Can FRIENDS have SEX and remain Friends?  

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5/15/2005 11:20 am

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Can FRIENDS have SEX and remain Friends?

Why can't FRIENDS have SEX yet remain Friends? In my view, not in the way platonic friends do? It has always bothered me that when I get really good close friends that are women and we have SEX all is lost; they become possessive quickly. Has this ever happened with you? For example I am an Astrologer and have loads of female friends that I would love to have sex with but in the past when I have done so they have become my worst nightmare. I guess it would be like having sex with a coworker; that’s too bad a lot of good sex is getting away from people who have a lot in common. Let me Know if you have ever had a sexual encounter with a colleague that remained civil?

rm_DDDTits19 32F
2 posts
5/15/2005 1:37 pm

I have several times. Each one was different, but for the most part, the relationship would change (how could it not). Things would stay the same in front of other co-workers, but, when it was one on one... it usually lead to sex. If you are fine with that go for it, just make sure they know its just about sex and thats it.

LakewoodJeff 67M
5 posts
5/15/2005 2:16 pm

Yes! Friends can most certainly have sex and remain friends! Depends on the friendship though. I have had both results. The situations resulting in positive and civil relationships are simple. Neary automatic. I really knew them and they already knew me. I mean REALLY! Heart and soul! After repeated soul sessions, drinkin, cryin, laughin, hangin out sober, shoppin, road trips. If you really know everything first, about each other, it works! If a person geuinely knows what the other is about, ahead of time, it does work. Best friends can even stay best friends! Took a long time to figure this simple thing out. I could introduce them if tested!


5/15/2005 4:53 pm

The truth is somewhere between. It's actually your choise what follows then.
By having friends which are just the people you say ... a nice hello everyday....should not bother you at all.
If they are your closest friend....the ones you are all the time together and spend good time then try to understand what you want them for real to be us. Consider that having sex with closest friends will surely change the word closest friends and will return it into just friends. After that sex time you had can surely not enjoy secrets between you as getting into other phase. But you can still stay friends.
They will just become your nightmare when you let them understand the 4 words at all : IT WAS A MISTAKE
Then surely you will have problem.
I had sex with friends but my closest friends I want to keep them as friends. There are million of women out there but friends are just a few so few and I love to have them as friends of mine.

Just Me --- EAGLE KK

freetime648 53F

5/16/2005 12:08 am

My BEST friend and I have had sex on numerous occasions and we are still just friends. It started out as a way to get back at my ex and then it turned into whenever one of us didn't get a hook up and needed some...we even went as far as judging each others hook ups. If he thought mine was bad he would say so and vica cersa. It is all in the state of mind. You just know it is a friend and you deal with it that way.So many of our mutual friends thought we should be together but no one could understand...we were just friends!! That is how we liked it!!! I have since moved away and lost touch but to this day he is and will always be my best friend.

xx FREETIME648 xx

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