Why Do Some Women Hate Performing Oral Sex?  

EbonyHnk 38M
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5/3/2006 1:25 am

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5/5/2006 12:56 am

Why Do Some Women Hate Performing Oral Sex?

What does a man love more than a cold beer on a hot day? Drinking a cold beer on a hot day while his woman sexually gratifies him by kneeling down, and wrapping her hot mouth around his member (complete with ice cube).

But alas, many men write in to complain that their women can't stand the mere thought of getting on their knees to get better acquainted with their love tool. Men can try everything from showering constantly to dressing their penis up with a blue cape that has a big "S" on it to get her to make the journey, but to no avail.

Why do some women abhor oral sex? What disgusts them so much when it comes to fellating their men? And if the mere sight of a penis does not disgust them, then what's the problem? Well, there are many possibilities and I will venture down some of the boulevards of oral sex. Join me.

don't disrespect me

While some women have no problem letting you kneel down and pleasure them until the orgasms come home, they may become somewhat upset when you make a request that they reciprocate such pleasure.

Even nowadays, some women find the idea of getting on their knees and the like degrading because they feel as though they are submitting. And although you may not think of it that way whatsoever, she might be afraid that you do.

What can you do?

As a lot of people engage in sex nowadays without fully knowing each other, she may simply feel uncomfortable. Your responsibility lies in ensuring her comfort and making her want to furnish you with such pleasure. It may take some time, but all flourishing relationships need time to become great.

yuk, it's gross

Some women are simply not interested in tasting what your penis has to offer. It's not so much that you taste horrible, but you have to admit that it is an acquired taste for most, even you are sometimes iffy about kneeling down to greet her garden. And how many guys enjoy the idea of tasting their own semen?

The thing is, a lot of women are taught that only bad girls perform these sexual acts and thus ignorance kicks in. Only once they allow themselves to delve into the depths of sexual exploration can they truly enjoy giving you oral sex as much as you take pleasure in receiving it.

Unfortunately, some women get it in their heads that oral sex is repulsive instead of viewing it as a turn-on for both of you. It could stem from a religious notion or, as I mentioned before, a moral issue; "good girls don't kneel."

What can you do?

Communicate with your woman; discuss what bothers her so much about it. Try to understand her issues. And hey, ensuring that you smell great whenever you're about to engage in sex of any kind is also very important if you want her to even consider the possibility of getting down on it.

Maybe she's not sure what she should do down there

fools rush in

Just as some men make their way down on women and haven't a clue what they're supposed to be doing, many women, upon journeying down south, find themselves in the same predicament.

They're embarrassed and don't want to make fools of themselves. As well, they want to ensure that you enjoy yourself and don't think to yourself, What the hell is she doing down there?

What's even worse is that after all the horror stories women have heard about how sensitive the testicles and penis are, a lot of ladies are afraid that they may end up "breaking" something. They don't realize that they can be creative, and use their hands and mouth to explore the possibilities without leaving any bruises.

What can you do?

What you can do is be vocal; if you like what she's doing, make some noise. As well, you can whisper what you'd like her to do to you, that way she'll begin to understand what floats your boat and with time, she can begin to add her own little twists and turns to the game.

having sex with her mouth

What often happens is that a lot of men, because they masturbated frequently as boys, end up opting to engage in fast-paced sex and can only enjoy oral sex if it's done fast as well. No woman to date has admitted to enjoying having her mouth used as a saliva-based sex hole. Slow down.

Although rough and aggressive sex is nice at times, oral sex should be a loving experience rather than an obligation or chore. If she knew that you'd like it more if she would lick your penis and massage it with her mouth rather than bob up and down like a hungry chicken, perhaps she'd be keener on the idea of oral sex.

What can you do?

Sex should be something that you take your time with. Let her explore your body; give her an incentive by acquiring the more sensual aspects of lovemaking and she will be more than glad to give you what you want. And best of all, she'll want it too.

speak, listen, learn

Things are not always black and white and there may be a lot more reasons as to why some women don't like the idea of performing oral sex on their mates. The only way you will ever find out is through communicating with her.

Maybe she wants to try it, but is afraid that if she makes the move, you'll think less of her. Perhaps she's had a bad experience and needs to open up about it before she can move ahead (no pun intended).

What can you do?

You can hint at what you want by introducing your finger to her mouth and letting her suck on it; that on its own is an erotic experience if you're able to let your imagination run wild. Slowly, she may become more comfortable with the idea and the both of you can enjoy a sensuous experience for years to come (there I go again).

Before you know it, your woman will be blowing you away nightly.

MissKittyNip26 107F

5/4/2006 6:39 pm

LOL.. this is GREAT stuff! You need an advice column/show.. for real. My roommate falls in the "yuk, it's gross" category.. poor thing never gets a repeat sexual partner.

EbonyHnk 38M

5/5/2006 12:56 am

MissKittyNip26 - LOL. Well send this link - could be an eye opener ! Thanks for reading.

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