Letting go...  

Elegant_N_Nasty 50F
586 posts
8/21/2006 7:55 pm

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8/29/2006 5:33 pm

Letting go...

Today when I was thinking... this one thought came into my head.

"Sometimes letting go means holding on to something you want more!"

I have shared alot with all of you.. most responses have been positive. So.. I will share again what my thoughts are today.

As much as we all know what I think I want... you know, "The ONE"! The bigger question is...what will I do with him IF I get him?

Yes... I know what to do with him sexually! That is the least of my concerns. But,what about the rest? You know.. everyday stuff that is in a relationship... sharing.. caring.. trust... love.. and all of that stuff. What about that?

What if I can't do those things? I got the fucking down pat... I can assure you that is not the problem.

So... with this line of thinking...this thought came to mind. "Sometimes letting go means holding on to something you want more!"

I have held on tight to my privacy...my independence and my space. If I get involved with someone... that means I have to give that up. No more sleeping in the "WHOLE" bed.. all over it wrapped up in the covers...tossing turning...whatever. If there is a HE involved...then I have to get on one side and stay there. Hummmm.... And what about sharing? Well again I have grown acustom to having things my way..my way is what works best for me. LOL Trust..wow that is a big one. After all we have read that a year ago I had my heart broken... and trust is something that comes hard for me. I am not worried about the man in my life cheating...hell if he does...he does. But, don't think for a moment I won't pay him back in TRIPLES! Then there is the "L" word. Yep... I am not sure I can even say it.... much less feel it again. I had it ONCE! Yep...just once! It was awesome and so priceless. All the money in the world could never bring me the happiness I felt when I was in LOVE! Oh how I wish I could feel that again. But.. what if it only comes ONCE in a lifetime. Think about it... look at your life...flip back a few chapters in your life and think about when you were in love... real LOVE. When you lost it.... be honest...have you ever found LOVE like that again? If you did...PLEASE tell me about it. I need the inspiration.

So.... again, with all of that... my thought lingered. "Sometimes letting go means holding on to something you want more!"

What does it mean? Well... to me it means if you really want something... you have to let go of whatever is holding you back. Once you do... the world is your oyster!! Or... HE... you know "The ONE" can really be yours...right?

How do we really know when we find "The ONE"? How do we know our clit or cock is not thinking this shit up...LOL? That hot body,ice rack or huge cock has blurred our hearts vision... And the price for that can be costly.

So.............now what?

Your guess is as good as mine!!!



greatguyintul 56M
2102 posts
8/22/2006 8:40 am

You got that right...... I wonder about sharing a bed, too. It has been so long. The only thing I can think about is "if" we ever find that someone that we BOTH sleep in the middle! You do bring up lots of good points, Barb. Who knows....... I wonder if I have ever felt love. My 23 year marriage was pretty much a one way relationship; I nearly killed myself, gees, hundreds if not thousands of times. In hindsight she had journals, stacks of spiral notebooks filled with how much she hated me; what a jerk I was, on and on and on. And I worked how many jobs at once paying for everything so she could stay home in a nice house with the kids? And for the last 3 years of our marriage I drove 550 miles EACH WAY NEARLY EVERY WEEKEND (over 1100 miles every weekend) to be with her? And how many times while I was driving did she call to ask if I was ok, awake, alive, anything? 3 times, maybe. And after I was in a car accident on Friday; knee surgery and 2 nights in the hospital she didn't want to come get me because she didn;t want to miss her nursing school class on MONDAY that I was working 4 jobs at one time to pay for? I wonder if I have ever felt what it's like to even be wanted, let alone loved. Tell me what it's like, ok? Have a great day! Ray

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coolcat74740 44M

8/22/2006 2:44 pm

I am still trying to figure out if you actually have one person in mind or just dreaming of any person in generall,,,,One thing is for sure though you can't make it through life and Love without getting hurt so if you don't take chances you won't get anywhere!!!


TseranWyrm 43M
14 posts
8/29/2006 9:21 am

Hmmm....I wonder if that situation is not another cyclic logic one like the one I keep getting quoted by my friends. That quote I keep getting is "You will find love when you stop looking." Its amazing that the people who have found it can keep saying these things, making it sound so simple, when it is not. After all, if I stop looking, am I not just changing the way that I am looking? Since not looking will net a result, is not looking just another form of looking? And if that is true, can you truely stop looking, knowing that you will find it when you stop looking?

I think the answer to both the statements really lies within yourself. It really boils down to are you comfortable with yourself. If you are, then no matter what anyone else does, you are still happy. If they run off, hang out with friends, some of which may be of the opposite gender, if you are happy with yourself, then it won't matter, because your signifgant other will come home and find a happy person, and know that no matter where they go, a happy person is waiting for them when they return. With mine, it is more of a matter of knowing that I am happy with who I am being something that is more attractive to others. That, and looking smacks a bit of desparation, which is not always the most attractive thing. However, that all can depend on the situation, since someone who is desparate to do something naughty can be downright exciting. *whistles innocently*

As for finding "The One" (and we're not talking Neo here) that is something only each person can answer for themselves. Its more then a matter of just clicking. It is a matter of feeling so completely at ease with the other person that you know nothing can go wrong. But how can we distinguish this feeling from the times we delude ourselves into believing we are feeling it? If I knew the answer to that, I wouldn't be single myself. I wish I could help more, but sadly, I feel part of it is a personal journey that we each must take. No one can tell you the path, but friends are more then welcome to come along with you.


notwrongnow 60M

8/29/2006 4:18 pm

[Well I have had those same thoughts and what it means is how close you hold onto what is dear to you and your right if you choose to let that other someone in you need to make sure they are accepting your thoughts and ideas as much as you are thiers and I'm like you about the L word it may never be the same again I have tried several times and still haven't found it to be the same ever again and so have about given up on that thought although I am still open to the frieght train running me over unexpectedly and someone jumping out at me whoooo wish it would hurry though LOL.


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