Married..or not?  

Elegant_N_Nasty 50F
586 posts
3/14/2006 7:57 pm

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Married..or not?

I get alot of replies from married men. My rule is... no married men...PERIOD! I have been on both ends of the stick...I have been cheated on..and I have been the other woman. Either way you look at it... no one really wins.

Now.. let me tell you about some issues that have come up both past and present, involving married men.

I have had MANY relationships over the years with other married men,when I too was married. Seems like that makes it ok if you both are in the same shoe,so to speak. I met a man years ago who was married.. I was married.. and we matched perfectly. I met him at a bar with my mother-in-law in tow..LOL I seen him coming over and I cringed at the thought of this man. He was short 5'7 maybe... curly hair and glasses. He was 45 at that time. Trust me not much to look at. So when he offered to by me a drink I refused. He was persistant. I left and went to the ladies room telling my mother-in-law when I get back...we are so out of here. When I returned he had bought me a single red rose.. I told him no thanks...I hate red roses. (whick I do) He begged me to dance..I explained that I have two left feet and again I am not interested. This man just refused to give up. We shared several drinks and finally I attempted to dance with him. After a few minutes of torcher I went to the ladies room again and when I returned ...ha ha ha... he had bought all the roses the lady had and had them waiting for me. He said.. look NO red roses. Ha ha ha, yep not a one. I laughed and knew at that moment he was genuine and treated as the unigue individual that I am. I left with him that night.. later I went to work for him and we shared the most incredible sex life. It was UNREAL. He made me who I am today! I was so niave back then (12 yrs ago). He bought me sex toys..we went on day trip together and had sex anywhere and everywhere we wanted. He gave me my first first and only experience with another woman. He was a perfect fit for me. We loved each other.. but knew things would never be more. I divorced in the early stanges of our relationship..but to this day he is still married. I am sure...still teaching other women how to open up and explore their wildest desires. He and I have not seen each other in over 10 yrs. We split over buiness... and I never looked back. I think of him often.. but not that I miss the man. But I think of what he brought to my life...and for that "John" I will always Thank you!

Then there was a man that I met here of AdultFriendFinder one year ago this month. I lived in San Antonio.. and he lives near Austin. I was married..but seperated and had already filed for divorce. He was married.. and all his kids were grown and on their own except two girls ages 20 and 22. Yes, he was 46 at the time. We emailed and shared pictures before meeting for sex...yep we knew it was sex only. But, fate stepped in and we fell in love. I finalized my divorce..he filed for his and we planned a life together. From the first kiss to the last kiss...he rocked my world. He was my first love. Three marriages and three divorces... and then I find true love. His eyes made me weak in the knees..his kisses took my breath away and this man performed oral like no other. WOW... he was my soul mate. But..after 3 days of moving into our new home.. he decided to go home. He loved the kids and they struggled with the divorce. So..he choice them. I fully understand...but I was left devestated. I decided then to start a new life here in OKLAHOMA. My daughter was expecting my first grandchild so timing was great. We do not stay in touch.. but I look at what he brought into my life and I am thankful! His wife is very lucky...and she takes advantage of it. But, I wish them well.

So.. after those experiences you'd think I would swear off all married men. YEP, I did!

But.. when I took the position at the company I am with there is a man there that I got to know well. He is awesome... short but so damn cute. Ha Ha. We flirt all the time and know how much we want to fuck each others heads off. But, he is married. I want to but, I just won't do it. He is the kind that wants to... but would have huge regrets when it is over. So... we play close enough to the fire to stay warm...but never so close we get burned.

And.. on here there are a couple men who tempt me. Yep...they are married too. But.. I look back at my past relationships with married men and over all they were priceless and so rewarding. I? Don't I? Oh gosh... One I really want to play with.. and you know who you are. He tempts me so much! Heaven help me....LOL I don't know if I can say no much longer.

I understand married men can not give me lasting love that I seek.... but, maybe it is ok to have a relationship with him til the ONE comes along. As long as he knows.. I am the other woman.. and I am still seeking the ONE.

But,what a double standard that is. I would and have been devestated when I found out that my husband was cheating. So.why bring that to another woman. We all find out in the long run. NO secret last for ever.

So.. do I hold strong and resist temptation.. or do I get involved with a married man?

Hummm... real life issues never end with they? LOL

I want someone I can wake up with occassionally..or maybe full time. I know that won't happen with a married man. But..then again.. I like my independence... so a married man might give me the love and intimacy I desire with out the hassel of a full time man in my everyday life.

Hummm hummmm hummm...

I am off to bed to think about this more.

PS... for inquiring minds... No I did not make it to Christie's today..but it is still on my list of to do things.

Night night!!!!

greatguyintul 56M
2102 posts
3/14/2006 8:41 pm

You know, we put our hearts out here on our blogs. I do it really just to vent a little. I do realize that I'm putting myself out there for anyone and everyone to read, after all, we are real people with real feelings and real hearts. We are all looking for that special someone to share life with; the passionate days and nights, to laugh and cry with. Someone whose voice alone can arouse us, thrill us, make our hearts skip a beat or two with anticipation of what the afternoon, night and future will bring once we see each other. We look for someone to thrill us in and out of the bedroom, someone who will absolutely blow us away mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually. Someone who makes our heart race just by thinking about them.

Where am I going with this? I have no idea. I like reading your blog as it represents your real, daily life. I put things on mine that I feel in my heart in the hopes that someone may see it. Our blogs show everyone, strangers and all, that we are real people.

Talk about PASSION, ROMANCE and EROTIC... CLICK HERE: greatguyintul

timberwolf6972 45M

3/15/2006 2:57 am

I not too interested in married women. I have been with them before but most times it ended in alot of drama that I could have done without. Come visit my blog sometime. {=}

rm_bigfiddy50 49M

3/15/2006 5:12 am

Not being married is a hard and fast rule for me as well. Not so much for the legal aspect but to me it's just wrong. Plus you open yourself up to all kids of possibly scary situations doing so.

Elegant_N_Nasty 50F

3/15/2006 6:54 am

Yep.. you guys are right! It really does open the doors for ALOT of drama!

LinesBitesColor 57M
1 post
4/6/2006 3:09 pm

In my experience any relationship can open the door to alot of drama. Having been single , married, as well as with single and married there was always some drama involved. Interestingly enough I have larely found married to be safer and more stable. Having said that I do understand your dilema and can relate to your past experience. Keep blogging I really enjoyed reading it and who knows maybe one day one of us will figure it all out

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