I may be a HEARTLESS BITCH, but.............  

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5/2/2006 8:57 pm

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5/13/2006 11:38 pm

I may be a HEARTLESS BITCH, but.............

This really pissed me off.

I have a co-worker who had (has) breast cancer, she had her left breast removed. I had thought she was done with chemo, but she is not, they had to put it on hold, due to it was weakening her heart. She had to start it again, and they put her on alot of pain meds. We are praying it has not spread to the other breast, or other places in her chest.

But she still comes to work everyday. She has a 5 year old son she raises herself. The father is somewhere out of the country and provides no help.

I get to work today to find out the dayshift nursing staff had called a meeting with the bosses about her.

They say she can't do her job, so the big boss moved her from being a nurse to a CNA/bath aid.

Then the dayshift nurses went on to say they did not want to work with her anymore. And then they said (and this pissed me off) They think the cancer went to her brain cause she is acting like a retard. WTF??? How can people be so cruel? This woman is fighting cancer, and still coming to work to raise her child. What kind of fucking people do we have on the planet in this day and age?

And they said all this crap infront of her. And I was wondering why everyday I have come into work and she has been crying. It is because the dayshift crew treats her like crap. They even cut her pay from an LPN to CNA pay, thats like cutting it in 1/2. Not one of them even speaks to her the entire day!

I want to try to get her on my shift. I want to give her my support. The entire evening shift said we would take her.

This is a single mom, fighting for her life, and supporting her child, alone! What kind of a fucking world do we live in?????

She has a 50% survival rate to live this next year, and it lowers each year after that. And she is only 36. If thats not scarry enough, she also has to deal with the risk of losing her only form of income. And put up with no support from her co-workers.

It could happen to any one of us, and how would we feel if everyone around us turned their backs on us?

I just can't believe that my co-workers who take care of people every day, can treat another person this way. It is their job to take care of the sick and dieing, and they give no support to one of their own who is sick.


waerlookin4fun 51M/47F

5/2/2006 9:42 pm

That breaks my heart......my mother was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and it devastated me. Thank God her employeer understood and that she had a wonderful support system. She survived!!!! I worked in a hospital for a number of years and even when inmates from the prison nearby came in I never turned my back on any one of them....It's not my place to judge, but it is my job to help.

rm_yukonpaul 52M
1120 posts
5/2/2006 10:22 pm

With such a shortage of nurses in the US, She could get another job elsewhere easily. Even with her health, it shouldn't be a problem.

mangomamiCT 43F

5/2/2006 10:29 pm

rotten people make ya sick sometimes !
Hooray for giving your love and friendship , thank goodness there are people in the world like you !!!


5/2/2006 11:01 pm

amberabercrombie-- I am looking up sites to help her out!

waerlookin4fun-- Ya know it is the job of people I work with to help others. I just don't understand. And one of the dayshift nurses saying the shit, was one of my friends, even my brides maid at my wedding and it shocked me to hear her say what she did.


5/2/2006 11:03 pm

mangomamiCT-- I have my moments, but this is such a bad situation.

yukonpaul-- But this place is close to her home, and she does not want to have to drive 100 miles a day (round trip). We live in a very small town about 1/2 hour from a larger city.


5/2/2006 11:06 pm

buttercup7781-- Their shift makes our look sooo much better ya think? I hope we can get her on our shift as a float atleast. I just can't believe "K" said any of this, I could believe "A" did, but not "K". I was shocked!

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/2/2006 11:08 pm


It sounds like a bad case of the 'herd mentality' has swept through your workplace...you know, how the mob will 'cut out' those that can't keep up....I know, it's disgusting.

I hope this lady appreciates what a good friend you are...all my best to her and her family...and to you for caring...



5/2/2006 11:28 pm

Nightguy_1961--And I have even thought of taking up a collection each payday to make up for the wages she has lost. But I know most would not help. I wish I could do more for her and her son.

firestarter665 43M/40F

5/3/2006 4:26 am

It disgusts me how people think! They can dish it out, but I bet if it was ever them that this happened to they would bitch and complain about it. Just remember what goes around comes around!

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
5/3/2006 6:15 am

HNB I AM OUTRAGED!!!!!!! I don't see how they can cut her pay from an LPN to a CNA. Its a huge difference! I can understand if they want to put her on lighter duty....but bath aide is really not light duty, is it? I think you need to help her call the labor board. Lighter duty during times of illness does not mean a cut in pay. This woman needs to have her heart warmed with the support of her co-workers....not stomped on! Thank God you are there....and even knowing that you want her on your shift should help her spirit!


5/3/2006 6:18 am

firestarter665-- It seems the entire dayshift is a bunch of judgmental bitches! And they cry all day about how much work they do. They are just an unhappy bunch of people.

skyking412004 54M
5363 posts
5/3/2006 7:17 am

_____I think their afraid of death from cancer. They know it could happen to any one of them and they don't want to watch her die in front of them, a little bit at a time. My mom died of uterine cancer that spread to her intestines. My dad died of lung cancer. We did Hospice at home for him. I could not believe all the pain meds he needed. I watched a man who I was afraid of when I was a kid shrivel up and die in front of my eyes. It's hard to watch. If they weren't my parents I would not have wanted to be there. Cancer sucks ass. I'm glad you care about her.

spoldrtn812 52F  
1058 posts
5/3/2006 8:09 am

I am praying for your coworker! Thank GOD for caring people like you in the world. You know your coworker is struggling and needs your support there are times when the strength of one is all we need to sustain us! I applaud you for standing up for her. I encourage you to research the ADA laws in your state (americans with disabilities act) and contact a lawyer on her behalf be sure that what they are doing to her is legal also check into FMLA laws (Family Medical Leave Act) Women Need to stick together! Shame on them for being so cruel. The actions they are taking against her can excaserbate her condition. She needs legal advice to be sure her baby is taken care of and her affairs are in order. You will have a beautiful mansion! Your beauty shines far beyond your bitchiness! I love you!!!! Thank you for caring!!!!

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(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

5/3/2006 9:02 am

This has to be the CRUELEST FUCKING thing I have EVER heard. I am in real pain for this Gal...I am beyond words in my RAGE for these RUTHLESS, CRUEL SHIT FUCKING SHIT BAGS she/you must work with. It is reassuring to know She has someone like You to help...Ready


fun4allin2006 54M
1583 posts
5/3/2006 9:24 am

REALLY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR CO-WORKER...Life sure ain't fair sometimes...I always knew you were a compassionate person...I so pray things work out for her...Cancer sucks, we buried my 3 year old nephew a few years back...just not fair...Thank God for you being there along her way...


mycin62 55F

5/3/2006 9:29 am

HNB, that really sucks, WTF is wrong with people!!! They should know better, being in healthcare. You know, they say, what comes around, goes around, and some day it may come around to them. At least in my department, we are all very supportive of each other. Keep supporting her, be her friend and hopefully she'll be moved to your shift. Keep up the good work!!


5/3/2006 9:42 am

angelofmercy5-- I am going to call the labor board.

skyking412004-- We had a co-worker die from cancer just a few months ago, and they never treated her like this.

spoldrtn812-- I am going to contact the state and see if we have the ADA law.

readytolay_3-- I just don't understand all of it! And how they can get away with it all.


5/3/2006 9:58 am

fun4allin2006-- TY darlin, And where the hell have you been????? I missed you

mycin62-- I don't wanna say I hope they have a problem where they need others to support them and they get none, but it is how I feel right now!

wildoats19622 56M
3530 posts
5/3/2006 6:17 pm

I hate whiner mentality. Poor me I have too much work to do. This person isn't doing their share. They have cancer and can't do the work. So what the fuck is your excuse, terminal laziness? I hate when people get that way. The whiners always seem to be the ones that do the least work to begin with.


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mrrdking 60M

5/3/2006 8:17 pm

Hey puddles, you're the best!! I'm checking with an attorney friend of mine, I think she has a case. She may not have to work anymore!


5/3/2006 9:20 pm

mrrdking-- TY baby, I contacted the Labor Board today. I love you!

wildoats19622-- Thats the entire dayshift!

MariGrrl-- I cantacted the ADA and the Labor board.


5/3/2006 9:40 pm

longhairednikki-- I can't even look the bitches in the face now!

Looking4sex44240 55F

5/3/2006 10:13 pm

I had a family member die from breast cancer, it was the worst thing ever, but I did all I could to help her. There are so many people these days that just don't care anymore, and it's sad. I will pray for her that she gets help.


5/3/2006 10:56 pm

Looking4sex44240-- And if these assclowns were not in a charge position they would have done had a piece of my mind! People are just fucking cruel now days.

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