As I sit here and cry..........  

6876 posts
3/29/2006 9:41 pm

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As I sit here and cry..........

I have realized today, it is so much harder to watch a man lose his wife.

Out of the blue, a resident of ours took a turn for the worse. I was told when I came in that she was activly dieing.

I was like WTF? At 10 last night she was telling me how much she loved me before I went home. And now she is dieing?

I went to her room to see her and give her the meds to make her comfortable. Her husband was there and had been all day.

They were childhood sweethearts, met in grade school, married after highschool. He had told me he had never loved another, and never left her side, for 60 years!

He had planned a big birthday party for her, with all her children, grandchildren and greatgrandchildren,because today was her birthday.

After the evening meal he went home to shower and get ready to spend the night with her, just minutes after he left the nurse came out to tell me to call him, she was taking her last breaths.

But it was too late, he got back just a minute after she took her last breath.

I have watched children lose thier parents, and a young wife lose her husband, but tonite was by far the hardest.

Maybe it was seeing him cry and saying goodbye to her.

As he went to leave the building, he came up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me for caring for her, and I have been crying since!

To see the pain in his eyes after saying goodbye to his life long partner, tore me up inside!


mycin62 55F

3/29/2006 10:09 pm

HNB, it's never easy to loose a patient, no matter how much we see it, it never gets any easier. Some are harder then others. The worst for me was a 2 year old boy, his mother was so distraught the police had to drive her to the hospital. He was pretty much gone when the ambulance brought him in, but we did cpr on him until she could get to the er to say goodbye. She didn't want us to stop cpr, she just couldn't let him go. She had to be sedated. There wasn't a dry eye in the house.


HOTNBOTHERED0414 replies on 3/29/2006 10:20 pm:
Thats why I have never wanted to work in a hospital. But I have been at this 21 years, and tonite got me more then any other!

spoldrtn812 52F  
1058 posts
3/30/2006 3:52 am

What were you crying about? For me the tears come because I fear I will never have anyone to love me that much!

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HOTNBOTHERED0414 replies on 3/30/2006 8:01 am:
I just keep thinking about how he is now alone!

(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

3/30/2006 6:01 am

Love such as that just dosen't happen it seems any more these days.If you didn't cry you wouldn't be who you are. See it as a blessing that you got to know them...Ready sends you a hug


HOTNBOTHERED0414 replies on 3/30/2006 8:00 am:

rm_cru1972 46M
4407 posts
3/30/2006 4:04 pm

Feel blessed to have known people like that, I'm sure they feel blessed by you.

HOTNBOTHERED0414 replies on 3/31/2006 8:52 pm:
TY darlin!

absolutelynormal 57F
6563 posts
4/1/2006 9:59 am

I know how you feel HB. It hurts to lose them, especially after you've gotten to really know them. Think about how blessed that man was to have a wife for that amount of time and how blessed they both were to still be in love all those years. It's often the blind leading the blind with these little old couples. Both sick, he or she may be demented and the other one is taking care of them. It's sad, but celebrate the life she did have. Would she want you to cry for her or for her husband? I doubt it. It never gets any easier. Mac

HOTNBOTHERED0414 replies on 4/1/2006 11:10 am:
TY, I think I lost it cause I kept seeing the hurt in HIS eyes.

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