

So that left me to find all his CRAP - - - I'm still working on some of it..the last room of crap.

Don't know why I write all this here - not really looking for comments...though any that post I will surely read. Guess I just needed to vent - and where else better than my blog to do it?

Just find it odd how you never really know someone.....or their crap.

Anthonyblue 64M

12/5/2005 12:17 am

If you had him back before you will have him back again.

You are one of these women that thrives on conflict.

You are a serial victim. All women that take a man back are.

You are attracted to these type of men, and they know it.

It is not your fault, it is in your makeup as a human being.

Plano69 55M

12/5/2005 7:03 am

I've been married for a long time , and I realized I didn't know her still when she refused to go to counseling with me... Looking back now, I see that I covered her bad traits or unkept promises with false hopes and wishful thinking... I'm glad you didn't get more stuck with him via kids, mortgage..etc..
I just wish I had your perseverance.
On another note, what did you do in New Orleans? That sounds like a great story...

2_4_play8 53M
6 posts
12/5/2005 1:17 pm


Once again I find my self reading your blog. I didn't know what bloging was till I heard about it on the Kid Kradok show, any way it seems like a good way for you to vent your frustrations. The more one can talk about it and get it off thier mind the better they will feel. When I was splitting up with my ex and getting custody of my son I would keep one of my friends up till 2o in the mornig some times just to vent. It was really great for him to do that. I guess he knew where I was coming from. Well I will stop chatting on and on. Hey at least he does no have a car and he cant drive around stalking you, that was what I went through and it was hell. Dont take him back, you deserve someone who will respect you and treat you they way you need to be treated. I'm not refereing to my self either.

HotTXpussy4U 49F

12/5/2005 9:29 pm

Well if anyone knows me - they know I don't go backwards in life, I go forwards. I live with no regrets. I never have understood those people that get married again to someone they divorced. Seems to me if it was bad enough for divorce - that's enough said. At least with today's technology I will only have to communicate via email or test message. Just fine with me - - if I ever have to do it.

As I walked out of the courthouse today after filing papers - the clock tower rang 3 times....hmmm, I think that will be my new lucky number. If everything comes in 3's - - well then I am off to a good start.

Feeling SO much better - - even after just finding more of his crap!! LOL

2_4_play8 53M
6 posts
12/6/2005 2:21 pm

Oh what a great feeling you must have now. I felt that refief the day I went to court the last time knowing that my ex would not be able to file on me again for anything. I wanted to kiss the ground, but in stead I took my lawyer to lunch. I dont here from her or havent seen her for almost a year. Jan 2nd to be exact this will be a new year to celebrate.

Glad your Feeling SO much better

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