Contacting others  

Friends4Sex13 45M
11 posts
6/2/2006 8:47 pm

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Contacting others

Considering that the point of this site is to meet other people, what really irritates the shit out of me is that very few people leave ways to be contacted by all members.

It really isn't that hard to open your instant messenger thus allowing standard members to show interest. I know a lot of people would say that they don't want to be bugged by people they aren't interested in, but really, people, how hard is it to click the "decline" button?

What bugs me even more is people that register for membership and then never return to the site, or only return long enough to check email and never participate. Interestingly there are numerous members from even my small town, yet I almost never see any of them online, and on the rare occasion that I do see one of them online, they aren't chatting or have their instant messenger turned on. Suprize! Suprize!

Now I already hear some of you saying get off your wallet asshole and buy a membership. Well, folks, I have and being able to view profiles and send emails provided less success than the standard membership, so why should I spend my money? This could be a great site whether you're a paying member or not, we just need to participate to make it such a site.

Ok, I'll get off my soap box now....ha ha.

real36CgirlPA 39F

6/2/2006 9:19 pm

I usually don't have my IM thing up for here because I have dial-up internet and I can only run so many things at a time without all my windows slowing down ridiculously. Besides that, I contact people on my own if I'm interested in them. Pepple have their own reasons for doing what they do on here. Part of the reason why I like this site is that my level of participation is up to me.

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
6/2/2006 9:23 pm

I am not even sure how to turn the instan messenger on! I, for one, am mainly here to blog. I hope you find what you are looking for though!

hrnycpl92 47M/44F

6/2/2006 11:38 pm

It's been 3 days since I signed up on here and I'm still trying to figure things out. Heck, I couldn't figure out how to contact anybody when I was standard, so I paid for a month. I am no idiot, but this site is a bit much at first. There are probably people who don't have enough interest to keep up, but there are others who are good contacts. The good with the bad idea as always.

I know, all this from the new kid on the block. lol

Hopefully things will get better for you. Vent away, it's a great release.

Friends4Sex13 45M

6/3/2006 7:53 pm

Thanks for the comments guys. Real36Cgirl you have a good point about the level of participation being up to you and I respect that, because I have been harassed by some not so nice people also, but it seems that a lot of people do that which seems to me to defeat the purpose of the site. I have been a member of this site on and off for several years and this has always seemed to be the case.

Angel and hrnycpl92, you are right that the site can be intimidating and difficult to navigate at first, but also on the homepage in the upper right hand corner is a link that says "Open instant messenger now". You just click it and then hit the html version if you don't want to download the new version and it opens up in a couple seconds. With instant messenger you can also decide your participation level by clicking decline when someone you don't want to talk to messages you.

I just think we all would be more successful at at least making some new online friends if we all participated just a little more.

Just my 2 cents...

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