Question: Propositioning someone for sex  

Eehaore 57M
9 posts
3/31/2005 6:19 am

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Question: Propositioning someone for sex

Who would you feel comfortable or uncomfortable with in propositioning someone for sex, and how would you do it?

If you're married, would you proposition a co-worker for sex, your spouses friend, a mutual friend? How would you handle it if that person rejected you, or was offended by the advance?

If your single, would you proposition a married co-worker for sex, a married friends spouse, or a married friend? How would you handle it if that person rejected you, or was offended by the advance?

Or detail any other person you would proposition for sex, where an element of risk, either an uncomfortable position if that person was offended or rejected you, or if revealed you could get in trouble with a spouse or a close friend.

Being married myself, asking a co-worker or a friend carries a great risk. I have lots of co-workers I'd love to proposition but so far have not had the courage or fortitude to take the risk. I flirt as far as I can, but I don't consider myself a good reader of others so, I hint around, but have never out-and-out propositioned.

I think it would be really uncomfortable in the work environment, if that person were offended or rejected a proposition. It would be hard to face that person, or wonder if that person had shared the proposition with co-workers in a "watch out for that guy" kind of way.

Would love to hear about real experiences, opinions, or views on this subject. Please comment.

rm_pinkteddy69 44F

3/31/2005 2:42 pm

You ask a good question. A subject I've pondered for 3 yrs now. The reason? My husband has a best friend who's single (0nly girlfriends). He's flirted with me in front of my husband, and my husband plays along. I know if I took my husbands best friend up on his offer, My husband would go bolistic. His best friend is also his boss. They were best friends before he became his boss. I have to say, it's very tempting to take him up on his offer, because I am attracted to him, but I don't want to risk my marriage, my husbands friendship with this man, or his job.
It's something, I've hinted at to my husband. Like having both of them do me at the same time. He likes the idea, but is affraid it would cause problems between us all.

keithcancook 61M
18138 posts
3/31/2005 4:51 pm

you gave good reasons why NOT to mess around at work.

Eehaore 57M
3 posts
4/1/2005 11:59 am

Wow, Pinkteddy, you've got a real twister there. You've tied almost all my concerns up into one real-life situation. I'd have to say based on your pic, I'd flirt with you too! You've got a lot to risk, especially if for any reason one or the other relationship goes south. Let me know if one or more of you tries to push forward on anything.

rm_pinkteddy69 44F

4/12/2005 11:01 am

Thank you for the compliment. The best friend still keeps hinting watching my husband and I go at it, or me and him going at it.In fact, my husband pulled my shirt down at the collar to show him my cleavage. My husband say that type of stuff turns him on. You know, showing his friend my goods. He says that's as far as he'll take it. His friend also is always saying something to both of us about me and him getting it on. Of course hubby just laughs. Hubby says he couldn't actually go through with it. He thinks his friend is just running his mouth, but I know better. I can tell when a man desires a woman. I just do not know what to do.

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