HisSecretDream 51F
279 posts
8/22/2006 4:35 am

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9/11/2006 10:18 am


I am getting frustrated. I am getting tons of responses but none of them seem to be actually reading my profile. Most of the men who respond to me are looking for "no strings attached" sex. You know, a one night stand and I'll call you again next month if I get horny. I have clearly stated that I am looking for a relationship. A *sexual* relationship but still, a relationship.

And it seems that every horny man out there sees the word bondage and thinks kinky sex. I love bondage... as an act of submission after trust is built with someone. Not as a kinky sex act. One man was interested in tying me up then me tying him up. No thanks, not interested. Apparently the concept of a submissive woman, sexually and otherwise, is completely foreign to most of these men.

And my new pet peeve.... men who email me their phone number as a first contact and say "call me." Good grief, I'd have no clue what to say to a total stranger! The only way I can see doing that is if I was calling total strangers for anonymous sex (which I'm not). It feels sort of like calling numbers off a bathroom wall.

shurnuffiamfun 63M

8/25/2006 7:37 pm

I am sorry that you are not finding what you are looking for, I understand what you are looking for, but just not in a position to supply you with what you need. Keep looking, you will find him, he is out there.

ThatDamnPikey 37M
10 posts
8/26/2006 3:52 am

read my profile i think you'll get a kick out of it and i assure you that it looks just like it did when i typed it this morning. i came here looking for people to talk to and maybe finding someone to build that realatioship we are looking for. i had no idea that i would be scrolling through thumbs pics of close ups of men and women's private parts when i came to this site, but it's like you said i'm looking to meet people to start to build that friendship so that it can become a realationship and, not find a random hook-up or on the side booty call. that's just not for me i've always been very selective with partners and always will be. This might sound a little hard to belive but it's the truth and if you want to talk e-mail me sometime

Redjeep91 58M

8/27/2006 12:24 pm

I just found your profile, so I will write so we may chat and see if you think I am the man you are looking for have.

jxnlawyer4fun 58M

8/31/2006 4:21 pm

I understand your frustration also. But keep in mind that the first one or two reply messages can't have the depth to encompass all that your correspondent has to offer. I for one would enjoy the kind of relationship you are talking about. Have you read "The Sexual Life of Catherine M?" That's the kind of woman I'm looking for. But for me, before one gets to the kind of lifestyle and activities we might pursue, I need to know a bit about you as a person. Does that make sense?

HisSecretDream 51F

9/1/2006 2:09 pm

Sure, but I'm talking about people who don't even try to get to know me. Just responses from people who say, lets fuck, here's my phone number. Or requesting no strings attached anonymous sex.

rm_xxxknight4u2 43M

9/1/2006 2:55 pm

I have been on this site for over a year now and it can be extremely frustrating at times. So much so that I declined to renew the silver membership I had purchased and went back to being a standard member for the time being. People misrepresenting thier genders, women's profiles that are no more than ads for webcam pay cybersex or other personal site solicitations, and horny, insesitive clods (referring to men here) that have no concept of what it takes to attract a real woman. I think the key to finding a real partner on this site is to participate in the blogs and local groups where you can determine the people who are really interested and motivated in putting in the time it takes. The new IM app could be a very good tool for finding real people too.

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