Monogamous woman who met a polyamorous man  

Frnds4Play 54M/64F
2686 posts
3/4/2006 7:48 pm

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3/13/2006 3:34 am

Monogamous woman who met a polyamorous man

I was a monogamous woman living a dull, unhappy life when I first met a polyamorous man.

He told me all about himself before we even met, but I didn't really know what he was talking about. To me he was saying that he loved being with many women. What man doesn't?

I didn't understand what polyamorous meant until much later in our relationship.

Being a woman that thought a man I loved and who loved me then should be happy with just me didn't work in this relationship.

I now had to rethink what my life was all about before I met him and what I wanted from my new life with him.

I knew that he was someone I wanted to end my life being with. He was my soul mate, the man of my dreams. We have so much in common; Except for I was monogamous.

So in order to keep him I was going to have to "Push" my envelope and "push" I did.

I had always wanted to try things sexually that most people don't seem too. I had always, as far back as I can remember, wanted to be with another woman. One on one or two or more. That has happened and I have enjoyed it, and in enjoying it have come to want more. We started going to swingers parties. The first one was a bit hard on me. Being nude in front of other people was extremely hard for me, but I got through it, and moved on to other firsts. My first 4 some. Didn't exactly come out like I pictured it in my mind, but I have done it and will do it again, only this time with someone that I know and like. That we both like.

I have had times when I wanted to just leave, walk away from him because I didn't think I was the woman for him. I didn't think I could really do what he was asking of me. The fact that he told me up front what he was about didn't help me in the least. I had no excuse you see. I couldn't come back at him with a, "you never told me that"

So here I sit writing all this out to people I don't know, and you want to know (maybe) how this story ends.

There is no ending, not yet anyway. I still "push" my envelope on occasion but it has gotten so much easier and I look forward to it all at the moment.

I am enjoying my life with him and all that comes with it. Will there be a time when I can't go forward anymore? I don't know. I will just have to wait and see.

I do know I would never change what I have with him for anyone else.

Take care everyone


warmandsexy52 65M
13164 posts
3/5/2006 12:46 am

To wake up in the morning and say to yourself, "life is good" is all one can ask for, whichever path we walk to get there. And to be with your soulmate and share the journey.....

Life is good, dear kat. So pleased you can feel it.

warm xx

rm_unlistedone 66M
2718 posts
3/5/2006 12:49 am

We all push our limits at times Kat. With you, you have someone you trust enough to allow you to do so. That is a definite plus. Tomorrow is another day... and no telling what it may bring. Just continue to grow and go into it with an open mind. hugs, unlisted

rm_zahuma2 51M
459 posts
3/8/2006 8:27 am

If you can change yourself for him then why can't he do the same for you.
You already brought a change for him.
Now it's his turn. I think you should straight away ask him to change a little for you and put a stop to what you don't like.

rm_dragonheat23 52M
1158 posts
3/10/2006 9:09 am

The joy is not in the arrival, but in the journey. Cherish what you have, it sounds like a good journey so far.

rm_titsandtires 53M/42F
3656 posts
3/10/2006 6:00 pm

The waiting is when the life part happens.


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