Beauty is in the eye of the beholder  

FrustratedBBW03 49F
80 posts
3/14/2005 6:12 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

I've seen it a few times lately, most recently on a blog and I don't remember who it was. I only remember the comment...which I will paraphrase.

Big is fine and Woman is fine, but the second word is beautiful. He made it sound like he didn't think everyone who calls themselves BBW can be called beautiful.

I'd like to just point out that what is beautiful to one may not be beautiful to another. If we were all attracted to the same type of person, what fun would that be?

Physical attraction is just the most basic level of attraction. My outside may not be "beautiful" in the classic sense of the word, but I AM beautiful. My sense of humor, my intelligence, my opinions, my work ethic, my ability to listen... all of these things make up the very beautiful person that I am, and that makes ALL of me beautiful. Inside and out. Maybe not everyone will think that of me... but as long as I believe that I am, that is all that matters - and I will find someone who appreciates everything that is "me" and will know that I know I am beautiful and will share in that sentiment.

Skinny girls need love too, so anyone who doesn't think my size is beautiful can go find them. Classically beautiful women need love, and if that's what floats your Cheerios (thanks, you know who you are, I love that saying LOL!), go for it.

But DON'T assume that because YOU don't think I am beautiful (or anyone else for that matter) that everyone thinks that. It's just not true.

ReadyToTango46 59M
161 posts
3/14/2005 8:42 pm

Ha, I just got done replying to a blog from a BBW that men here are only interested in barbies (which I pointed out was not true).

Well Frustrated, you are in fact very attractive. And you sound like you have the right attitude about yourself, so please don't let someone's blog upset you.

And if I may be so bold, I think you are very nicely proportioned and you nipples are to die for. LOL.

There are plenty of men here that will appreciate you for who you are. Ignore those who don't.

expatbrit49 64M

3/26/2005 7:11 am

YOU ARE WRONG…….. in the classic sense women are always portrayed as large and Im sure those painters didn’t decide to paint ugly women, this thing for skinny women is a recent development.

Thank You for Your Time and Attention


3/27/2005 7:26 pm

Women are beautiful in every sense of the word, weather skinny,med.sized,chunky or large. There is always something beautiful you can find about a person inside or out. Besides, people who only look for outside beauty aren't worth knowing anyway...


4/28/2005 11:45 pm

I think there might be a misunderstanding here as to what the man who wrote "beautiful might not be the word" meant....(correct me if I'm totally wrong). But maybe he didn't mean the classically-ignorant idea that big women CAN'T be beautiful (signifying that beauty is size-dependent) but rather that every woman that is Big is NOT NECESSARILY beautiful. I can understand that 2nd statement just as I can read between the lines when EVERY UGLY GUY I've ever met says he's average (when, in fact, he is ugly, caved-in-chest-kind-of-skinny, has a huge nose/small head/nasty teeth, etc.)

I do believe there are 'universal' standards of beauty: nicely-shaped nose, symmetrical features, smooth/unblemished skin, nicely-shaped eyes that cut across all ethnicities. The closer one is to this standard, the more attractive they are generally considered to be. Now, that doesn't take into account personal eccentricities: I like the way some people's eyes crinkle when they laugh (some people hate wrinkles of any kind, I like big lips but only if they're shaped really nicely (some think that's unsexy on men), etc.



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