Reasons Why Women Reject Men  

EbonyHnk 38M
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8/15/2006 9:18 am
Reasons Why Women Reject Men


You're the man -- you've finally worked up the nerve to ask out your potential Miss Right.

And there she is, right over there. It's now or never.

You take a step in her direction...

...and suddenly your pits are dripping like springtime in a rain forest, your heart is flip-flopping like a dying fish and your stomach is churning out enough acid to melt steel.

Chill, dude. You know you can't back down now.

You drag your feet to her side. From somewhere, you hear yourself asking those fateful words: "Would you like to go out sometime?"

"No."

What?

She said, "No."

You trudge away, eyes on the floor, praying that no one has witnessed your public humiliation.

Rejection sucks.

Unfortunately, despite all the shrill female demands in our society for "equal rights," the burden of asking for the date still sits squarely on the shoulders of the male. It still remains the guy's responsibility to risk getting his ego smashed if he wants to interact with the opposite sex.

And sexual rejection by a woman hurts -- it's almost impossible not to feel like a failure as a man when a woman turns you down for a date.

why do women reject us?

There can be a myriad of reasons, and not all of them have to be your fault (although some guys do tend to screw up in this department). Let's take a look at a few of them.

1- She's a bitch
Contemporary society is awash in rude, self-centered, man-hating Sex and the City clones who care only about themselves and have absolutely no conscience about men's feelings (or the feelings of other women, for that matter). Their attitude is: I have a million-dollar sexual price tag and any man is going to have to bow and scrape and pay dearly to gain access to it. These are the women who will try to emasculate you when you ask them out (if you don't have something they can sex-ploit), who get off on making men squirm, and who flagrantly abuse their sexual power.

2- You don't have the goods
Since money is the No. 1 consideration a woman weighs when choosing which men to date, if you don't have it or don't look like you have it, then you're just not going to be on the top of her list. Until we refuse to pay for female attention, women are going to keep getting away with this kind of sex-tortion.

She's taken, she's playing you or she's just plain old crazy..

3- She's taken
Since it's so easy for a woman to get sex (all she has to do is ask), she may simply be out of the market. She may have a lover, a steady boyfriend, or be married. If these women are nice, they'll be upfront about their situation; if they're professional ball-busters, they'll manipulate you without mercy. So it's always best to do your homework before laying your ego on the line -- this way you can save yourself a lot of humiliation and embarrassment.

4- She's a player
In other words, she's a serial flirter. A lot of married women or women with low self-esteem fall into this category -- they constantly need to be assured that they're still attractive to men, and so will ooze up to any guy who comes close just to get his reaction. They have no interest in dating you -- just in getting you turned on and then walking away. This is another flagrant abuse of female sexual power over men.

5- She's a psycho
A lot of women out there have chosen "bad boys" or have, for psychological reasons, been involved in disastrous relationships and now blame men for all the problems of their own making. Some of them have dropped out of the dating pool altogether or have been repeatedly abandoned by men because of their chaotic behavior. They will reject you just because you're one of "them."

6- You've got the wrong moves
If you "Hey, baby" her while snaking an unctuous arm around her shoulders, leer at her or keep calling her when she's clearly not interested, then you're just a creepy pest, and you'll have about as much chance of sleeping with her as a eunuch does.

7- Bad timing
If a woman turns you down, you may have run head-on into some bizarre phase of her monthly cycle in which all men are bad, or she's feeling unattractive, or any of a thousand other hormone-based reactions to the dating world. You could run into her a couple of days from now and get a complete green light.

8- She's been hurt
Any time you hear, "I'm taking a break from dating," or, "I need some time to get my life together," when you ask a woman out, it usually means that she's just come out of a bad relationship and is not yet interested in jumping into a new one. With this sort of damaged woman, it's best to aim for friendship or wait a while for her to straighten herself out before trying again.

9- You're a geek
In other words, you have no sexual confidence whatsoever and you melt like ice cream in July whenever she gets within 10 feet of you. You don't have to be James Bond, but if you can't even get a sentence out around her without stammering, then there's no way she's going to accept a date with you. You will be instantly relegated to "friend" status, if that.

10- She's just not attracted to you
Simple as that. It happens and there's nothing you can do about it. It's best to just pick up the pieces and move on.

accept rejection & move on

So there you are -- a sampling of reasons why a woman will reject you. Some things you can change (your own behavior) and some you can't (hers). Even though it's very hard not to take it personally, the best advice is just to chalk it up to experience, learn from it and keep swinging for the fences.



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