HelloThere1127 42F
43 posts
5/21/2006 4:28 pm

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Someone help me..Love at first site, does that really happen? Or is it lust at first site? Is it possible to know on one date that this is the person you were meant to be with the rest of your life? Or do you hold out and wait to see if something better just may come up? Or you just take a chance, and if it works it works, if not then at least maybe you had some good memories? Does anyone in this and age really want a true relationship, based on something deeper then just sex?

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
5/21/2006 4:42 pm

I think it is lust 99.9% of the time, but sometimes

I think people do want serious relationships.

Purry {=}


cnilngs_n_hung9 41M
6 posts
5/21/2006 4:48 pm

I concur, lust that turns into more.... a love of a physical appearance is still love though. it's just a bit shallow at first

concupiscentKid 41M

5/21/2006 4:51 pm

It all depends on what your definition of love is (and there's where the question really gets complicated).

ruth_858585 32F

5/21/2006 5:00 pm

i believe its more of lust than love. i think it takes time to grow to love someone. no i dont think it is possible to fall in love after one date.

Shelly_Marie 45F

5/21/2006 5:40 pm

I agree with purry. but it is possible if you somehow connect alot while talking on that first date....people do want relationships..but alot dont also.

PAnotelmotel 48M
2 posts
5/21/2006 5:41 pm

Waiting for love to happen is great, but during the wait; lust makes the wait bearable.

out_for_a_ride 36M

5/21/2006 10:26 pm

or how about an individuals capacity for love revolves around how guarded their heart may or may not be. it certainly is possible and its there for you around each corner, and i'll share with (as it was shared with me) you how to find's not about knowing what we want and taking the chance to strike it lucky in our search. it's about being what we want and then there's no luck involved....what i mean by that is if we want love at first sight to exsist then we have to have the quality ourselves (which attaining is a whole seperate explaination). if we want to find "that" person for us, then we have to be "that" exact person. every situation we (as individuals) find ourselves in, is a situation we've attracted to ourselves because of who we are and what we project from the inside out (including all the little thoughts we think we can hide from the world).

pseudohippie 51F

5/22/2006 3:38 pm

ConcupiscentKid's point makes this a hard one for me to answer. You can love things, people, ideas, colors, smells... And the love you feel for another changes over time. I know I loved my cat at first sight. lol And my engagement ring, too. I'm sure you can love the look of a person at first sight, but to love them as a person, you need more than just your visual sense. But do I think it's possible to love someone on the first date? Probably. But for that love to continue, and become stronger and less tenuous, time is essential.

sinnedsemaj 56M

5/24/2006 7:36 pm

You ask some very good quesstions ,1127. My opinions are these;
question 1.. No, but you can think it is.
question 2.. Like Purry said almost all the time.
question 3.. No, Hell No, time will tell. It takes most people a 1/2 an hour to decide what to eat off a menu, so how can you decide that this person is what you want for the rest of your life.
question 3.. Have to listen to the little man or woman inside you, what's the little one say? If you keep waiting or holding out, you'll end up like..?
question 4.. Taking chances is how we learn and grow stronger,everyday we take risks and hopefully we learn from them. Some work and some don't, but it's when we don't learn, then we're in trouble.
question 5..I think most do but don't know it yet. Nowadays everybody, most everybody is not happy with what they have. If they have a BMW, they want a Mercedes or vice-a-versa,my opinion there both shit. They have a 52inch TV, they need a 60incher. They key to this question is to find someone who is happy with themsevles.
A old-timer once said this to me when I was a young buck and something happened to me that shouldn't have happened.."Sometimes you have to eat shit and like it". Words I live

rm_majormojo88 60M
8 posts
6/6/2006 7:37 am

Hey - I just sent you a message in response to this question on your profile.
To elaborate: I think some people do meet their soul mates here. I just think the odds of it are slim. There are so many players and frauds here that the decent people get lost in the sound and fury. That goes for gals as well as guys.
Some people seem to be just doing this for a laugh and some for ego and a few are just plain sick. I know I see a lot of profiles and blogs that ask "Is there any body real out there...." (Usually followed by some insensitively rude and angry responses!). It is too bad the players and frauds can't have their own site - "Adult Jerk Finder".
So now I will get off my soap box..... Good luck in your search for sincerity. I honestly hope you succeed.

Tsetsu 106M  
30 posts
11/9/2006 4:13 pm

Scientifically, it's chemistry at first sight ~ phernomes and all. But, after a bit, it becomes a bond or it doesn't. This bond, for many, is called Love, and I believe in it. It's like a Mother-daughter relationship, a sibling relationship, and it lasts for life. Many are lucky when it turns to unconditional Love, where somebody can do no wrong ~ just like the family pet who gets yelled at all the time and comes back for more loving and petting. In modern times we have periods of engagement; in many 'backward' cultures, the families decide who gets 'married', and it's a life time thing.

dahotnesx2 36M  
40 posts
12/5/2006 9:18 pm

I firmly believe in love at first site. That is why I am married now. As soon as I met my wife, we were inseparatable. That is kinda how we end up swinging. I was in denial that I was in love because of being hurt before. That was no obstacle for my woman. She even told one of my old fuck buddies that we could fuck only if she supervised. She was not down, that was her loss. The rest is history and here we are 5 years later still swinging and loving it.

rm_millo271981 36M

10/12/2008 8:08 pm

love is a feeling an emotion that we feel. So yes we can feel love at first site. Its easy to fall in love or lust the problem is that because its a feeling it comes and goes. I guess what i'm tryin to say is its easy to fall in love and very diff to stay in love becuase u have to work on it everyday and has to b a mutual thing between u and ur lover

rm_Hoofbeat77 40M
1 post
2/10/2009 2:26 am

Personal experience to relate.

I'd just gotten out of college, she was still in college. Had never seen her before, didn't know any of the same people. She was a grad student assisting at a symposium I happened to attend.

And yes, it was the cheesy old "eyes met from across the room". We were at a party afterwards (hadn't run into each other at the conference). We looked at each other, I walked over and we danced... the next day we met for a date at dinner... and we were together for the next three years.

Sure, it didn't last. But it was love. And it was a great experience I wouldn't trade for anything. Though our lives have taken divergent paths and it was too hard for us to stay together, that girl will never stop being a part of me.

rm_1EasyTrucker 48M
1 post
7/9/2009 1:33 am

Well, in my opinion...there is two sides to this relationship "ideal" It seems, in my experience, that everyone is looking for that physical attraction and base thier judgement on that and THAT alone....THIS IS A SET UP FOR DISASTER.

If you are looking for a great sexual experience and ONLY that, then this is ok; however, most people seem to want more, but get fustrated when "IT"(relationship) doesn't work out. NOT TO MENTION THE S.T.D.'s in todays' world....

To enjoy a great relationship....Get an idea of what "IT" is you want in your relationship. You know, the ideals and the deal breakers. Once you have those in your mental data bank start looking for someone whom fits those ideals and DO NOT SWAY FROM THEM BECAUSE YOU SEE A PERSON IS HOTT!!! Keep looking until you have met someone with those standards AND that you find attractive. This is the moment when you can "DEVELOP" a relationship through committment of more then a few months.

In short, IF you wanna "JUST" get laid, then just do that, but if you want a real relationship take a little time to get to know someone and see if they really are who they say they are!!! This doesn't mean no sex, it just means do not let emotions get involved until you are ready to take a chance. If you can't do that then no sex until yoour ready!!

....I know I do want a relationship, but again, in my experience, women ALWAYS HOLD OUT for something better!!! Even when the best thing is right in front of them!!! You see there is always that "THOUGHT" that possiblity someone better will come along. The problem is that no matter how many "BETTER" oppertunities MAY come along you are still looking for "MORE OPPERTUNITIES" and you will be alone as life passes you by....

To get to the bottom.....LOVE VS. LUST.....NO!!!! There is no such thing as love at first sight. It is lust because it is based on physical attraction only!!! AND it takes more then one date to know if you wanna spend life with someone. UNLESS you wanna take a chance at divorce VERY early in your relationship....Peace and happy hunting..... Wanna know more, write me?!

centralpaguy72 45M

1/18/2010 2:12 pm

I believe there can be love at first site. it has happened to me a few times .. it's not garaunteed that it will last and I don't think it's just lust.. there is a physical energy that is beyond lust . does lust live beyond the immediate physical moment ? what keeps you there talking for hours ? not lust.

I think that people become impatient with the now and concede

PS I love your hair long..

rm_yesimaguyso 52M

7/15/2010 6:18 pm

Love at first sight.... no way; it's lust. Love isn't really a feeling its a decision you make every day. The key is finding the right person and giving everything you have to the relationship instead of looking to see what you can get out it. In other words, you give it your all and never, never give up. And in answer to your last question, I think, at least I hope, people are looking for a best friend they can trust implicitly with all their dreams, fears, fantasies, etc. And in case your wondering, yes I am a romantic.

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