An Ageless Question...  

ForPlay2000 56M
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3/20/2006 11:02 pm

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3/26/2006 5:03 pm

An Ageless Question...

Recently a question was posed by one of my favorite bloggers on this site purrykitty2. She asked what makes people Fall out of love...?

What a Woman says to her most ardent lover...
should be written in wind and running water

...Caius Valarius Catullus, Roman Poet, 54 B.C.

Purry... It would seem your question is ageless. Caius Valarious certainly seemed to understand that love could be fleeting. Of course he presents it from the injured if not somewhat jaded male perspective. Yet, love can be equally fleeting among the genders and equally painful when it slips away. Love is like energy, it simply is not constant and can change forms before our eyes. When one finds themselves in love they should not take it for granted. In fact they should both nurture it and cherish it deeply for one day it may indeed change forms.

I think the most common reason love is fleeting is the fact that we are alive and living to various degrees and a natural outgrowth of living is growing. Some grow together while others grow apart. I believe both happen at such a gradual rate, which is so slow it is not noticed until one day what has happened becomes apparent. Growing together takes a daily commitment, mutual effort, sincere work and awareness. Yet, even the best gardener understands not every seed planted germinates and even the ones that do can become infested by disease or pestulance.

Another reason I think we FALL out of love is: as the young love goes through its discovery phase it learns more about the other they may find incompatible with their notion of the future and love itself. And, as we negotiate the art of compromise, which is necessary in all relationships, we decide what is right for ourselves. And, sometimes--to our surprise--we find that the other has already done so for us.

I have never felt childish for having loved. No, in fact I feel blessed to have loved and been loved. And, I look forward my next love and will apply all that I've learned from my past experience to that... Next love. I will embrace it if I am lucky enough that it discovers me.

Now, what I'd like to know is what makes people fall in love, and why is it called both falling in love and conversely falling out of love?

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
3/25/2006 7:57 am

I think you fall in love with the unknown and what you imagine the person to be like. You fall out of love when you realize how they really are

Purry {=}


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