Dr.Kinkylove, or how I learnt to stop worrying and love the blog. Part II  

GB_Cple 68M/56F  
976 posts
1/14/2006 8:59 am

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Dr.Kinkylove, or how I learnt to stop worrying and love the blog. Part II

Over the years the equipment got better , We were lucky to be on of the first areas in Germany to get broadband, Junior tells me , soon all the cables in the house will dis-appear, as he has ordered Blue Tooth attachments for everything. We have our own little network here , with all the scanners, printers etc joined together over our server. I have Mega , and Giga bites I will never use ! Lol All courtesy of Junior.

During all that time in the chat rooms , I must have experienced everything , one could on the net, I have seen chat rooms fall apart because of rows and fights, rivals going off to start their own rooms, hacking of rooms by rival,s infighting amounst the owners, fighting in the groups, accusations about everything and everyone, sabotage etc etc. Hoaxes, intrigues, and all the rest. I have heard the most horrible stories of abuse, loneliness, suicide, despair, depression, marriage and partnership break ups , I could go on and on. One never really knows if all the stories were true or false but some were heartbreaking all the same.

I have had hundreds of “Friends” on Messenger, only to find some leave without notice, never to be seen again, others that turned out to be completely different in “Real -Life” I have rode off on a white charger to defend “friends” only to be humbled and humiliated in the end too. I have experienced men pretending to be women , women pretending to be men , far too young girls pretending to be adults, even some offering them selves on-line to much older men, and of course those that prey on young people.
Also we came across a lot of other un-savoury caracters.

As time went on, more and more advanced Chat Room Bots became available so we could bann troublemakers, and later even we were able to see the IP's of all entering, so we were able then to permanently bann the real troublemakers and perves even if they came back with new nicks. others later did this as well, and even put up warnings that the IP's were being logged.

Warning A F F can do this too!

One of the advantages of the net , and one of it's dis-advantages is that we are all anonymous, when we sign onto a site, we make up a nickname or handle and hide behind it. The hospital porter becomes the junior doctor, the cleaner, the staff nurse, the post boy, the managing director etc. Not that all net users are dis honest, but in time we all build up our own "net Persona" and other users build up an impression of us, that is not always the “Real” us. I for example am quite shy, although from my appearances in the chats you would not think so, I really need time to get to know people, though some, from reading our “other” blog , would never assume that.

So have all my experiences made me a bit jaded ? , Yes it has. Has it made me cynical,? Yes very.
To qoute Fox Mulder “Trust no 1” and Miss Jean brody " Question Everything"

You will never know who is behind a nick, until you have looked deep into their eyes, heard them speak, watched their body language, and laughed and cried with them. Lots of people come on the net, me included to pass time, and or because they are lonely, It becomes an escape from real life, just like TV soap operas, here they can live out their fantasies, make friends and generally express themselves in a way not available in the hard cruel world outside, but as we have found out recently, the cyberworld mirrors real life too.

Just as TV soap stars are made into role models, and heroes and celebrities , so our leading bloggers have been given this role too, with outpourings of “love” to someone you may never meet, that lives on the other side of your continent or ocean. When they leave, just as the soap stars or talk show hosts howls of protest follow, but in a week or too, they will be forgotten.

The world will not be a better or worse place if a blog is written or not, nor has a blog changed the world in anyway, although one or two, have got people together to help a soul in need.

On the other hand the conventions that have been arranged, (God bless the people that take it upon themselves to organise these) give us the chance to meet some of our “friends” and to turn them into Real Friends, and many of us of course have arranged to meet our on-line friends privately too, and not just for wild sex lol


keithcancook 61M
18138 posts
10/13/2015 12:29 pm

I only did the chat room thing briefly in the mid 1990's. It was all new then, dial up connections and such. Over about a year I found it was not much fun and better things are on the net to do. I'd rather spend an afternoon in youtube over a chat room and it's little monarchies and fiefdoms.

Blogging is different, as I no longer get twisted over how "real" a person I am communicating with on the internet is. Well, you see in my blog how 10 yrs later I feel about these issues... ha!

thanks for the link!

blog on!

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
1/16/2006 6:12 am

i'm a trusting soul to a certain degree,but i blog with an openess as its me,too confused with the real me ,God help me if i had to make another character upi just would trip my self up lol.
While i do try to make my blog amusing in all my tales ,i don't think i'm as amusing in real life,i'm far more serious,maybe the language problem over the years,who knows.
this forum gives me chance to babble on and no one except this friendly site can tell me to shut up cos in re\al life you would lol,any way,trust does have to be earned to a certain degree but so does respect and love,friendship is hard work,yet here we seem to find it easier.

O bugger i'm babbleing off to babble else where lol

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_EE407 42F
3903 posts
1/15/2006 3:42 am

GBC, If you've been around as long as you and I have, you've seen it all...

You learn to keep some distance.... "trust no one"... "question everything"... or do what I do... "stay out of everything"

Hugz E.

GB_Cple 68M/56F  
3118 posts
1/14/2006 11:42 pm

thx for the comments, not quite sure what you mean Uninhibited
GTB Can i join your suport group

Green_Tea_Boy 51M
1064 posts
1/14/2006 7:00 pm

I couldn't agree more....

Uninhibited1972 46M

1/14/2006 2:03 pm

**Sorry about the word sizing, it's my first attempt**

Regarding, The world will not be a better or worse place if a blog is written or not, nor has a blog changed the world in anyway, although one or two, have got people together to help a soul in need.

I'm an optimist and believe that changing the world starts with changing yourself. Therefore, I believe many more that just 'one or two' blogs have changed a soul in need.

I'm lucky for now; I can find my sanctuary in this community of "friends", became recharged, and return to the world.

But, your right. Translating any member of this support group into a human touch could be a problem where physical preferences are part of the expectations. According to Dr. Phil; you get angry when you are surprised by something you didn't expect. So I would ask if their persona is legit, before meeting them.

I'm not immune to this:
Do I make a fake post, say I'm gay or bi, to gain the protection of "Don't ask, Don't tell" for purposes of background checks.

Do I make a fake post, pretending to be an active swinger to taunt the military into courts-marshalling me, only to reveal at the trial that I'm not active and cannot be prosecuted under UCMJ for 'Adultery'.

Yes, either choice would be a function of how big my balls really are. But more importantly either choice means sacrificing honesty & integrity within this community of "friends"; and that's the part that keeps me up at night.

Ironic, if I do actively swing, I would have to grab your husbands ass, just to cover my own.

Thanks, for the forum. Hope I stayed in context.

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