Teenage Wasteland  

GB_Cple 67M/56F  
976 posts
2/15/2006 4:57 am

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Teenage Wasteland

Well I am now back from my travels in the Cotswolds.
It was a lot of fun, working during the day, and I met lots of nice people too.

What disturbed me though was the complete contrasts I was confronted with.
During the day I was viewing rather expensive houses and flats, and showing people around, while in the middle of the town center, I saw countless numbers of young people, mostly dressed in thin tracksuits, and worn trainers, just hanging around. It was minus degrees most days too.
Lots of very young mothers pushing kids around in pushchairs, dressed in almost the same "uniform", and spending their money on bad food in the local "Greasy Spoon" cafes.

After work I travelled out of town to eat, not wanting to spend my time in the center of town at all, I found lots of nice pub-resturants serving very good if not a litttle expensive food.

On my last evening in town, I had just locked up, and was approching my car, and saw what I thought was a young teenager walking towards me, she called out to me to give her 20p for her bus fare, I gave her all the change in my pocket, about 1.50p, then just as I opened the car door she said "You don't do business, do you sir?" not knowing really what she meant I just shook my head, and then she said , "No I don't suppose you do".then she smiled very sweetly at me.

It was only after I was sitting in the car that I realised what she meant. I had just been approched by a teenage hooker, probably a junkie too, as I don't suppose a young girl would offer herself for money,to a man of my age if she didn't need it for drugs.

I felt quite sick, I am not niave, having spent half my life living inthe center London, but that's the first time I have ever really been touched by it all.

Later I found myself in a nice resturant, chatting to a country house type, who insisted on calling this type of person "Scumbags"

What a world of contrasts!

CelticFlower 51F

2/21/2006 3:21 am

I worked with many of these families for years, caring for their children. Some of the houses i had to visit, were unbelieveable. I didn`t know which was worse to sit down on the carpet or the sofa.
I used to go in there, put a smile on my face & breathe through my mouth. A technique perfected over years working in the NHS.
What i used to fail to understand was that the kids had poor clothes & shoes. The food they were given was of a very poor standard. But, a very BIG but.......mum & dad could both find the money to smoke. They normally had Sky TV & not just the basic package.
I used to feel terrible sometimes that i had a company car, a nice house & a pretty nice life. It is as Babel says we make choices in our lives, i made mine & they made theirs. I would help them as much as i could, to improve their childrens lives but i could do no more than that.
It does really make you appreciate what you have.

GB_Cple 67M/56F  
3118 posts
2/20/2006 11:02 pm

The problem is Babel, that most Junkies have 10- 15years of petty crime ranging from shoplifting, break ins to prositution behind them,
and they only seek help when they find that they have robbed all their friends and family, and no-one wants to help them anymore.
Some of course don't get even that far, they died young !

Babel__Fish 46F

2/16/2006 3:06 am


Well I think it all comes down to what people know, if you do not know a better life and do not strive to find one then you will continue on. It is easier to 'just' get by and let your circumstances dictate your life instead of changing and striving to find a the better path but that path has it burdens as well and is riddled with struggle and most people do not like to struggle, they like to be comfortable with just getting by.

I understand that sometimes there are things that you can not change a situations that people find themselves in but there are also means to change and organizations that will help one in need if one seeks it out.

You see with what I have been through in my life I too could have been that hooker and strung out on drugs. When you see what you might have or could have been makes me all the more happy that I did not take the 'easy' path and it also makes me reflect on choices that I made.

It is indeed sad to see young people wasting away and people stuck in a pattern of behavior that is not healthy. We all do what we can to help but I also try to make sure that the person that I am helping is indeed ready for a life change.

I am glad that you are back home and I hope that all is well with Mrs.GB.


Green_Tea_Boy 51M
1064 posts
2/15/2006 6:06 pm

welcome to the Britain of the 21st Century... no trickle down wealth....just survival...

I work with them everyday...

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
2/15/2006 3:32 pm

its a sad miserable existance for some and seems to be only getting worse

Welcome back

I'm a

i'm here to stay

freetime648 53F

2/15/2006 7:15 am

GB, that is a poignant tale to say the least...makes me want to hold out my hand and heart to her...... Contrasts exist...unfortunately...they do....and it goes unnoticed until it greets us with a hand out and a sweet smile, with the hopes of survival.....

xx FREETIME648 xx

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